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Shell fish in nursery lunchbox

367 replies

Nicpem1982 · 27/06/2018 16:07

Posting for traffic really so apologies

Dd has started to have packed lunch at nursery and the guidance I was given was just send her with what she will eat although we're a healthy eating school.

She's asked for prawn and cherry tomato skewers for tomorrow which is fine for me but is shell fish on the no list like nuts normally?

Sorry new to this lunch thing....

OP posts:
Nicpem1982 · 28/06/2018 21:34

Petrol - Comte is a French hard cheese that's quite nutty in flavour, it's good for cooking we don't like it cubed

OP posts:
Nicpem1982 · 28/06/2018 21:36

We werent given any restrictions when I asked so I sent it in

OP posts:
MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 21:36

Peak mumsnet has been reached

And common fucking sense has been left dying in the gutter.
Prawn and cherry tomato skewers for a 3 year old who will be emotionally damaged if she finds cheese cubes instead?

How the fuck will that parent deal with the real challenges of bringing up a pre-teen and a teenager?

I think the OP needs to know that, within reason, you have to make yourself the boss of your kids. You can't have prawns in your lunchbox because they might go off and it will make you ill.

Here's things that I know you like. Eat it, or don't eat it. Your choice.
It's not going to be prawns. Prawns are not ideal for a lunchbox. Have prawns when you get home.

I honestly can't remember bargaining, or having any discussion whatever with my kids about what went into their lunchbox. I was their Mam and I sent in their packed lunch. Maybe at 12 or 13 they might tell me they didn't like salmon paste (joke, nobody likes salmon paste). But at THREE!!? No way. They had what everybody else had. And NOBODY had prawns. Everybody knows prawns are risky for food poisoning. Sending your kids in with prawns would have looked a bit irresponsible to most of us. What are you trying to prove? What's wrong with cheese? Assuming you're not vegan ,because prawns?

slipperyeel

Yup. I'm just amazed that a 3 year old has enough knowledge and life experience to dictate their own diet. And how long seafood will last out of a fridge. And looking forward all day to their prawns?
I'm an experienced Mum and I find that unlikely
If the child next to them has some onion bhajees, they'd be more interested in that. They will eat some of the food that their peers bring. It They all do swap food. I know they do!
Mine would have eaten chips and cheese every day of their life. But fortunately, when they were aged 3, I was the boss of what they ate, and I sent them in with a nutritious lunchbox.

I hope OP learns something from this thread.

I sincerely do. Having your 3 year old dictate her lunch requirements, and OP being worried that it will upset her 3 year old if she doesn't get what she wants, sets an unworkable precedent for Mum.

OP. Try to think of the future, when they are teenagers. Try to think ahead. Try to have some sort of reasonable discipline. Try to think how prawns have the possibility of making your child poorly. Try to find a way of having some control over what your 3 year old eats.

And most of all, don't think that because your child likes prawns that they are the most uber food polymathic 3 year old child in the world.

There are millions of kids in this country who have a more varied diet than yours. Probably mine included. Just be a bit sensible. Don't 'show off' by sending your kid into school with prawns.

Unless you want a couple of nights dealing with the sickness and vomiting if the school's fridge lets you down.

MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 21:45

She eats a balanced diet the rest of her lunch today was pesto veggie orzo, full fat Greek yoghurt, grapes (cut up obviously), and peach chunks you can't make assumptions about her diet because she likes prawns

Nobody cares what your dd eats Except you. We're just saying prawns are not ideal for a packed lunch

Nicpem1982 · 28/06/2018 21:45

MagicNumberyThings - wow what wild assumptions you make about me and my dd all because I started a thread on shell fish.

Nothing said that my dd would be emotionally damaged if she finds cheese cubes Confused

And as for judging my parenting and urging me to consider the future GrinGrin do jog on

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Roselind · 28/06/2018 21:46

You are lucky your school has a fridge - all my 3 had compulsory packed lunches and no fridge - when I suggested the school association buy a fridge the head looked at me as if I were mad.
Personally I don't even buy prawn sandwiches kept in a fridge in a shop in weather like this. You have no control over how long they may have sat waiting to go in the fridge - and equally you do not know when they get the lunch boxes out ready for lunch.

