DP got told off in the supermarket last night

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DP went to the supermarket last night when he finished work, he took a couple of kids so I could bath the baby while he was gone so he took DD1(6) and DS2(2) with him

He said while he was there an old woman was laughing at something silly DS was doing (being a frog) and came over to say something to DP, he was expecting it to be something nice about DS so greeted her with a smile and got “he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly while you’re bringing him out at this time, take him home to bed!”

It wasn’t even 7pm!

DP said he was so surprised he just said “oh ok will do”
DD was so amused that Daddy got told off

AIBU to think that 7pm is not too late to have a 2 year old out ... on a Friday night ... in the summer! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not all of them need a lot of sleep. My son didn't.

I've just told my husband the gist of this thread and the people that are offended at the descriptor 'old'.
He rolled his eyes and muttered ffs..

It's beyond madness that we are having our descriptive language curtailed because someone, somewhere is offended.

I do think the "parents having evenings without children" is a peculiarly British (English?) thing. Seems pretty odd to me.

Exactly Flatearth routines definitely have their place, but there are all sorts of circumstances in which they might be disrupted; such as travel, illness (or unexpectedly running out of nappies!) which should not just assumed to be "poor parenting".

I think young kids should be in a bath, story, bed by 730 routine when they are toddlers. They need lots of sleep if anything

Why 7.30? What if someone has a later routine where they prefer bath, story, bed by 9.30 because their other half works lates and it suits family better so everyone can sleep until 9am?

If people don’t want to impose a routine on their kids, and it works for them, why should they because other people judge?

My mum used to lecture me on my kids bedtime. Boast proudly that we were always in bed by 6. But then moan in the next breath that we were horrible kids who would get her up at 5am and refuse to go back to sleep, and she was permanently knackered. She used cc to get is to bed at 6 too, just leave us to cry to sleep. I swear i learned to read at 3 years old because i would secretly read for a couple of hours rather than lie in bed awake- and that carried on until about 10/11 years old.

I have one who is bed early and up early. The other prefers to go a bit later and get up late. If i made them both go to bed at an arbitary time i’d have one asleep in her tea and the other still running around until 8.30

I thought he must have been wearing pyjamas and bumped into a MNer...

You are not having your "descriptive language curtailed". I am still interested in what people would have said if the OP had said "black" or "Asian" or "very tall" or "fat" or "wearing a red/yellow/blue dress".

I do think the "parents having evenings without children" is a peculiarly British (English?) thing. Seems pretty odd to me.

It is. So is feeding children nursery food at 4pm for dinner and then eating separately to them with your husband later on rather than the family eating together, the same food.

Are we not allowed to say "Old" then. Is that in the Talk Guidelines? Or is there a list somewhere?

OP, sounds like your DS does great frog.

Kermit’s pretty wild he’s in a relationship with a pig.

Can you imagine how happy the world would be if the word police just gave it a fucking rest?

Ahhh OP this is actually quite funny and harmless. The woman had an opinion just like everyone has on this thread although I don’t get why it bothered her in the first place, unless she assumed he was a single or inexperienced dad and needed some helpful tips. Lol.
Whats actually sweet is that your DP took the kids out and gave you that much needed space and time to get the baby sorted which only mums with young kid(s) and a baby could relate to and appreciate. Most partners much rather prefer to go alone and hassle free. As far as timings go it’s summer, we have longer days, weather is lovely and it’s a Friday night so any reasonable person would make an exception considering, not like he was having a tantrum or running around. Not to mention beneficial as DS would be tired and bedtime would be fuss free!

DS was home with some warm milk and a banana by 7:15/20, in the bath by 7:40, in bed by 8 & snoring by 8:10 - he wasn’t running wild up and down the aisles all night, just nipped out for milk & a pizza for me & DP to eat while we watched Love Island after they were all in bed
I don’t know why all the assumptions are that he wasn’t in bed until 9 or 10pm just because he was in a supermarket at 6:45

I wonder what time he would have to be in bed to prevent the morphing into pond life ... 🤔

Have to say I’ve been dipping in and out and reading all day and some of the responses have been golden

I'm old and don't care in the slightest if people mention "old lady" or "old man". It's what it is. Who cares - except the people on here who have nothing better to do than nitpick other people's posts?

No, it doesn't make you seem all correct and fabulous, it makes you seem a total twat. HTH

I do think the "parents having evenings without children" is a peculiarly British (English?) thing. Seems pretty odd to me.

It is nice though. We're not British but our toddler (under 2) goes to bed at 8pm and it's nice to relax without him for a few hours before bed!

I guess that's largely because he's at an age where you constantly have to watch/entertain him and that gets quite tiresome after a full day of it! When he's older I imagine we'll stop being so desperate for that time off.

Old people in supermarkets quite often make daft remarks about my dc. Sometimes sweet, sometimes rude. Morrisons is the worst. Asda not too bad.

as somebody said: "I think the tell here is what the 'old lady' said
"he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly....."
Toddlers are cute messing about pretending to be frogs or anything else they choose to be, but not in a supermarket aisle."

I think the focus was on the "behave properly" not on the "the child should be in bed by now"

this thread turned the focus on "old", "proper bedtimes", "cultural habits"... etc.

the main thing is: dont assume because its your child and you find him/her cute doing a frog in a busy supermarket, that everybody else will find it cute

and I still dont know, why it was so "newsworthy" the OP had to make a thread about it? :)

maybe just tell your DP to make sure the child behaves in public...... dads (and some mums) can be oblivious what is annoying to others and what not

Derailed or Merailed donquixotedelamancha?

I was told by an elderly lady at 8 50 AM “ this is a ridiculous time of day to have a baby out “ . 😮

YANBU anyway because it’s no ones buisness but your own, I hate when people have to throw thier 2 pence worth in without regard for others peoples situations.

the main thing is: dont assume because its your child and you find him/her cute doing a frog in a busy supermarket, that everybody else will find it cute

Who said the supermarket was busy?

What kind of a miserable git would get annoyed by a 2 year old pretending to be a frog?

"One little snipe followed by frustratingly short follow up- never actually justifying properly.

Happy to justify (thought I had, actually!)-but I generally think my follow ups are tediously long.

Exactly. None of us know for sure whether the child was simply walking next to his dad occasionally ribbiting - or scrabbling around on all fours in front of trollies. However, the 'old lady's' comment about him never learning to behave properly should give us all a clue which scenario is most likely.

Of course most parents will paint a well-behaved scenario to surround their own child - but anyone who frequents a supermarket will read between the lines.