Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

So easy for those saying the OP is a dick and it's no business of hers if the bridesmaid has dyed her hair.

Bet you wouldn't so tolerant if this were you.

OP the friend is a twat.

She has replied to my text saying that she won't come to the wedding if I she has to have natural hair. I don't know what to do, she was so invested in helping me organise the wedding until this week!

I am going to tell her that she needs to be at the wedding regardless, but I am still annoyed that she doesn't even see any of this from my perspective.

So people will slag off my bridesmaids dresses but won't slag off my newly pink haired bridesmaid?

Yes because red bridesmaid dresses sound frumpy and dated and horrible but pastel pink hair is quite on-trend.

Some women look completely stunning with bright or pastel pink hair. In 2018, no-one looks good in a red bridesmaid dress.

OP YABU and it's pretty much unanimous. Your responses are hilarious, as the saying goes "if it smells like shit everywhere you go, check your shoes"

OP, I'd be unhappy too. I'm surprised so many people are saying they think it's OK

It's incredibly grim and vain to hold a 'festival of narcissism' to celebrate yourself, even if it is only once. I am very vain. My DH called it 'your wedding'. We've managed to be happily married for over 30 years though.

I’m with you OP and understand completely.

You’ll have to suck it up I guess, but I’m not sure my relationship would stay the same with her, if I were you.

this is the thing about weddings I never understand - some brides' desperate attempts for everything to be "perfect" and like some kind of vision. It makes no sense to me. Who cares if the bridesmaids have different hair or tattoos or whatever? surely you simply care about your friend? And want them there? If she'd always had pink hair, would you have excluded her on the basis that she wouldn't have worked in the pictures?

I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend, spent months helping with plans and getting dresses sorted. Spent a fortune on a pair of shoes! I got a tattoo on my arm and she decided it wouldn't look nice in the pictures so I wasn't bridesmaid anymore. I didn't go to the wedding at all. Don't be an arsehole.

I am going to tell her that she needs to be at the wedding regardless

LOL

@elcarmen she's still invested. The time and effort involved is still valid despite the colour of hair. You're coming across quite badly repeating how much she did and how involved she was and now basically none of that matters because of her pink hair.

Sorry if i've missed it by why would you uninvite her from the whole wedding rather than just from being a bridesmaid? Then she can have pink hair and wear a non clashing colour.

(I hadn't really thought about it till now but i was planning on having my blond tips dyed pink or lilac and i wear a lot of red, so i may rethink that now. I know - i'm dreadfully out of fashion and old)

It's funny when someone posts saying their MIL wants to wear a white dress to her sons wedding there's uproar on here! Everyone saying she mustn't and what an attention seeking bitch she must be.

No different here with pink haired woman but most of you seem to think she's perfectly ok.

Fickle much.

She has to be there?

I'm surprised your head'll fit through the venue doors.

My friend's sister refused to be a bridesmaid then turned up in her own wedding dress that had been slightly altered to include some colour detail. My friend shrugged it off as one of those things. Pink hair is nothing.

One of my bridesmaids was very pregnant at my wedding. My mother was horrified and said she should have stepped aside so it wouldn't look wrong. My mother was put right.

It's her wedding day. The world should revolve around her and her DH

My MIL to be died 1week before our wedding, another guest went into early labour on the way to the venue and my bridesmaid drunkenly got a huge henna tattoo the day before. I must remember to tell them all how rude they were

Telling people how to dress and how to look isn’t decent in my book. Ever.

I really want to be a fly on the wall if your DC’s teacher ever turns up to class naked one day and watch you being grimly “absolutely FINE” with that. Or if your boss invites you into their office to discuss your performance while they are naked. Or, you know, in a Weinstein-style towelling robe.

b) It never is only once with these types. Guaranteed they also have engagement announcements/parties, hen parties, baby showers, gender reveals, milestone birthday parties, anniversary parties, and probably vow renewals. In a few decades' time they'll be posting their entrance to the nursing home on the 2050s equivalent of Facebook, still hunting for likes.

Big assumption. The wedding day is "my" day. The one day I've been waiting for since a kid. I don't do birthdays (refused them since secondary school), I didn't do a gender reveal/baby shower etc. Anniversaries and vow renewal are something I never envision myself doing. I just want my one day.

@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross

Yes because prancing around naked is EXACTLY the same as dying your hair pink

Can we all get a little perspective here please. People all over the world are dying and your getting your knickers in a twist over you FRIENDS hair colour.

Time to get a grip.

How about take the stick out of your arse. Pink hair is cool. Your clearly ones of 'those' brides and I bet your wedding will be well boring and stuffy and stuck up.

Also you sound like my old teacher - she needs to dye her hair a natural colour, this isn't the 1950s.

I think you misunderstood what i meant when i said she has to be there.

What i meant was i'll be so sad if she doesn't come and i don't want it to come to that, I just thought that she could've waited until after the wedding to do this. I understand it's not the biggest issue in the universe but for some reason it just made me feel really crap...

Loving the comments about how unfashionable your bridesmaids dresses are. And hey you should just be happy about the bang on trend pink hair. But they’re not rude at all. 😂. See here for an example a whole array of unfashionable red bm dresses on sale right now.

On and hen/stag - nope. Not for me thanks.

doesn't even suit her tbh
I hope shes sees this thread and im glad she said what she did.
I wouldn't come to your wedding either.
Shocking.