DP got told off in the supermarket last night

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DP went to the supermarket last night when he finished work, he took a couple of kids so I could bath the baby while he was gone so he took DD1(6) and DS2(2) with him

He said while he was there an old woman was laughing at something silly DS was doing (being a frog) and came over to say something to DP, he was expecting it to be something nice about DS so greeted her with a smile and got “he’s very sweet but honestly he’ll never learn to behave properly while you’re bringing him out at this time, take him home to bed!”

It wasn’t even 7pm!

DP said he was so surprised he just said “oh ok will do”
DD was so amused that Daddy got told off

AIBU to think that 7pm is not too late to have a 2 year old out ... on a Friday night ... in the summer! 🤦🏻‍♀️

MrsMint..... It's not really "unsolicited" if DS was running around unsupervised getting in people's way. Though you are so very right it is "outdated" to expect kids to be supervised and well-behaved

Except he wasn't running around so it obvs was unwanted, unsolicited advice and he was supervised and well behaved so why are you even bothering to comment.

Are you infact the 'old woman' in the supermarket MrsMint

Anyone up for saying whether "black" would be OK in the anecdote to replace "old"?

Yes - it's only moronic political correctness that makes the mere mention of a person's race a cause of offence. Happy now?

"Yes - it's only moronic political correctness that makes the mere mention of a person's race a cause of offence. Happy now?"
Is that serious or a piss take?

Quite serious. What's the matter, did the question you asked half a dozen times not yield the answer you wanted?

Actually yes at times stating a race can also be useful for context. Other cultures have totally different opinions on child rearing and expected behaviour of children. I should know because I was married to someone from a very different culture to my white British one. There were clashes at times between my rather more lax (in their opinion)style of parenting opposed to their much stricter, no problem in walloping children hard as a punishment for speaking out of turn.

No OP, I don't think that earlier than 7pm is too late for a toddler to be out. We have toddlers out playing in the street till gone 8pm, now that the evenings are so light.

Are you sure he was told off? Like it wasn't in jest? I'm not old, I'm 28 but I've said to nieces and nephews "Shouldn't you be in bed" in a jokey way.

"Quite serious. What's the matter, did the question you asked half a dozen times not yield the answer you wanted?"
No. I was just a bit surprised that anyone would say "makes the mere mention of a person's race a cause of offence" seriously when it is so clearly bollocks, that's all. I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt.

Most of your arguments on this thread have been both bollocks and derailment, and that's with giving you the benefit of the doubt!

Fair enough. But just so you know-it's absolutely fine to mention race and skin colour. It's what comes after or before that's important.

Obviously.

Good. It's just you saying you thought the mere mention of a person's race would cause offence led me to believe you didn't know

Yes MNHQ...I know I'll get a ban. I dont care anymore.

If anyone was thinking of reporting, please don’t. It’s very entertaining to see how upset the anti liberal snowflakes get......and how frustrated at not being able to say anything these days. Silenced they are. Silenced.

I don't think Whisky2014 was the anti-liberal snowflake on this thread Bert. You are the person who derailed it into oblivion because the word "old" was used in the OP.

Whisky2014 nice to see you are capable of an adult well-reasoned debate = keep up the good work

I'm not silenced, nor am I anti- liberal.

I think that title applies to people who high-handedly go around derailing threads and policing people's non-offensive use of straighforward adjectives on the Internet.

I tried but I've had a wine and i was excited when Sweden scored. Bert has just ploughed on and on and on. Drone, drone, drone.. blah, blah , blah. What a life she has!

I'm off to enjoy my night. Mwah! X

WRT the de-railing, I do wonder what was de railed. A total non-event in a supermarket in which none of the protagonists were upset or rude or irate, posted by an OP who wasn’t there, seemingly needing re-assurance that it was OK for her and her DH to both be happy with the kids bring in a supermarket at 7pm.

What else was there to talk about? Unless possibly to start a common MN theme of ‘interfering old bat / bat’ posts?

An elderly lady made a concerned comment about a child. A polite father replied with a friendly innocuous remark.

Normal social interaction, people connecting, the world going around.

Some MNetters would like the world to be full of robots living in their own sterile bubble.

Good for that woman, and good for the dad.

Ahem....
We know discussions like this one often get heated but we've got to remind you that Mumsnet is here to make parents' lives easier.
While we've always encouraged healthy and robust discussion, we're saddened to see not everyone is able to respect each other in their choices and express their views without resorting to personal attacks or derailing the thread.

OMG, this is totally hilarious! ( to me, anyway). I have been deleted on this thread for taking the piss out of Whisky’s first post on this thread which I considered to be a generalisation and stereotype of old people .

It’s true, I wasn’t clear enough. I just got / get impatient with the stereotyping of older people. Older people are responsible for some of the most radical thinking we have. You only have to glance across a few MN threads to see how quickly younger people become ‘set in their ways’ and extremely judgmental. This thread is interlaced with justifications that it sets the scene ‘because old people are known to be a certain way’ .

And it isn’t only Bert who has argued the point.

“Good for that woman, and good for the dad.”

Hear hear!

I don't care how old she was, she was rude and nosey! It was none of her business.