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Shell fish in nursery lunchbox

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Nicpem1982 · 27/06/2018 16:07

Posting for traffic really so apologies

Dd has started to have packed lunch at nursery and the guidance I was given was just send her with what she will eat although we're a healthy eating school.

She's asked for prawn and cherry tomato skewers for tomorrow which is fine for me but is shell fish on the no list like nuts normally?

Sorry new to this lunch thing....

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nokidshere · 28/06/2018 19:31

This thread reminds me of when my son was just starting in primary school doing half days. We went to Tesco after school one day and he wanted to look at the fish counter. He asked me what "they" were and I said mackerel, he said he wanted to buy some and take it to school so I said maybe I'll buy some for daddy and you can have a taste first to see if you like it. He looked at me totally wide eyed and said I don't want to eat it I want to take it to show and tell Grin

Nicpem1982 · 28/06/2018 19:34

Thanks everyone her lunch was fine.

The poster who asked about skewers - she's eaten various foods on skewers quite safely for a while I only thought about blunting them as an ott precaution. Hmm

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Sennelier1 · 28/06/2018 19:37

If you're absolutely sure about the fridge etc., go for the prawns and cherry-tomato. But why not put it in a lunchbox with a small todler-size
fork added?

delilahbucket · 28/06/2018 19:55

Just nuts in our school. Used to be no egg as well but the child with the allergy has now left. If a child in the school has a severe enough shellfish allergy that they cannot be in the sea room as it,I would expect the school to tell parents. Do they not have a packed lunch policy? Most schools do.

kateandme · 28/06/2018 19:58

I was eating cocktail sausages and cheese in pineapple of straws for as long as I can remember :) nicpem1982 so well done for not listening to the ott responses on them.
glad she had a good lunch.
nokidshere fantastic haha.get your dc to take a tin of tomato mackeral thatl give em something to talk about!oh god that smell

MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 19:58

The idea of sending a 3YO with prawns in a lemon grass skewer must make even the most MNy MNer balk. Surely

I just think it's daft. You can't be sure it's going to be kept at the required safe temperature for a few hours. I always sent in pretty 'safe' food in lunchboxes. At 3, my dc had probably never eaten prawns, because at the time I didn't often buy prawns.

They'd had all sorts of other food that they loved. Asparagus was a particular favourite because dh grows it. Mild curries in the Indian restaurant that we still frequent. Broccoli made lovely trees in a dollop of mash with a gravy oasis. Avocado mashed up on toast was a breakfast here 25 years before its time, apparently. It's everywhere now. We were awash at weekends with fried whitebait, cos dh loves it. The kids saw us eating it so they ate it too. Turkey gizzard in France, has been eaten by my 3 and 4 year olds (before I knew what it actually was!) They've eaten tripe with grandad (yuk)
junket with their other grandma (double yuk) and tons of strawberries during the PYO (pick your own) fad. They have been introduced to, and eaten, a huge variety of food since toddlerhood.
But they never met a prawn Halibut. Yes. Kippers. Yes. Sardines on toast (I love that) yes.

Somebody upthread said that her kids loved going down to the harbour to get fresh shellfish. Well, that's because she lives near a harbour that lands shellfish. I don't doubt that anybody who lives thereabouts will be doing the same thing if it's a 10 minute walk.
It's there for the taking.
Mine hadn't eaten prawns by 3yrs because 3 yrs isn't long enough to introduce your child to every possible source of nutrition that exists.

Oh yes. And coconuts and lemons fresh from the tree. We had them.
All the things that me and dh like, in fact. Licquorice sticks. Liver and onions. Celeriac. Sweet potato. Artichokes! My 4 year old loved peeling artichokes! Dad grows them as well. They are on our doorstep, much like the person who lives near a harbour has shellfish on their doorstep.

So I'm pretty shocked that so many people on MN are shocked that a 3 year old hasn't eaten prawns. All in good time, me dears, all in good time. In precis, I'd never send prawns in a lunchbox. It's far too risky, from an allergen pov and a safe temperature pov. You really don't have to prove anything to anybody. If you really want to impress other parents, send them in with cherry tomatoes and cubes of Comte cheese.

I think it's not sensible to send prawns in a lunchbox, and also that folks are being dead judgey about some 3 year olds having never eaten a prawn. That 3 year old might have a really massively varied diet. Who are we to know that?

