Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

I wouldn't like it either OP.

Ask her if she would dye her hair back, if she says no then you have two options either say she will no longer be required as a bridesmaid but she can remain as a guest that way you have some control for the photos, or you can present her with a wig in her natural colour and say there you go wear this, but I agree with you it’s a shit thing to do and she knew exactly what she was doing.

It's not just about the photos it's more about the principle

What principle? You can't dye your hair a colour that the bride doesn't like? WTF?

I can already picture pinkies thread

"AIBU - bridezilla demanding I dye my hair for her wedding!!"

Why is everyone being so mean to OP? She is not a Bridezilla! A Bridezilla would insist that bridesmaids all dye their hair pink! Bridesmaids and guest should respect the couple, and go along with anything reasonable.

At best it's a thoughtless thing to do just before the wedding. Couldn't she have waited a week? At worst it is deliberate attention seeking. Either way, she's going to take attention away from the Bride which, potentially, will wreck the day. Which, if you are a friend, you do not do.

Bridesmaids and guest should respect the couple, and go along with anything reasonable.

She dyed her hair pink. She didn't get a face tattoo saying "Devil's Bitch".

but i don't think it came from a genuine desire to have pink hair

No shit 😂

Again, they're saying to photoshop the pictures if it bothers you that much.

I think the line of what is reasonable falls before asking someone to change their hair colour.

What's the principle?

Devils Bitch 😂😂😂

@aquamineral don't stick with someone you don't fancy at 25. Don't have a baby with him. Go and find someone you'll want to shag at 45 and 55 and 65 and 75.

Next time start your own thread though

OP your title implies you had already asked her to dye it back and she’s had refused. But later you say you’ve just texted to ask her. Which is it?

Do we have a new term now - bridesmaidzilla?

Nobody will care.

Banning her from the wedding or making her dye it again will only bring attention to the issue and it will be the main topic of conversation at your wedding. People love drama. So this is a terrible idea.

Ensure there are plenty of lovely photos that don't include your bridesmaids if it bothers you that much.

Enjoy your day and stop worrying about what it looks like.

@Jaxhog because the colour of a bridesmaids hair does not matter unless you are a bridezilla. I could not have cared less if one of my bridesmaids had dyed their hair flipping polka dot!

If BM already had pink hair 6 months ago would OP be asking her to dye her hair neutral for the wedding?? So why should she be demanding it now?

The principle is having the consideration to wait a week until after one of your closest friends wedding to dye your hair bright pink.

It doesn't even suit her tbh

Im actually confused at the title and the first post.

Like have you actually asked her and she said no?

OP I have had bright pink hair in the past but I am 100% with you on this one. A drastic style change that will clash with the bridesmaids' dresses and stick out like a sore thumb in the photos is really unfair on you. Don't know how you are going to be able to handle this without falling out with her though.

I brought it up before but she kind of didn't really get what i was trying to say because i didn't want to upset her...

but i don't think it came from a genuine desire to have pink hair

No shit 😂

I'm LOVING this thread!

The principle is having the consideration to wait a week until after one of your closest friends wedding to dye your hair bright pink

You don't own her!!!!

If this is what you think about one of your friends I dread to think what your bridesmaids have thought of you throughout the lead up to your wedding. This must be the tip of the iceberg?

@Jaxhog the guests are there to see the bride and groom!
The most they might think is 'oh bridesmaids hair is pink' before getting on with enjoying the day.

Guests won't be ignoring the bride purely because someone has dyed their hair.

Be interesting when the bridesmaid brings up 'oh I had to dye my hair back from pink to brunette because bride didn't like it'
Different type of attention for OP then.

I'm with you OP.

I'm not sure how having one of your bridesmaids "sticking out like a sore thumb" hurts you, to be honest. So she looks a bit funny in the pictures?

So?