Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

Tv not rv! My iPad changed that four times to other abbreviations- I thought I'd caught it, but obviously hadn't! A rv could work though!

but being bored at a wedding doesn't mean you don't care about someone!

Its no fun hanging around while the bride does a picture in 18 different locations around the venue, no matter how much you like them....that's exactly it in fact. If I really like the bride I'd want to spend some jeffing time with them...which isn't something that tends to happen at weddings.

Honestly, I think its more to the point that people who organise big massive formal weddings must not like their guests very much....

I had a significant birthday party (all day event) that fell on the day England won the Ashes in 2005. We had the tv on so anyone that wanted to could watch and anyone who didn’t care could hang out elsewhere. The party was fabulous and the cricket made it even more so for many of us. It didn’t spoil the party for those that had no interest. The cricket match went on a lot longer than a football World Cup match too!

Yy scribble. I'd probably not be bringing VAWG up as a stick to beat football with if I were a rugby fan, given recent events.

She needs to embrace the fact that England are playing and make it part of her day.

NOT EVERYONE LOVES FOOTBALL!

I can't believe anyone expects the bride to allow guests to spoil her wedding day by watching football. If they are real friends, celebrating her special day must surely be more important than football? Utterly selfish.

I think it's a tough one. Each part of a wedding is so expensive and she may have paid for a specific band or part of the venue when the game is on which will now be wasted on half of the guests. For instance we have a quartet playing through the welcome drinks and have hired extra space for this part of the day at a total of about 2.5k so I'd be very upset if something detracted from this for 2 hours. But at the same time you can't force people to care or partake in your day. I'd put it on in a separate room well away from my wedding and refreshments and people can choose what they preferred to do. But I wouldn't rearrange my day around it so if food/drink was missed then so be it!

I had a relative that got married during Euro 96 when England were playing. She had the same attitude as your friend, but people kept "going to the bar", popping in & out & and watching the match anyway. She says now that she wishes she'd just embraced it, as she was stressed and unhappy on the day for nothing.

I feel sorry for her, to be honest. She must feel like her wedding has been hijacked by the football.

The sensible thing to do would be to embrace it and show it. People will remember it as a really fun wedding. It doesn't sound like she's going to do that though.

And I certainly would never have thought to check sports fixtures. My DH definitely would have said something though!

"She needs to embrace the fact that England are playing and make it part of her day."

Does she fuck!

So people who accepted & now want to watch the football.

Why did they accept?

Because they forgot about the world cup?

Because they thought that England would be out?

The idea that standing around chit chatting during eg photos or canapes without the bride somehow shows greater commitment to friendship with the couple than following the match online at this time, again without the bride, is deeply bemusing. Unless the couple are having a tiny wedding they'll spend very little time with each individual guest, and it will make zero difference to them what the guests are talking about when they're not with them.

If you were truly a massive football fan, you’d have turned down the invite as you should have known this would be on (going by other posters logic that the bride and groom shouldn’t have picked this sat).

If you’ve accepted the invite, you should go and give the bride and groom your full attention for the day, irrespective of whether they decide to show the game or not. Dropping out at the last minute or sneaking off during the event to watch something else is the height of rudeness. You’ve made a prior commitment, honour it.

I still remember how devastated I was when no one turned up for my 21st birthday party at uni (and I’d only spent £50 on food and drink compared to however much for a wedding) - it’s horrendous, please don’t do that to people. If you’ve accepted the invite then you go.

Imagine if this was a funeral and a wake we were talking about? Have some respect for your friends / family either way.

It's a strange world when "allowing" guests to enjoy themselves spoils the hosts day

I don't understand the big bloody deal about football. There are so many sports, why does this one occupy some sort of venerated position in the minds of some people ? Personally, if anyone was bleating about a football match clashing with my wedding they could jog on - totally their issue, no reason for me to pander to it. Most sane people that I know really couldn't give a toot about the whole thing.