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 28/06/2018 19:58

DD asked for prawns on the mini pizzas for her 3rd birthday party. She still likes prawns at 10. Blush🍤

CheshireChat · 28/06/2018 19:59

Sorry Nicpem1982, the no skewers thing is because of kids like my son who will-

Use it as a sword
Use it as a fork
Patiently pull strips off it until it's all splintery
Break it into small bits and then it's all splintery again
Poke other people with it if he thinks they're not paying enough attention

He only needs one to do all of the above! We don't have skewers often anymore...

MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 20:04

and I can't imagine a child not like tomatoes or tomato based sauces

My bil who is 53 cannot abide fresh tomatoes. Cannot eat them.
But once they are reduced into a sauce, it's fine.

SpottedCowJumpstheFence · 28/06/2018 20:06

kateandme yeah, I think it is subtle class snobbery when people have digs at childrens' food choices. Inverted snobbery kind of thing. Why is classism ok if is aimed upwards?

BertrandRussell · 28/06/2018 20:14

Of course it’s class based snobbery! I’m posh and I get a real kick out of the wide range of stuff my kids will eat. I try very hard not to let it show or to be an arse about it, but I would be lying if I denied it. Much though I would like to.

Bezm · 28/06/2018 20:16

1st world problems!!!
I've never heard anything so pretentious. Prawn and tomato skewers? Get a grip. She needs protein, fat and carbs, not poncy prawns!

MagicNumberyThings · 28/06/2018 20:18

The poster who asked about skewers - she's eaten various foods on skewers quite safely for a while I only thought about blunting them as an ott precaution

Yeah. Well lucky she's only 3 yet awhile. Think about it a bit harder when she turns 4.

slipperyeel · 28/06/2018 20:24

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Nicpem1982 · 28/06/2018 20:36

1st world problems!!!
I've never heard anything so pretentious. Prawn and tomato skewers? Get a grip. She needs protein, fat and carbs, not poncy prawns!

Hmm. She eats a balanced diet the rest of her lunch today was pesto veggie orzo, full fat Greek yoghurt, grapes (cut up obviously), and peach chunks you can't make assumptions about her diet because she likes prawns

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MerryInthechelseahotel · 28/06/2018 20:36

I love this thread! It's hilarious!

she needs protein, fat and carbs, not poncy prawns wtf do you think prawns are 😂😂😂😂

JuJu2017 · 28/06/2018 21:02

Hate mumsnet sometimes, all the mum bashing really bugs me. The kid wants prawns for her lunch and will be disappointed if she doesn’t get it, and what? Well done to you op for raising a kid who’s healthy - my kid wants chocolate for his dinner and refuses to eat anything that isn’t chocolate based. Kids refusing to eat stuff they haven’t requested isn’t new news, stop bashing this mum.

Lweji · 28/06/2018 21:05

FGS, stop giving your child prawns.
Only fish fingers are allowed.
And sausage rolls, obviously.

What were you thinking, OP?

Twillow · 28/06/2018 21:15

Presumably your first child. Don't mean to be unkind, I was similar tbh.
But do heed just a little all these tiny voices telling you to be careful of asking your child what they want to often. A choice of of two options both being what you're prepared to offer, by all means. Don't make a rod for your own back...

onefootinthegrave · 28/06/2018 21:16

Aren't prawns the dirty bastards that hang around sewers? Or was Victoria Wood having us on? Grin

petrolpump28 · 28/06/2018 21:19

What is compte cheese and do they serve it at happitots in Salford.

ambereeree · 28/06/2018 21:22

My daughter asks for salmon fish, broccoli and cornflakes for lunch...
She's 2.5

glueandstick · 28/06/2018 21:23

My 2 year old came out with ‘edamame’ today.

So mumsnet. So proud.

glueandstick · 28/06/2018 21:27

Actually, a top tip for small children is to get value type prawns. They are the diddy ones and go down a treat as picky food. With a little seafood sauce dip. Or in egg fried rice. I love a tiny prawn.

mammmamia · 28/06/2018 21:32

as an aside I thought you couldn’t send Pesto pasta for packed lunch as pesto has nuts??

Also my phone keeps autocorrecting pesto to Pedro Blush