to think that the people who have a healthy relationship with food do so because they have a fast metabolism?

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I am half way through my first pregnancy and I have gained… 4lbs. I started the pregnancy at the top end of a healthy weight, have dropped a dress size (!), look and feel great, and have suddenly noticed I have absolutely no guilt whatsoever about what I am eating. I had to increase my caloric intake by about 200-300 calories a day from the very beginning, just to maintain my weight.

Nobody is more shocked than me about this, as this is the first time in my life since I was about 13 that I have honestly been able to eat until I am full, and not gain weight.

It has been an absolute revelation, and made me realise if this is just how all the smug skinnies lecturing about 'just eating until you feel full' feel all the time?! If that is honestly the case then no wonder they have a 'healthy relationship with food' imo.

If food didn't make me fat I would have a healthier relationship with it too. AIBU to think this healthy relationship with food could actually be more body type than mindset after all?

I think it's emotional rather than metabolic. Yesterday I was starving at 12pm something upset me 10 minutes later and the hunger vanished, as if by magic. I didn't eat till 6.30 when things were calmer. Other people eat when they are upset and I think this leads to tricky relationships with food.

Very interesting. I don't think naturally slim people see it this way.

I thought I was ‘naturally slim’ until my late teens when I started drinking/eating rubbish food at uni. I’d put on weight after the first term because I wasn’t walking everywhere (on campus), was eating stodge, drinking more etc. Alll conspired against me!! Now in my 40s I have to be really careful to exercise enough and not eat crap to maintain a decent weight - it’s not just about weight for me but also about waist measurement as that’s the more dangerous thing. Everyone says I’m slim but my waist is just on the recommended maximum measurement before it becomes a risk factor. That is a size 12 btw!!

Move more and eat smart. With a varied diet in a reasonable portion size. This is how to be the right weight.

I agree with the poster who said our eating habits have changed over the last 40 or so years. We are not active enough, we snack, and we eat more processed food.

A healthy relationship with food is NOT defined by your weight being within normal range (it’s may contribute to being slim) but there are plenty of people with an ideal bmi who have a massively unhealthy relationship with food.

Being slim does not equal has a healthy relationship with food.