World Cups are like Royal Weddings: ' the nation' is meant to be on the edge of its seats, but most people really don't care.

I am on the fence here.

I am loving this amazing World Cup, and would not want to miss the quarter final.

If it were my wedding, I think I would try and show it. But if you were getting married at 3pm when the match starts, then that is awkward.

If I were to book a wedding, I would try and make sure there was nothing major going on during that week or month (like Olympics or World Cup or Euro Cup.)

A neighbour of mine had her sister get married on the same day as Meghan and Harry, (she booked it 12 months ago,) and she was proper pissed off when M & H picked the same date. #awkward!

If I was the bride, I would show the footie.

But she is within her rights to say no.

She shouldn't be shocked though, if people don't come.

I feel for her. The match is 90 mins not including the interval, extra time, maybe another half hour tie break and then possibly penalties. Then all the post match chit chat and replays. That could take up to 3 hours out of her wedding day. The groom will probably be leading the charge to watch it too. And if England lose they will probably all be miserable and moaning!

@TheNavigator

World Cups are like Royal Weddings: ' the nation' is meant to be on the edge of its seats, but most people really don't care.

You could literally not be more wrong. YOU don't care about the World Cup/England playing. Most people do.

I hate football, it bores me to tears but I would show it to be a good host. It obviously means a lot to people and it’s not some random game is it.

I think she’s going to be v disappointed when people don’t turn up!

It's daft to pretend it's not happening. England are doing well and there's a really positive vibe so interest is unusually high. If she can accommodate it in, that would be best.

It depends on the timings and venues. My wedding was the start of the football season so nothing critical, but a 2pm church (with 12pm wedding preceeding) then travel to the reception would have taken up most of the match. Probably too late notice to rearrange the church, and a 10 am service would have been very early to guests travelling and left a massive hole in the day. Some venues may not have space to split off for viewing.

If it is practical to accommodate the match, she needs to consider other guests. I once flew to Ireland for an extended family wedding and it turned out to be some critical match for one of the local sports. Those of us not in the bar watching whatever sport it was ended up loitering for hours in the hotel lounge in the middle of nowhere, ravenously hungry. The ceremony was 12pm and the wedding breakfast after 8pm and only a couple of biscuits provided. With travel time, the latest we ate was 10:30 and the sandwiches in the car went quickly after finishing at the church. There wasn't clear information that allowed us to seek comfort several miles away in the nearest town and the hotel was so pricey that few guests stayed there.
A memorable wedding... not for the right reasons. Not so much that the match was catered for in itself, but poor communication and neglect of guests (pretty galling when it's cost £££ in travel and time to go). If we were told that nothing was happening for hours, we could have looked after ourselves.

That's unrealistic lockheart. As I said a few posts ago, the odds of anyone being able to turn down eg a siblings wedding invite (without causing a family rumpus) because the world cup will be on at the same time and you don't want to risk a clash are minimal. Fair enough if you're a neighbour or old colleague etc but the reality is that sometimes offers can't be refused.

I would absolutely show it. I can’t imagine this conversation even happening in somewhere like Brazil. It’s the World Cup—the biggest sporting and televised event on the planet, not a local derby match.

I'd get annoyed about people messaging me about it but I think it would be quite fun as long as it wasn't during the actual ceremony. Plus my husband would be watching it so we'd might as well put on a big screen anyways.

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I got married over twenty years ago, so before you could find out things easily online, we planned the wedding over two years in advance and I knew it would be a World Cup year. We spent a few days phoning round trying to find out when the tournament started and finished so we could avoid a clash. If it had been two years later I would have done the same to avoid the Euro's too.
In our family I am the football fan, DH has no interest in it whatsoever.

People have their priorities seriously fucked if a bunch of blokes they don't know kicking a ball around for 90 minutes or so is more important to them them the wedding of family or good friends.

Great post M3lon!

Utterly rude of people. I hate football with a passion, there is no way on earth I would subject myself to it in my wedding day. If people would rather watch it then find. Stay at home.