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to send DD to creche/playschool in pyjama short set.

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qazxc · 01/07/2018 19:35

Today I popped to shops to get DD some shorts and t shirts. I hadn't planned on the weather being this warm for so long so didn't buy a load of hot weather wear.
I went to primark and they were out of their cheap shorts and low on t shirts in DD's size.
We went to the boys section (again no joy) where she spotted some short and t shirt pyjamas she liked. so i got her a couple of sets,thinking "well they are essentially shorts and t shirts, she can wear them".
We then went to DMIL, where DD showed off her stuff to DMIL and her DCousin.
This evening I have received texts from Dsil saying that I can't possibly send DD to school in them, that people will think she's neglected. I texted back explaining that they are shorts and t shirts (thinking she probably just been told pyjamas by her 5 yr old DD) and sent her a pic. She is still adamant that it is inappropriate in this country (I come from France) and made worse by the fact they are boys pyjamas.
She is a person who has strong opinions batshit crazy at times,but I'm starting to second guess myself.

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RhiWrites · 02/07/2018 07:22

@DinoSn0re why are you going so hard at Pengggwn who was not the only person to point out that suggesting high end brands is not helpful to OP who is clearly on a budget?

Was it because she said it was ‘smug’ to do so? Is that why you said it was ‘judgemental’ to be thoughtful of a prrson’s budget in making suggestions.

No one owes you an apology. Why can’t you just say “oops, didn’t notice that” instead of insisting you’re in the right? Then no one would think you were smug. Your comments about people who insist they can’t possible be wrong could be directed just as much at you.

DinoSn0re · 02/07/2018 07:26

Pengggwn

Nothing to get over, I’m just passing the night time hours of breastfeeding by pointing out that actually, the height of rudeness is to accuse others of unpleasant behaviour, such as being smug, when they were clearly actually trying to be pleasant and helpful based on the information they had.

Pengggwn · 02/07/2018 07:27

DinoSn0re

No, the height of rudeness is somewhat higher than that.

DinoSn0re · 02/07/2018 07:29

@RhiWrites

I was joking about the apology, I didn’t actually expect one Grin

DinoSn0re · 02/07/2018 07:31

Pengggwn

Well yes that’s true, if someone shat in my cornflakes this morning I might find that a tad ruder. With an explosive and unpredictable newborn, it’s perfectly possible that might happen.

Tumbleweed101 · 02/07/2018 07:33

I work in a nursery and children come wearing all sorts of things. It’s also pretty obvious if a child arrives in what they’ve slept in regardless of what the clothing is.

Anything they are comfortable in and can get wet and messy is all the staff will care about.

Pengggwn · 02/07/2018 07:37

DinoSn0re

Well, I hope that doesn't happen. It would just awful to end up covered in shitty cornflakes before the sun hits the yard arm.

Chilver · 02/07/2018 07:38

Those are absolutely fine! When my DD was in nursery she went through a phase of dressing herself - one classic was purple pyjama tshirt, red trousers, dressing gown... and swimming goggles!!! They stayed on all day and no-one batted an eyelid!

DinoSn0re · 02/07/2018 07:47

Pengggwn

Shitty cornflakes would not be the worst thing my children have done to me. Oh, the joys!

lucy101101 · 02/07/2018 07:58

Gosh they are fine! I think the 'matchy matchy' quality is what makes pyjama short sets look like nightwear. Perhaps swap the shorts around so they look more like separates...

Apehouse · 02/07/2018 08:01

I’d do it, as long as DD was happy with those clothes and nursery staff weren’t making funny comments. The point is for her to be decent, clean and comfortable. Job done.

DinoSn0re · 02/07/2018 08:04

I want to agree with whoever said that more expensive doesn’t = better quality though. My children have been given hand me downs of some (what I consider to be) obscenely expensive clothing and our stuff bought in the 25% off at Tu sales often outlasts it in terms of durability etc.

bookwormnerd · 02/07/2018 08:04

They are fine. Having worked with children in past I would not have battered an eye lid at those. If you are looking for any more cheap outfits h and m do cheap ones. There are shorts for £2.99 and t shirts for £2.99. If you ever want summer dresses they are £2.99 there to. Im sure we have used pyjamma tops before for son and daughter. My daughter would love those dinosaur ones

crispysausagerolls · 02/07/2018 08:19

I would never have known that these were pyjamas! They look comfortable and quite practical for nursery too

Sparklyfee · 02/07/2018 08:51

The second set looks like long sleeves and trousers so maybe a bit warm for this weather! And no, personally I wouldn't send my children out in PJs but it's your child so do what you like!

Ginnotginger · 02/07/2018 10:01

Dgs has a set of Paw Patrol pjs and a Paw Patrol shorts and t-shirt set damned if I can remember which is which.

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qazxc · 02/07/2018 11:02

UPDATE:
DD went in and immediately started showing off her "new clothes" to teacher. I told her about there being no cheap short in Primark and that they were technically pyjamas. The response was "oh don't worry they look great" , so they clearly thought I was on about the look of them as opposed to BTW I'm not a horrible neglectful mother.
A few of DD's classmates then came over to show off their clothes and I spotted a couple of tshirt/short combos with sweet dreams (or similar) logos, so I'm clearly not the only one sending her kid in pyjamas.

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Deadringer · 02/07/2018 11:21

They look fine to me. A lot of the t-shirt and shorts/leggings sets that my DD wears look like pyjamas anyway imo.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 02/07/2018 11:29

I would let her wear them as they don't obviously look like pjs. They will keep her cool in this hot weather which is the most important thing.
However I wouldn't send them in in obvious looking pjs as it looks a bit like they don't have anything else to wear.

drspouse · 02/07/2018 11:40

Primark girl's dress £8

Boden girl's dinosaur dress £12

Yes it is more but a) it's not £3 vs £30 and b) dresses usually last at least 2-3 years if not longer as they can be worn as tops once the child grows (and yes my DD grows). Plus you can sell them on.

FabricBug · 02/07/2018 12:04

My Dd's wear short pj sets in the summer eldest is nearly 10! Loads cheaper and funkier (sic?) than daytime shorts and t-shirts.

Love the brand snobbery 😂

Pengggwn · 02/07/2018 12:24

drspouse

JJMB t-shirt £10, Primark t-shirt £3.

Come on - be serious.

NotTakenUsername · 02/07/2018 12:26

drspouse 🤦‍♀️

So op should shop in Boden in the off chance of that one suitable bargain (plus p&p costs of £4!) instead of heading to Primark with lots of options within her price point?

Maybe she wouldn’t even like that dinosaur dress anyway, it’s quite garish.

More to life than Boden!

drspouse · 02/07/2018 12:32

If you want a dinosaur dress, that is one of the few places to buy them.
If you don't, don't shop there.
Usually loads of free delivery codes available.

NotTakenUsername · 02/07/2018 12:41

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