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Soft - and sneaky - zilla

612 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 22/06/2018 16:17

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

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VforVienetta · 09/08/2018 12:26

Bloody hell OP, really sorry to hear this.
Probably very handy to have this thread with dates/incidents noted, but it sounds like she needs to be charged with something (stalking? Harassment?) - involving SS maliciously is beyond awful.

I hope the police are helping resolve this, and a restraining order is put in place ASAP.

Take care Thanks

BonjourMinou · 09/08/2018 12:26

Calmed down not turned down I meant, sorry.

Yarnswift · 09/08/2018 12:35

Oh you poor thing. Her trying to get the address you were at is really sinister.

Please take care of yourself - all this is very stressful along with the everything g you’ve done with the relative. SS are used to malicious reports, and you have the police and the group on your side, but it’s strrssful all the same.

I really hope you get some decisive action from the police here. Best of luck.

GoingToInfinity · 09/08/2018 12:44

Oh goodness, this is so bloody awful for you OP. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this.
I'm glad that you've got legal support and I really hope you get some resolution soon Thanks

TheLionRoars1110 · 09/08/2018 12:45

All the best OP! i hope it's all resolved quickly and stays resolved. I'm sorry it's turned into such a horrible situation for you.

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 09/08/2018 13:07

Good luck unreasonable, so sorry this is still continuing but really hope you get a decent resolution via the legal route. Flowers

YeTalkShiteHen · 09/08/2018 13:10

Sorry to hear this OP, thank goodness you already had a record of events with the police! Hopefully it’ll all get sorted out soon. Bear

YeTalkShiteHen · 09/08/2018 13:10

Flowers not Bear! Stupid nail extensions!

amicissimma · 09/08/2018 13:13

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JessBradleyTheBusStopWanker · 09/08/2018 13:23

This is just mental, I have followed it from day one ( but name changed). The woman is obviously unstable and needs some serious help/intervention. I just can not believe how its blown up to this.

TheRealKimmySchmidt63 · 09/08/2018 14:02

All the best how awful Thanks

anitagreen · 09/08/2018 14:10

I just realised she must of found your address to be able to tell social services where to go? Or do they get them from the electro roll or something? She's so fucking creepy I hope she goes away soon x

MyNameIsNotRachel · 09/08/2018 15:35

Holy shit! Good luck OP look after yourself and your family!

Jux · 09/08/2018 16:25

Unreasonable, gosh that is dreadful. You poor thing. I do hope she's dealt with quickly and strongly. Flowers

Wildheartsease · 09/08/2018 17:04

So sorry you have had to deal with this.

I hope that it can be resolved soon and that you will eventually have peace.

Until you can post again - I will be thinking of you and wishing you freedom from this weird Alice-in-wonderland set of problems you have had to face.

LakieLady · 09/08/2018 17:17

Holy shit. So sorry you're having to go through this, OP. She's proper unhinged.

I really hope it all gets resolved soon, and that your RL friends are supporting you well.

Clutterbugsmum · 09/08/2018 17:19

I'm so sorry things with Softzilla are getting so much worse, I really hope this is the beginning of the end of her torture of you and your family and the police and legal system can keep her away from you.

RandomMess · 09/08/2018 17:30

Thankshow awful who needs this kind of unnecessary hassle in their life Angry

SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 09/08/2018 19:42

Wow.
She will have no grounds or evidence.
You however have multiple witnesses and a huge array of evidence. Even the police are aware of her.
It won't be long before SS realise this. They must get this all the time - they just have to follow up on everything.
Stay strong

MumW · 09/08/2018 19:52

Bloody Hell. All this because of a misguided belief that someone should pay her entrance fee to a playbarn.

Lots of FlowersCakeWine.

I'm sure this will resolve itself eventually. I really hope it happens quickly and that the inevitable stress is kept to a minimum.

Also Flowers for PM and GL as they have no doubt been dragged into all this. (And Chocolate for all the children, including SZ's as they are all innocent victims)

It's a shame, although obviously appropriate, that you have to stop posting as we'll no longer be able to provide a platform for venting and support.

I'm sure I speak for most of us following this - we'll be thinking of you and hoping that things are progressing satisfactorily.

Good luck.

VodkaLimeSoda27 · 09/08/2018 19:55

This is awful Sad so sorry OP. Wish you the best in sorting this out, and will be thinking of you Flowers

LaContessaDiPlump · 09/08/2018 20:00

Shit. I'm sorry op.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 09/08/2018 20:05

I hope they can do something to keep her away from you Unreasonable. When it's safe to, please let us know you're okay. Flowers

MorrisDancingViv · 09/08/2018 20:11

I have been following your posts although I don't think I have commented.

I'm sorry this has happened, she sounds like a complete fruit loop. It seems as though you have plenty of contemporaneous evidence which should assist you with social services Flowers, good luck.

BerylStreep · 09/08/2018 21:01

Fucking hell. I can't say I am particularly surprised. She is the very definition of obsessive tenacity.

I'm sorry to say, but now that she has gone on full on attack mode, I don't think it will stop there. Do you have an employer? What about your DH? Does she know where either of you work? She will be contacting any employers or customers she knows about, so I would get in there first and tell them that your family are the target of a hate campaign and that the police are involved. I can also guarantee that she will have contacted the school which your DC are due to attend.

I'd also be prepared for the inevitable (anonymous) allegations that your DH has been having an affair either with her or others.

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