To be devastated at losing an envelope with £500 cash in it?

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Short version: On Friday a friend gave me £500 they owed me in cash, in an envelope. Within the space of 24 hours I have no idea where it is.

My memory is terrible and I often wonder if I've got early onset dementia (I'm in my 50s).

I was nervous getting this money in cash as I don't like having large sums on my person. I would have preferred it put straight into my bank account. But the person who gave me the money didn't want to do that.

I had a feeling that I was going to lose the money. Perhaps I manifested this thought into reality.

I'm gutted and feel sick.

What's the largest sum you've ever lost and how long did it take you to get over it?

I'm sure you're not interested but if you are, here are further details:

When my friend gave me the money (in my home) I was rushing to get out of the house and so I think I left it at home (I live alone) then went to the dentist and then to work.

I remember counting it so that must be when I came home from work. But I just cannot remember where I put it! I had a builder I didn't know coming the next day so started to put credit cards away etc. I still don't know what I did with the cash.

Next morning I looked for the cash in the place I thought I'd left it and it wasn't there. This was before the builder got here, so he's not responsible.

I have looked in all the places it might be, and even went through the rubbish and recycling but it is nowhere. I rang the dentist and the pharmacy but they said nothing had been handed in.

Finally, lesson learnt. I will never again accept cash payments in a large sum. I will insist on a bank deposit.

Oh fantastic news OP!

Made up for you

I'd have gone out of my mind!!

So happy for you !!!

Ah great news!

Great news OP. St Anthony is part of the family in my house, we call on him so often!

That's brilliant news,don't forget to light a candle of thanks to St. Anthony!

I'm so glad you found the money! You must feel so relieved.

I had a very drunk night out a few weeks ago and woke up without my engagement ring on. I couldn't remember what happened and after a few days of sneakily looking for it I told my dp, he accused me of meeting somebody because why else would I take it off? It was awful and I had no idea what I'd done with it or why I took it off. He found it when I was at work in the very top of the cupboard wine rack! I can't even reach the top without standing on the counter

I'm so pleased to hear you've found it OP - I'd have been devastated to lose £500. And I can totally understand the hiding it in your PJ's and having no recollection - I'm late fifties and I do that kind of thing all the time and then have no memory of it.

I think it is just a getting older thing, my memory is rubbish compared to what it would be. And I do things absentmindedly (put my purse in the fridge the other week - because I was unpacking the shopping and it must have got popped in with all the yogurts, veg etc ! - spent ages looking for it.)

I can remember my Mum doing similar stuff at the same age, - but she's 96 now and she hasn't got dementia.

Yay!

This has cheered me right up - I'm so pleased for you OP.

Yay! So glad you found it OP.

That's great, Op.

Is is in the bank now?

Ponderland

What is that all about? He hid it because you went out without it on & accused you of meeting someone else?

Jeez-he sounds awful.

In future, if you lose something, the following thought experiment often helps me:

"If I was at home with an envelop full of cash, where would I put it NOW?"

Same with passwords and pincodes:" if I had to choose a 5 number pin, what would I choose NOW?"

Your brain often follows the same thought path you have chosen before (lazy brain 😉)

@diddl nooo that would be horrible. I must of put it there when I got back drunk to keep it safe and he found it when he searched the whole house whilst I was at work. He definitely didn't know where it was, I could tell by his face when I told him I'd lost it.

" I must of put it there when I got back drunk to keep it safe"

Still awful that he accused you of meeting someone else though.

Perfect ending OP I read this last night and so hoped you would find it.

I had to read back to find it so if people want to see here instead:

"And finally, I keep sets of pyjamas in the bottom one.
I was turfing it all out shelf by shelf, then putting it all back, thinking "it's 3 o'clock in the morning. I must be bloody mad."
Then I got to the last shelf - the pyjamas shelf - and there it was stuffed underneath at the very bottom of the clothes.
I was so excited I ran around the flat, then lay on my bed on my back and kicked my legs in the air repeatedly in excitement and joy. "

Well done.
I am known as "mummy the finder" at home and usually I start by asking them to retrace their steps and what they were doing when they had that thing, pockets in clothes etc and then work back. We have had our share recently... including son who left mobile on coach to air port on our recent early summer holiday - he gave up on it but I saw the holiday rep and she took him over hte coach (it was waiting to take people back the other way round the cortner and even though they had done their usual coach search when everyone got off it was wedged just down a tiny crack near his seat which only he would have known about - moral of story don't put phones in funny places on coaches - keep them in your pocket)

@bertbox - I did exactly the same on holiday and was convinced I’d lost them. Eventually find them somewhere I’d checked multiple times - side pocket of washbag!

So glad for you op! Fwiw I often lose things, I'm a very busy mum to three young dc, and I am usually running around like a headless chicken with too much on my mind, I believe that I go into an autopilot mode and this is how things end up in places that I can't remember putting them!

YAY!

DO NOT TAKE CASH EVER AGAIN

Yes, I'm shouting.

Hello, brilliant, clever, insightful Psychic Mass Channelling Team (aka Mumsnetters).

Well, as for "banking the cash first thing in the morning", that hasn't happened yet - I'm ashamed to admit I'm still sitting in bed having woken up only an hour ago. I was too excited and happy to sleep. And I don't have to start work today till 4.30pm. I'll go to the bank though right NOW!

I told my friend I found the cash - she is very relieved!! I haven't told the builder yet that I found the "passport" but I will when I get back after banking the money.

Once the money is in the bank I'll post back here - so you can all stop worrying that I might lose it on the bus on the way to the bank - or it blows out of my bag and an Alsatian dog eats it, or whatever!

And I will light a candle to St Anthony and thank him.

Now I need St Christopher, is it? To get me to the bank safely without incident! hahahaha.

Hurrah!

So glad you found it!! Have you paid it in yet?

My memory is terrible and I often wonder if I've got early onset dementia (I'm in my 50s).

My Mum used to do this sort of stuff all the time both before and after that age. She had a habit of putting valuable things in a safe place and forgetting where they were. Bad enough when they were her own valuables but sometimes she would see something belonging to another family member which she thought shouldn't be left lying about and so would move it to "somewhere safe" and then forget to mention it

Anyway, just to say my Mum did not have and never did get dementia even though she lived to her mid-80s so don't be so pessimistic.

I think unless you have a "safe place" that you regularly use, it ca be easy to forget where it is!

Relieved for you OP

Well done 😀

Brilliant news! Thrilled for you