Soft - and sneaky - zilla

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

So at group today she tried to do the same as last week. As soon as party mum lived away from me there she was. This week tho we'd decided that party mum would just come back to me when she wanted (and group leader was waiting to ask her to leave if she followed). Whenever she was with me softzilla stayed away, but as soon as she left my side there she'd be. Softzilla left early as has become normal.
Unfortunately the group is a church group. Tho group leader runs the group technically the vicar oversees. And he had said that until softzilla does something wrong AT GROUP he doesn't want them to get involved.
However, in a possibly slightly more sinister turn, me and party mum decided to go Aldi on the way home. It could be a coincidence but when we turned an aisle there was softzilla. Every time we turned an aisle. When we went to the tills she joined the line next to us. And when we got out she'd parked right next to my car too. She didn't acknowledge us but was just there. It could be a coincidence but she has been VERY vocal in the past about not shopping there (wouldn't ever fed her DC cheap food! She'd only feed them quality.)
I know it seems like nothing but I'm glad party mum was there and feel like I'll be looking over my shoulder again. Police? Or still too minor? She didn't approach and it could have been a coincidence.

Best of luck with this OP. I have been reading for months now; can’t believe this hasn’t ended yet. I really hope it’s all resolved okay as soon as possible

It will blow over now that it's escalated. Blowing over means, a heap of hassle, hours of time and inconvenience, of course.

She's in need of either a diagnosis or a legal punishment.

Hang on in there.

Gosh she is really fixated on you.

Something about that those times when she wanted you to pay for her DC really triggered something in her.

It's terrible for you OP. Psychologically it would be fascinating to know how her mind works.

Goodness I hope you're all ok - good luck with sorting the problem

@mateysmum
Blimey! She's not just bonkers but vindictive as well if my 2+2 is adding up correctly as to why social services turned up.
Because she is nuts, she doesn't realise how much evidence and how many witnesses there are who would vouch for you against her.

Exactly. The bat shit crazy people really get so intensely into their world that they forget there are others watching, full on witnesses who can testify against them later. I had this happen with an ex-friend/flatmate of mine that turned crazy on me. She believed so intensely that she was right that she ended up verbally and emotionally abusing me right in front of our landlord even though he was standing right behind her. I just looked at him over her shoulder and he was shocked. He had tried to stay neutral before that moment and finally saw what she was like.

This was when I was moving out of the house and I specifically requested he be there to keep the peace along with my partner. When I privately gave him the keys at the end of the day, he said, "HOLY SHIT. YOU'RE LEAVING ME WITH THE CRAZY ONE. I didn't realize it was that bad." I just shrugged and apologized.

I really hate how the "norm" is for people to attempt to stay out of it, "stay neutral" or minimize things. No. That's picking the side of the bully/oppressor when the victim needs support. This even happened to the OP on all of her threads. Other posters kept telling her she was overreacting even when it became clear she wasn't.

Newsflash: Some people are just genuinely crazy and they will either browbeat you with it or slowly chip away at your sanity and make you doubt yourself like so many people on the OP's threads have experienced themselves.

Again, good luck @Unreasonableunreasonableness and I hope Softzilla finally fucks off and that authorities take this seriously.

Unreasonable. How awful for you, on top of everything else. This woman is clearly very unhinged. You have acted appropriately and in good faith and it sounds like you have a lot of friends on your side.

Take care, and I hope this all resolves very quickly.

Holy shit. I'm so sorry Unreasonable. Good luck, hope it is over very soon

I hope everything works out in the end OP. I know that you can't update anymore but I will be keeping my fingers crossed that it will all calm down and go away sometime soon.

Fuck. She's in serious need of help/an intervention/restraining.

mateysmum, I'm a bit slow on the uptake –what is the 2 + 2 about why social services got involved?

OP I think you have handled the situation with a lot of dignity and hopefully this woman will get what she deserves.

Good luck and be strong - you'll be fine

Niikita I'm speculating that Softzilla made an allegation to them re *unreasonable's" kids.
Social services don't just turn up unless they have been given reason to think children are at risk.

Wow, I have followed your threads with interest. I am so sorry you are lumbered with this. I hope it all goes well and you do feel able to update in the future.

I am sure I am not the only one genuinely concerned how this is affecting your life. Good luck OP.

for you @Unreasonableunreasonableness

So sorry she's escalated things even more but hope you can find a resolution soon. Your posts on here serve as evidence of dates and times of her strange actions.

The authorities are used to dealing with malicious allegations, they will see her for what she is, I wouldn't be surprised if she's done this to other people in the past. (I'd be trying to find out)

Please try not to worry, you are in the right and will be vindicated, it's just a slog jumping through all the hoops for now.

Blimey, this is so bad but shows how an insignificant incident can escalate. Good you contacted the police early doors...

Thank goodness you contacted the Police so early on in this - at least you have supporting evidence that there is an issue and it’s NOT with you.

Take care my lovely - thinking of you and hoping the outcome is positive and this ends well for you all - this lass is obviously in need of some serious professional help.

for you - looking forward to hearing all is (finally) well with you and yours

Thanks mateysmum

Jesus. She's unhinged.

Good luck OP, take care, I hope things get sorted soon.
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Sorry to hear things have got so bad OP and hope they are resolved quickly. You're very unfortunate to have had this loon come into your life.

I hope you have all your posts on the various threads backed up as a contemporaneous diary of all the craziness, it may be useful to have in the course of whatever proceedings follow, even though police have been involved and will have their own records. If for some reason you needed to have your threads deleted it might be a pain if you don't have your own copies. Good luck.

OP, this is such a crap thing to be happening to you but hopefully having kept all her behaviour noted on this thread will actually help you with times/places/details.

I hope you get this sorted quickly but my guess is that it will take you a while to truly put it behind you. It was just very bad luck you met her.

Jesus Christ have you tried to phone a mental health advisor and see if they think there is an issue here as I strongly suspect she has mh issues

Op I've been filling the softzilla saga since the start and I can't believe it's gotten so bad! I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I hope everything calms down for you and that there is some serious consequence for her. Good luck.

Fuck! That's terrifying. Sorry OP. I am glad you are getting legal help x

My god op, i cannot believe it has turned into this! Hope you are ok as its the last thing you need

Oh my goodness I'm so sorry to read it's taken this turn!
I too had hoped it had all turned down. Fingers crossed the police help you resolve all this quickly.