Where’s the useby date on this condom?

[ShitHelpMe]

I’ve just found this. And it sure as fuck isn’t for me.
So either it’s a very old condom or he’s having or planning an affair.

I can only see a LOT number and some other numbers.

Please help before I confront him.

Or..it could be the other way round. It could be that OP is in that role.

I've been in relationships where my DP made accusations or said things in an aggressive way and when challenged said 'oh again, everything's MY fault isn't it, YOU never do anything wrong' then I was put in a position of trying to reassure and placate when actually, I hadn't done anything wrong. Throwing in reasons why I need to stop trying to point out where they're wrong because they're vulnerable because of awful things so just stop. Making me look like a bitch if I continue.

And the OP has done that on this thread with posters here..

Or she may be like that because she IS in a shitty relationship.

I'd have to open the chest.

Top yes that happened to me. I was with a right narcissistic bastard. He would say awful things to me in an aggressive tone, then if I pulled him up on it he would completely turn it around on me and start saying how horrible I was being to him! Then he would say "look just STOP ok" and later on say things like "all I said was X then you just turned on me and I was begging you to stop."

Still makes me annoyed thinking about that. When someone says "look just stop ok" when you've pulled them up on their behaviour or for something they have said then that's a massive red flag to me!

He would without a shadow of a doubt, use that as a stick to beat me with

He doesn't sound like a nice man.

He lied to you about the condom; initially.

Is there really anything to save here?

Condom is the last thing to worry about imo.

He sounds like a right cunt
Theres plenty of guys who aren't cunts out there. I'd suggest finding one of them and level this one with his pirates treasure chest and condoms.

ShitHelpMe You sounds a lot like my mother. She was erm... extra and a narcissist and would fly off the handle before anyone could explain anything. Then she would turn it around and say that she was always the blame etc it got fucking tiring. We are no contact now. In your husbands position I would have panicked and tried to say something to please you knowing full well that it wouldn’t. You kicked him out and you are stopping him from seeing his kids but it’s his fault you are alone and pregnant? I think you feed off drama and a pity party. Even if he is cheating, you did not handle this well at all.

It sounds like you don't enjoy being in a relationship with this man. You think he is a bully and that he gaslights you.

I think condom aside, for which there really could be a reasonable explanation you are unhappy with him and with this relationship.

I think you should really take some time away from everything and really consider what you want for your life. Life is too short to stay in something you don't want to be in, shorter still to try and raise children with someone who don't want to be with.

You don't need an excuse to end the relationship, it doesn't have to be anyone's "fault". You can just leave because you want too.

The little half full egg timer thing is the expiry/use by date symbol for medical devices. It looks like 2020/?? I can’t read the month, it looks like it has rubbed off.

They usually have quite a long shelf life and the packaging looks a bit careworn. I’d say it has been around for some time.