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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

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Defrack · 23/08/2018 23:14

Hope everything is ok?

SandAndSea · 23/08/2018 23:55

So sorry you're going through this. Hope you're OK. Flowers

Graphista · 24/08/2018 00:17

So very sorry you're still dealing with this and that its escalated in such a dreadful way. Hope it gets resolved.properli soon Flowers

goforthandmultiply · 24/08/2018 00:31

Just seen this. I really hope you are ok as you really don't need this craziness right now. I hope it's dealt with properly and everything calms down for you.

Ignoramusgiganticus · 24/08/2018 01:08

Good luck with eradicating her from your lives.

DaydreamBelieverer · 24/08/2018 01:38

So sorry with what you've been through. I've been a lurker and honestly believed it couldn't get more crazy. Really hope you're as ok as possible.

Bubbaduck · 24/08/2018 12:58

NCed since I last posted, think I lost the thread around the Aldi moment and just caught up now. I'm so sorry it's gone this far now. ThanksThanksThanks I hope it can all be resolved ASAP without any further stress on you OP. Thanks

ReanimatedSGB · 27/08/2018 15:02

Sympathies and good wishes to OP. (I was off MN for a while and wondered what had happened with this business.)

franchesco · 27/08/2018 15:10

I just searched this thread to see how you're getting on OP. Hope you are holding up ok with all this mess she has created :;

happypoobum · 27/08/2018 15:20

So sorry OP - hopefully it will go in your favour that everything has been logged with police over time and you have so many witnesses to her crazy behaviour. Flowers

SezziBaybee · 06/09/2018 22:31

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PlinkPlink · 11/09/2018 15:40

Any news OP? I've been lurking through all the threads. Wondering how you are and if it's all been dealt with.

Seriously gobsmacked at all of this. Hope you're okay Flowers

TinyPaws · 12/09/2018 20:28

OP, I know you can't update but just want to let you know I'm thinking of you and hoping for a good resolution. I've been following this saga from the beginning, she's totally nuts and it must be having such a huge impact on you.

MulticolourMophead · 12/09/2018 20:38

I've also been following, under more than one name, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed you get the right resolution. Thanks

MrsMozart · 12/09/2018 20:50

Just caught up with the last update.

Bloody hell lass. Hope you're all okay.

HeyThatsNotMyName · 15/09/2018 21:44

@Unreasonableunreasonableness I know you can't update for obvious reasons but after reading all of the threads and following closely, I wanted to offer my thoughts and I hope all is on its way to being resolved Thanks

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 21/09/2018 21:15

Hi everyone! Thanks for all the messages I've recieved. I'm sorry I haven't replied to most, there were rather more than I expected!
Unfortunately things have continued to escalate on this end including her partner leaving and her now having to pay us some damages. I still can't give any more details but just wanted to say I pop back to the thread every now and then to reread your support when things get tough.

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AllyMcBeagle · 21/09/2018 21:32

Glad you're OK OP Flowers

FrancisCrawford · 21/09/2018 21:34

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GrumbleBumble · 21/09/2018 21:37

"no good deed goes unpunished!" I better you never imagined this nightmare chain of events would unfold from the very kind act of paying for adult meals are a kids soft play party. I hope normality returns to your life soon and that people are helping you through this in real life. WineFlowers

anitagreen · 21/09/2018 21:40

Jesus Christ she must have some mental health issues to still be doing all this? Really feel for you it's bloody shit OpThanks

RandomMess · 21/09/2018 21:47
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Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 21/09/2018 22:00

If she's paying you damages then I hope that means there has been some kind of resolution. Social services showing up mist have felt so intrusive and awful for you and o really hope you got through that with the same strength and dignity you've maintained throughout this.

Her partner finally saw what she was like, your other friends will have too. Stay strong and hope that her punishment now puts an end to it. But keep yourself safe just incase!

Motoko · 21/09/2018 22:44

It would be nice if those posters who kept posting on the threads to say you were making a mountain out of a molehill, or made out you were a troll who was making all this up, would come back to apologise to you. It can't have been easy for you to read those posts when you were trying to deal with the mad shit SZ was getting up to.

I'm sorry to hear things carried on escalating, and hope she leaves you alone now.

BlueEyedBengal · 22/09/2018 01:07

Sorry to hear it's still a problem, I hope life gets back to normal very soon for you.Thanks