DP got told off in the supermarket last night

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DP went to the supermarket last night when he finished work, he took a couple of kids so I could bath the baby while he was gone so he took DD1(6) and DS2(2) with him

He said while he was there an old woman was laughing at something silly DS was doing (being a frog) and came over to say something to DP, he was expecting it to be something nice about DS so greeted her with a smile and got “he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly while you’re bringing him out at this time, take him home to bed!”

It wasn’t even 7pm!

DP said he was so surprised he just said “oh ok will do”
DD was so amused that Daddy got told off

AIBU to think that 7pm is not too late to have a 2 year old out ... on a Friday night ... in the summer! 🤦🏻‍♀️

The ‘old’ lady should visit an American supermarket late at night - especially a inner city one. She can have a bit of fun telling Americans they should put their children to bed before 7pm.

I’d pay to see that.

What kind of a miserable git would get annoyed by a 2 year old pretending to be a frog?

Somebody trying to avoid pushing a trolley over him? And not with him, anyway. With his parent/carer.

Hello everyone. We're sticking our beak in here to remind you that ageism is very much against our Talk Guidelines and so please bear this in mind when you post. Thanks.

(Also - v impressed at OP's child being a frog in the supermarket. Mine prefers to act like a lizard flat out in the sun.)

I thrilled someone has consulted their husband and he has given the definitive response by tutting and rolling his eyes. Phew ! There was me not knowing how to think until a man had been consulted.

Happy to justify (thought I had, actually!)-but I generally think my follow ups are tediously long.

Come on @BertrandRussell. Take the compliment. This is your thing and you are brilliant at it- look at this thread; totally off point.

When you actually give a shit about something you argue well and I generally find myself agreeing. When you are (presumably) bored and having fun you take pot shots which read like what the DM imagine a Corbyn supporter thinks.

One of mine spent a week as a flamingo.

Somebody trying to avoid pushing a trolley over him?

But is it any more difficult to push your trolley around a 2 year old acting like a frog than it is to push your trolley around a 2 year old acting like a human toddler? I can't see the potential for annoyance. Maybe I'm just very laid back.

"What kind of a miserable git would get annoyed by a 2 year old pretending to be a frog?"

me :) :)

I wouldnt mind it in the park tho :)

I dont care if you have a bedtime for your children at 11pm or whatever time your family see fit

just dont let your child annoy others at the supermarket/bank/airport/restaurant or any other public place what is not intended to be a playground

I think the old lady was really polite, I would be ruder maybe to that cluless smiling dad :)

This is your thing and you are brilliant at it

I'm not sure being good at starting tedious arguments is something to be proud of

enike thankfully you don't get to dictate how children behave in public spaces!

Actually, I think ageism is a serious issue. Old people are dismissed, patronised or vilified on a regular basis, on here and in real life. It’s very depressing. It is the “acceptable discrimation”.

Are the people saying 'are we not allowed to say old now then?' being deliberately obtuse ?

Obviously you can say old, young, black, white, female, disabled whatever. Just don't use them to mean ' people who think in a certain way, people who act in a certain way, people who are the way they are because of their age/race/sex/disability'.
That's not hard is it ? - just apply the same rules that you apply when describing any other people (if you are one of those folk who struggle with not being bigotted and have to think about using appropriate language)

ENIKE
Dads (and some mums) can be oblivious what is annoying to others and what is not.
So all dads are bad and all mums are good, is that what you are saying?.
Sounds like a bit of a feminist remark.

In the 1980s my Grandma was telling us she was still reeling about a woman decades before that told her she was an unfit mother (my charming dad was a toddler having a 'throw yourself on the floor and scream' tantrum because she would not or more likely could not afford to buy him something!)

YetanotherBecky

Fully support ageism being against Mumsnet talk guidelines.

And I agree that the elderly suffer from appalling discrimination in rl and sometimes on Mumsnet; something I loathe.

But where have posters been ageist in this thread please? Are we not allowed to describe people factually as "old" and "young" any more?

Well said @BertrandRussell.

:) Vicky

okey, some dads and some mums (I said some mums before or not?)
I should have said some dads as well

some dads and mums are considerate, some dads and mums think their cute children are here to amuse others :)

But is it any more difficult to push your trolley around a 2 year old acting like a frog than it is to push your trolley around a 2 year old acting like a human toddler?

They're not so easy to see on the floor. You could do it by accident.
They're pretty small to start with. But upright you have a better chance of seeing them, particularly if you're 'old' with bad eyesight.
I'm amazed at having to explain this. A supermarket is not a place to let your toddlers play in the aisles. It's dangerous.

The implication that was picked up in the OP was that old meant inflexible and set in your ways. It was even explictly stated early on in the thread. It's more complex than whether you can use old as a descriptor.

thankfully you don't get to dictate how children behave in public spaces!

Shame. Somebody should if their parents don't.

With respect Ilovesooty you can't be certain about what people are implying or not.

A supermarket is not a place to let your toddlers play in the aisles. It's dangerous

This, with bells on. Little Brayden-Jaxxon might well look cute being a frog but he'll soon be bawling if he gets a trolley in his face.

Ok, but I can see the inference people made.

Scoopofchaff -(incidentally, I might change my name to sugarbeet) - how would you have reacted if the op had used black instead of old?

They're not so easy to see on the floor. You could do it by accident.
They're pretty small to start with. But upright you have a better chance of seeing them, particularly if you're 'old' with bad eyesight.
I'm amazed at having to explain this. A supermarket is not a place to let your toddlers play in the aisles. It's dangerous.

exactly! the self-styled laid back parents would turn into entitled monsters in a minute their cute unsupervised child would get hurt by an innocent shopper pushing their trolley into them :)

usually the parents who are not capable to understand how dangerous it can be (never mind annoying) are the first to screem and accuse others when something happens...