Would you expect this?

[LittleMe03]

Have just read these and cannot say I agree... so AIBU? What would you expect?

IMO...

My DSS age 12 CAN use the washing machine as we have shown him how. However, we do not expect him to do this often.
Do not yet ask him to iron clothes. Do not think he should.
He helps with meals but would not expect him to plan and prepare one alone.
The next one on the list.... yes he can read and know what products etc are safe/unsafe and what they are used for.
Basic hand tools?? Like what?
Never ask him to mow the lawn although he helps in the garden and does know how.
And yes he stays alone occasionally but not for long.

I think the majority of this is absolutely ridiculous thou...

Please do read the 13-15 years one too

i think all of that is perfectly fine tbh...what is it you don't like the look of?

Yes my dd12 ticks all the boxes. She ticks most of the next box too apart from the tipping! Ds (now 18) would tick all the boxes at those ages too. Not to say they did/do them regularly but if required they do.
They both choose to do their own ironing though

Basic hand tools - screw driver/hammer/spanner is what I take it to mean

Basic hand tools like hammer and nails or screw driver. I think that is perfectly acceptable. I used to do plenty of DIY with my dad as a child.
I think the rest of the list is fantastic! Imagine one night a week where you don't have to cook because the kids will do it?! Come on, beans on toast or scrambled eggs isn't too hard to handle.

Rereading the only thing dd12 doesn't do on a weekly basis is mow the lawn and use hand tools

I have a 22 year old that can't tick every box.

Is it a list of chores should be doign regularly or a list of things children should be taught at that age?
My 11 year old will read labels and change a bed, I'm not going to rush to even teach her let alone expect her to mow the lawn

I wouldn’t want a 10 year-old ironing. And where the hell is a 13 year-old going where anyone would worry about her ‘tipping appropriately’? High tea at The Savoy?

Well, my parents and I would all fail on at least one of the tasks on each list

Not sure I know many adults who could do them all tbh. But that’s more to do with time / inclination / capacity than age

My 12 year old son does everything on the 10 to 12 list except using the iron and mowing the lawn.

Not sure my husband can tick all the boxes there...

Sounds about right for my boys.

Simple hand tools: hammer, screwdriver, blender, mixer,

My 16 and 14 year olds have been able to do he things on both lists from the age of a about 11-12 my 10 year old can do most of the things from both too.

I was taught no life skills at all and had to figure it all out for myself when I was kicked out at 15 (and the years beforehand when nothing was done for me at all) so it's important to me that my kids can fend for themselves.

Just because they can it doesn't mean they do it all the time though.

Well maybe IABU then... or expect less then the majority! But I ask that my SS makes his bed each morning, opens his curtains and his room is kept clean and tidy. He knows how to use the washing machine and will help out with preparing cooking... but would never expect much more than this at the age of 12.

The next age up seemed a little unrealistic to me also... sorry but just my opinion

Ds1 is ten and has never mowed the lawn or used the iron but don't everything else.

He's also done quite a few off the second list, some of which seems very basic. Making purchases at the store and comparing prices...my 8 year old does this regularly never mind a 13 year old.

I can't well don't clean the oven and I'm 38

DD age 12 can do most of that, including planning, shopping for and cooking a meal from scratch. She is home educated though, so spends a lot of time with me doing these tasks and has chosen to take some of them over on occasion.

DS age 11, not so much, but he is not interested in it. He has his head in gaming, even when we do not let him play much, it is still where his head it.

Neither of them can mow the lawn though.

Basic tools as explained to me would mean that a 12 year old should be expected to build his new bed alone that we have just got for him? HelpC yes? But no I do not expect or would want him to try this alone

The tipping thing is probably because it’s from US @CoughLaughFart

Without help from his dad*

Not sure I know many adults who could do them all tbh. But that’s more to do with time / inclination / capacity than age

^^ This is a joke right?

It is american- we don't broil in the UK.

No way do I want to worry about my 10yo running over the lawn mower power cord. Not a chance.

I haven't figured out a good way to clean the oven. That spray stuff doesn't cut it.

Basic tools would be put up a shelf, put a bolt lock on a door, be able to fix something simple on a bike (like a chain coming off or similar).