to send DD to creche/playschool in pyjama short set.

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Today I popped to shops to get DD some shorts and t shirts. I hadn't planned on the weather being this warm for so long so didn't buy a load of hot weather wear.
I went to primark and they were out of their cheap shorts and low on t shirts in DD's size.
We went to the boys section (again no joy) where she spotted some short and t shirt pyjamas she liked. so i got her a couple of sets,thinking "well they are essentially shorts and t shirts, she can wear them".
We then went to DMIL, where DD showed off her stuff to DMIL and her DCousin.
This evening I have received texts from Dsil saying that I can't possibly send DD to school in them, that people will think she's neglected. I texted back explaining that they are shorts and t shirts (thinking she probably just been told pyjamas by her 5 yr old DD) and sent her a pic. She is still adamant that it is inappropriate in this country (I come from France) and made worse by the fact they are boys pyjamas.
She is a person who has strong opinions batshit crazy at times,but I'm starting to second guess myself.

Used to send ds1 in things like this all the time to nursery, but would mix and match with other tops so less obvious.
If it worries you just explain it was easier to find lightweight shorts in pj sets than on the shelf...I remember this used to be a perennial problem with boys clothes. Also pj sets damn sight cheaper than one pair of shorts and less of an issue with regard to nursery mess.

They look 100% fine to me!

I sent my DD to nursery in Elsa short and tshirt pj's last week. I unpacked them from my order and hung them in her wardrobe forgetting that they were pjs. Now she sometimes wears them for bed, sometimes for day time.

I send DS to nursery in all sorts. Cos he gets totally filthy with paint/mud/food.
Theses pictures just look like clothes anyway.
I’ve taken DS to nursery in the pj’s he’d slept in that night once, if had to wake him up to take him as I had to go to work. Just told the staff and they got him dressed. They didn’t bat an eyelid.

I wish people would stop suggesting the OP goes and buys her PJs/clothes from JJMB, Biden, Frugi etc. She has already said she is on a budget and buys outfits from Primark and charity shops. Obviously she isn't going to go to those stores. Now stop it, because it sounds really smug.

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Just ignore her! Your child your decision. She sounds overly dramatic and interfering.

My daughter has a Primark Harry Potter pj shorts and tshirt set. She wears them as day wear all the time. She is 10.

With the pyjama sets my DC have, the main giveaway that they’re pyjama shorts is the fabric.

So the shorts might look like normal enough shorts in a photo, but if you see them close up the fabric is clearly much thinner (often t-shirt material) than in shorts made for daytime use. The tops are generally indistinguishable from daytime tops unless they’ve got bedtime themed logos on them.

Personally I wouldn’t send my DC out in the daytime in pyjamas, but having said that, there’s no harm in it and I don’t suppose nursery would be all that bothered.

'People will think she's neglected'

??!!??!!????!

I'm thinking your MIL has met few neglected children in her time if she came out with that.

I have a nine year old son. One of my closest friends (who has children) is incapable of telling whether or not he is in clothes or pjs. They look so similar. Crack on I say.

Grand, she'll be going in with Nautical outfit.
I don't think that creche will bat an eyelid TBH. They just ask that the clothing be practical ( in terms of activities and going to the toilet) and that we don't mind it getting dirty.
I don't think that out of the wrapping anybody would know they are pyjamas. But maybe I will mention it just in case.

Even if they're identifiable as jammies I'm not sure I'd care provided your DC doesn't care! DD7 came home from her dads last weekend in jeans and a long sleeved top (the kinda thing you'd dress them in early autumn/ late spring) poor kid was boiling! Coincidentally I'd been shopping for primark summer jammies that said "berry sleepy" on them. I suggested she changed into them for bus home as national express so hot. At first she was reluctant but on the coach she asked me to change her. Nothing wrong with them- they're kids- it's all about their comfort in this heat! X

Just let her wear what she wants - no issue at all

Please don't put her in these.

She will grow a penis and fall asleep in nursery. Obviously. I can't believe you don't know. I mean who just dresses their child in cool, comfy clothes their kid likes?? Exactly, no one.

Dinosaurs can only be liked by the possessor of penis gang.

Or your SIL is crazy. Definitely one or the other

I can’t get my pants in a twist about a preschoolers clothes. My youngests favourite top was an obvious pj top but he loved it so it became day wear. No one ever batted an eyelid.

Pfffitt to gendered clothes , especially for pre-school ages. If they are clean and decent, who really cares?

I would probably flip the tops round on them so navy with navy.

One of DDs friends virtually lived in a Snow White dress up outfit until she started school - worn a few days then washed and straight back on. Who cares!

Poor Dsil, she probably thought I was doing so well with my 3 summer dresses on rotation.
This isn't the first time she has had rather odd views about dd's clothing. Last summer she thought the swimming costume i got her was inappropriate (a plain black one piece) as it was "too adult" so she went and bought her a bikini.

My 2 year old is going through a phase where she will not change her clothes without a fight.

Sometimes I just let her stay in her pyjamas and go to nursery, they don't care and I don't care as long as they're relatively clean.

They don't look particularly like pyjamas either so you'll be grand.

Lol at people suggesting boden little bird and Frugi when op has said she doesn't have much money and ideally shops at charity shops...

Op those are fine, they don't even look like PJs!

I handmedown a lot of my younger kids clothes and then I've noticed in photos that some pyjama sets are worn as day clothes as the recipient clearly has no idea that they were sold as pyjamas they are just soft t-shirts and shorts.
I'm quite lame and I'd probably say to the staff, that the shop had sold out in her size and I'd bought these to keep her going.

I wish people would stop suggesting the OP goes and buys her PJs/clothes from JJMB, Biden, Frugi etc. She has already said she is on a budget and buys outfits from Primark and charity shops. Obviously she isn't going to go to those stores. Now stop it, because it sounds really smug.

^ This. Effing Mumsnet... 🙄

My daughters been naked and removed every garment I've put on her for the last 10 days so getting her out of the house in anything would be an achievement!