Roselind · 28/06/2018 21:48

MagicNumberyThings I love your post.
I hope OP never finds herself grappling with the situation where getting your teenager to eat any food at all is an achievement.

borntobequiet · 28/06/2018 21:58

How do you use spaghetti as a straw? (Unless it’s really macaroni.)

Beamur · 28/06/2018 21:58

Actually I would agree that for some kids the contents of their lunchbox is a big deal...
My DD and DSD for example. Once (once!!) I mixed up DSD and DSS's sandwiches. This was a problem because DSD only ate about 3 things at that age. He got marmite which he was fine with but she got peanut butter - which she doesn't eat. Still brings it up 15 years later!! I usually make DD's lunch (another 'particular' eater) one day (literally once) DH made it - and got it wrong...apparently yogurt drinks 'do not count' as a drink and he forgot to put in a biscuit. Brought up, re-examined and complained about many times since.
For context, neither girls are that difficult or whinge normally, but food is a really big deal. Packedlunchmageddon.

Beamur · 28/06/2018 22:03

I do find it quite funny how prawns have been such a controversial lunch offering on this thread. I had no idea they were considered so decadent. I would have given them to my own DD but their lunches are not refrigerated so I only send in food that can't go off.

borntobequiet · 28/06/2018 22:04

That’s awful, still bringing it up 15 years later.
Probably a record.

Amalfimamma · 28/06/2018 22:05

MagicNumberyThings

Judgy much? If Noone cares what the op's DD had in her lunch box why write such a long winded Judgy post? Don't like the post? Move on. Simples

Hth hun

Amalfimamma · 28/06/2018 22:06

borntobequiet
Bucatini could be used as a straw. I wouldn't recommend it

NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/06/2018 22:09

The snobbery on this thread! British people are so fucking weird about food.
If they have a fridge, send them!
I can only imagine the Aibu if my kids had to take their own food to nursery and I sent them with a traditional Obento.

Is taking your own food to nursery common btw? I’ve never heard of it.

borntobequiet · 28/06/2018 22:10

How did I not know about bucatini?
Will buy some tomorrow (but not as straw substitute).
Thanks Amalfimamma

PollyChockola · 28/06/2018 22:10

It’s mumsnet. Only Pom bears, jam sandwiches, ham or cheese sandwiches, beans, sausages, chicken nuggets and chips, mini rolls and dairylea triangles are acceptable. Anything else means you have ideas above your station and must be immediately brought down several pegs.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/06/2018 22:11

Imagine being the sort of sad twat that thinks prawns are SHOWING OFF Grin

NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/06/2018 22:12

And don’t worry about the skewer OP, I’m sure most 3 year olds aren’t stupid enough to cause any harm with it.

Almondio · 28/06/2018 22:14

Don't send little sticks into nursery, that's asking for trouble. Just take the prawns and tomatoes off and stick in Tupperware.

Ask nursery about shellfish before you send it in.

DaphneFanshaw · 28/06/2018 22:17

Grin still chuckling at “failed as a weaner”
This thread is batshit crazy, it really is.

Shell4429 · 28/06/2018 22:20

Is your daughter ASD because she really reminds me of my son at that age. He would only eat jam sandwiches 🥪 though!

MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 22:23

Nothing said that my dd would be emotionally damaged if she finds cheese cubes

You implied it. That she would be 'very' upset not to find her prawn and cherry tomato kebabs. She's 3 years old, for feck's sake. Fortunately, there are other people reading, mumsnet, so we may get a myriad views on the issue from all corners. I sincerely hope so.
It will make interesting reading. For me.

DaphneFanshaw · 28/06/2018 22:26

Nah, she didn’t imply it Magic. You just jumped on in and ran with it in a most typical bonkers MN way.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/06/2018 22:27

You completely made that up magic because you’re clearly a lunatic.

GardenGeek · 28/06/2018 22:27

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