Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

Get your photographer to edit it back to its normal colour if it’s bothering you so much. And order some photos in black and white. Job done.

Haven't read past the first page yet. What's someone's hair colour got to do with wedding vows? Nothing that's what. Who cares. She's a person not a doll. She can do what she likes.

If the OP had posted saying "My BM has dyed her hair pink just before my wedding, so it will clash with the dress. I don't really care that much about it, but she has a history of trying to undermine me, like announcing her pregnancy in my engagement party and calling her cat after my ex" she would have got much different answers.

But noooooo. She posted complaining that the BM will not dye her hair again.

Get the photographer to re touch all of the photos to make her hair brown again 😁.

Or ditch her. You were trying to make your bridesmaids look classy and she'll be a my little pony.

So why if it doesn't have any impact does it bother the bridesmaid to dye it back then?

Because she wants her hair to be pink. It’s pink, so dying it a different colour would be silly.

so she thought she would look nice for the wedding, how dare she

I know, right!

You were trying to make your bridesmaids look classy and she'll be a my little pony.

People are not accessories.

People are not accessories.

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Coordinating outfits.
Complimentary hair styles.
Appropriate jewellery.

I’m pretty sure bridesmaids are as close to a human accessory as you will ever get!

I'd be more bothered about someone with no make up and unbrushed air making a miserable face than their hair colour frankly!

I don’t get how, if you think it looks shit, it has undermined you or taken any of your limelight. If everyone thinks like you do, they’ll just go “oh she’s made herself look shit...” which makes you look better.

She can’t win, just let the girl have the hair she wants.

I'd be more bothered about someone with no make up and unbrushed air making a miserable face

How dare you try to dictate what make up they wear, or that they must brush their hair or... smile

So bloody oppressive.

She isn't your friend, OP, she really isn't. Use this to break free of her and her spite.

I’m just sitting here laughing at how few weddings I’d be invited to if my mates were as uptight as you lot

I’m pretty sure bridesmaids are as close to a human accessory as you will ever get!

Riiiiiiiiiiight.

Christ i really hate what weddings have become for so many people. When did that happen? When did weddings become this whole performance as if brides were being scored on every single aspect? People working themselves into an almighty frenzy over a few hours instead of just turning up and having the craic.

Those last photos of faded out pink hair are not nice. I think you had some great advice from snowsun upthread.

DistanceCall that’s was a hilarious post!

StepBack
Just refreshed the thread. I tend to agree with you. At the very least, not a respectful friend, more like a frenemy.

Those last photos of faded out pink hair are not nice
I agree. If you’re gonna do it keep it maintained and nice, not wishy washy, messy and rooty.

So bloody oppressive.
It's my inner bridezilla

Ditch the bridesmaid, they are so yesterday. Get a proper accessory.

I'm with you OP @elcarmen ! Very very selfish. Ignore the haters on here they're just bored and all the other threads are crap tonight!

Personally, I'd demote her to guest only unless she tones it down or wears it up. Then again, it's her that will look daft, not you! X

@MikeUniformMike enjoyed your comment.. haven't seen you in ages!

The ideal wedding party.

Reading back on your posts;

You feel she likes limelight and this is like her iyo.
You are unsurprised by this
You find it hard to tell her how you feel about things and be honest.

This whole pink hair thing aside, it does sound like you have bigger issues with your friend.

If i was you i would just concede. I wouldnt mention her hair anymore and if she made any comments i would ignore them as though her hair is disinteresting. If she wants attention then she won't have it and if she genuinely just wants pink hair then she will be happy.

Did you mean this DistanceCall