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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

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ListenLinda · 09/08/2018 21:29

Bloody hell i’m sorry to hear how things have turned out OP, she is definately unhinged and stepping up the hate.
When it’s okay to, please come back and let us know you’re okay.

DartmoorDoughnut · 09/08/2018 21:33

FFS! You poor thing Sad

SezziBaybee · 09/08/2018 21:41

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Willow2017 · 09/08/2018 22:37

Bloody hell Unreasonable what a crazy, vindictive bitch she is.
So sorry things have escalated.

Hopefully the police and your solicitor will deal with her properly now and she will get whats coming to her.

Hope all your friends and family are rallying round you. You have plenty witnesses to her craziness for sure.

Take care, try not to let her get to you, I know its hard but you have done nothing wrong and SS will see that.

Update when you can, we will all be here.

Flowers
youarenot · 09/08/2018 22:51

Having read all your threads, this is the first time I have commented but find myself worried for/about you!
I never thought I would say this but I really hope it was just a malicious accusation that was made to SS and not a case of SZ turning up at your home or putting you &/or DC in danger that resulted in police attending, who had to refer it on :( As once SS realise it was malicious they will leave you alone rather than something that has consquences beyond the initial annoyance/upset/worry caused by a malicious allegation.

piefacedClique · 09/08/2018 22:56
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Lana1234 · 09/08/2018 23:02

Have followed your threads since day 1 on this is but this is my first time commenting. Just wanted to wish you, your DH and children well. I really hope your able to get this dealt with and she is out of your lives for good. Stay strong OP. Flowers

itis · 10/08/2018 07:47

Would anyone be willing to put a brief summary of everything that has happened please? I've only just seen these threads and tried to read through it all last night but got lost.

Just hope you're ok OP? What a horrible situation you've find yourself in.

Berthatydfil · 10/08/2018 08:21

Gosh how awful for you - I’m more if a lurker than a poster but I followed your threads since the “who invites/who pays” thread.
Hope everything is ok with you and your family.

Whereismumhiding2 · 10/08/2018 08:28

@itis
OP has said she can no longer post as things have taken a very serious turn and are going down Legal route.

If you want a "summary of previous threads" read back, there are plenty.

Totally inappropriate for anyone to add or ask for one now in light of the above - PLEASE do not!!

There's a difference between briefly wishing OP now, and wanting it all rehashed against OP's request.

Whereismumhiding2 · 10/08/2018 08:38

Well that came out blunter than I intended @itis Smile
Appreciate you wanted to be supportive to OP. She's had support as things went on at the time through threads.

Now's the time to stop detail discussing and do the generic wish her well posts which people are doing. OP said she'd let MNs know when she's able to, in future.

Motoko · 10/08/2018 10:17

@itis Just highlight OP's posts in the threads and it will make reading them easier, no need to read the whole threads.

OP I'm really sorry things have got so bad, I hope it gets resolved to your satisfaction and wish you all the best. Flowers

TheMaddHugger · 10/08/2018 10:55

All the ((((Madd Hugs)))) Sweetie All the ((((Madd hugs))))

TawnyTeal · 10/08/2018 11:44

I'm so hoping this is resolved finally and permanently as soon as possible, OP. Wishing you strength for this (hopefully) final stage. Warm hugs, 💐

ThreadKillerMonster · 10/08/2018 13:21

I have name changed since this first began - but wanted to say Good Luck and send you very best wishes that this is soon over. Blimey there are some evil people out there. Flowers for you

DancingOnMyOwn · 10/08/2018 16:21

Have spent hours reading all your thread so OP and am genuinely shocked how it's turned out. I hope you are okay and things settle down for you, can't imagine what you have gone through for the last few months Flowers

redexpat · 10/08/2018 16:37

Crikey. Sorry to hear about this latest development. Just keep calm and keep doing what youve been doing FlowersStarWineBrew

Littlemissdaredevil · 10/08/2018 20:33

Sorry to hear this has taken a turn for the worst unreasonable. I hope one day you will be able to come back here and post and let us know everything worked out ok

SauvignonBlanche · 10/08/2018 20:37

Sorry to hear how things have progressed OP.

Lillyringlet · 13/08/2018 08:58

Oh you poor thing!

I agree with others in making sure you look down any other ways she's going to try like work, family or other things.

Worth a look at cctv and getting a rape alarm just so that if she escalated yet again you have some sort of protection or proof.

wictional · 13/08/2018 19:01

Thinking of you, OP! Been following from the start and I’m sorry it’s got this far!

acatcalledjohn · 13/08/2018 22:38

Bloody hell OP. Sending good wishes your way.

Lorddenning1 · 17/08/2018 13:28

only just caught up now, fucking hell OP, so sorry to hear whats been going on, sending you well wishes x

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 20/08/2018 23:33

Thinking of you unreasonableness and hoping that the situation will soon be resolved xxx

Powerless · 21/08/2018 07:00

@Unreasonableunreasonableness I PM'd you last week. No rush to reply of course. Sending Thanks & Gin & strength