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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

OP posts:
klondike555 · 22/09/2018 04:26

I'm sorry to hear things have escalated so far.

The fact her husband left her serves her right and rather confirms that her behaviour overall is/was completely out of control and that this wasn't an isolated incident. In your shoes, I'd feel rather vindicated by that. I hope he has full custody of the child/ren.

TheMaddHugger · 22/09/2018 05:19

All the (((((Madd Hugs))))

PeePeeHula · 22/09/2018 05:33

Oh OP... Hang in there! I hope it all series down soon for you and your family. FlowersCakeBrew

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/09/2018 05:50

My goodness! Your thread just arrived back in trending. How awful for you! I’m really glad the thread has given you solace and strength over the past few months. I also think she has some kind of quite pronounced untreated mental health problem. Take good care of yourself. Flowers

Groovee · 22/09/2018 06:08

Sorry to hear it has escalated more. Hoping you are ok x

ThinkOfAWittyNameLater · 22/09/2018 06:17

I'm really pleased that these threads have helped fortify you during this ordeal.
Keep on keeping on.
Hugs

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 22/09/2018 07:37

Oh op. Sorry to hear it’s still ongoing. I often think of you and wonder how you are but I know you can’t update. I’m glad us lot have helped in some way. You have a whole bunch of people here on your side.

Take care. Hope things calm down soon. Flowers

whiteroseredrose · 22/09/2018 07:58

This is truly unbelievable. Not that I don't believe you obviously. Her initial behaviour was bizarre but this is awful. Hope everything is OK and thinking of you.

BunsOfAnarchy · 22/09/2018 09:43

Its taken me nearly an hour (poss more?) to read all the threads.

So sorry OP at how far this has gone! I cant beleive it has come to this. I hope you are okay and sz seeks some help for her mental health. She is really off her rocker!

Glaciferous · 22/09/2018 11:48

Oh god, you poor woman. Good luck with everything.

Ninabean17 · 22/09/2018 12:38

Oh god, op I'm sorry. I hope this gets sorted for you, ASAP.

DisappearingGirl · 22/09/2018 20:39

Just adding to the many posts saying I do think of you OP and hope you're okay! What an awful situation! I thought you handled it brilliantly right from the start. Some people are just messed up Flowers

MyDressHasPockets · 22/09/2018 21:17

I have name changed since your ordeal started but just wanted say that I hope you and your family are okay and this woman is now leaving you alone.

Cagliostro · 22/09/2018 21:27

Oh god. This has to be enough to stop her now surely? :( I hope she actually does get some help too, for the sake of everyone around her as well as herself.
Take care OP x

AHoleInTheWorld · 22/09/2018 21:30

I've followed all the threads, I really hope the end of this is truly coming to an end for you and your family.

Take care. Flowers

gottastopeatingchocolate · 22/09/2018 22:34

Wishing you the very best, OP.

SezziBaybee · 22/09/2018 23:12

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BobLemon · 22/09/2018 23:32

Shock just... Shock

sockunicorn · 23/09/2018 00:00

im so sorry its gotten to this OP. love to you and yours Flowers

Graphista · 23/09/2018 00:04

Sorry you're still dealing with this shit though it sounds like it's STARTING to get resolved. Hope it's fully resolved for you soon.

SalemBlackCat · 23/09/2018 00:18

So sorry to hear that she still hasn't stopped. I hope one day when you are in a position to, you can tell us everything.

findingmywaytoday · 23/09/2018 00:23

Sorry to hear this. Had hoped it had fizzled out. Good luck to you op!

Wondermoomin · 23/09/2018 00:33

She's paying you damages..? You mean you made a claim against her, and the court made an award in your favour? What an extraordinary turn of events. I can't believe how this escalated from such small beginnings.

t00dle00 · 23/09/2018 00:45

Sorry to hear that this is still an ongoing situation op. Thanks

Gemini69 · 23/09/2018 00:48

just adding my unwavering support Lady... you have endured such awful nastiness at the deluded hands of this woman.... sending the very best of wishes Flowers

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