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AIBU?

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Aibu to hit the roof with my husband

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Antonia87 · 22/06/2018 13:20

My husband has accidently given my toddler son a carpet burn. He rough plays with him which I think is healthy and good for their bond. However, he has taken to playing a game which involves my son being dragged by his leg across the rug. The baby squeals with delight which encourages my husband. I have warned him not to do it as it looks unsafe . Husband didn't listen. This morning he tried it on the carpet and my sons t-shirt rode up and he now has a carpet burn. I am livid! I informed my husband of his stupidity and he has brushed it off as not a big deal but promises not to do it again on the carpet. I have told him that the game is never to happen again. He is fighting me on it. AIBU?

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ItDoesMyHeadIn · 22/06/2018 13:26

Just sounds like your typical man-child, no harm intended but yes it shouldn't happen again.

livefornaps · 22/06/2018 13:28

To be fair, it does sound fun.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 22/06/2018 13:30

Hit the roof with your husband? Can you throw him that high up?

YABU he was playing, it was an accident. Tell him to get a sleeping bag, one of the shiny kind and drag him round in that. Much less friction than skin. Great also for sliding down the stairs in

MissP103 · 22/06/2018 13:30

Oh fgs get over yourself. He said he wont do it on the carpet so who are you to say never again. My dh plays a similar game with ds and as long as they are having fun then it's fine.

eurgh · 22/06/2018 13:31

To be honest I think it does sound like you're possible being a bit precious - livid is a strong word when it sounds like they were playing. These things happen - how would you feel if DH was 'livid' with you if your son had a harmless accident when you're playing with him....because I promise it will happen at some point.

greendale17 · 22/06/2018 13:33

Oh fgs get over yourself. He said he wont do it on the carpet so who are you to say never again.

^This. You sound a bit controlling

EstrellaDamn · 22/06/2018 13:33

My FIL did this to my son: he had horrible, painful burns on his shoulder blades. Every morning his pyjamas had stuck to the weeping burns. It was nasty.

I didn't say anything beyond trying to point it out with a bit of kindness; he already felt guilty so me making it worse wouldn't have changed anything.

Rachie1973 · 22/06/2018 13:33

he has brushed it off as not a big deal

Because it's not.

clownfaces · 22/06/2018 13:34

Why do you get to decide if the game is played again?
I think you should chill out - accidents happen.

HariboIsMyCrack · 22/06/2018 13:34

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Raspberry88 · 22/06/2018 13:35

Ooooh, the sleeping bag idea is a great idea! But no OP, it's not a big deal at all, accidents happen!

Mulberry72 · 22/06/2018 13:36

YABU.

KinkyAfro · 22/06/2018 13:36

He didn't do it on purpose, it was an accident, bit of an overreaction OP

TeddyIsaHe · 22/06/2018 13:36

Oh come on! He’s not purposefully done it, are you saying that you’ve never accidentally hurt your toddler? Dd creeps up behind me and I almost stand on her daily.
YABU

Ohmydayslove · 22/06/2018 13:36

Dear god!

Have you name changed from the ‘it’s too hot for nursery thread?’

LagunaBubbles · 22/06/2018 13:38

Yes yabu. And completely over reacting.

PaddyF0dder · 22/06/2018 13:38

Calm down.

It was an accident. You said so yourself. He didn’t want to hurt his child and I doubt he’d want to do it again.

Distress tolerance. You need to learn it. Not just for you, but for your son. If you freak out at every little injury you’re doing no good by him. And you’ve got a lot of (hopefully) minor injuries yet to come given his young age.

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Antonia87 · 22/06/2018 13:40

Ok, fair enough, maybe I am being a bit PFB but it looks really nasty and I had previously warned him it was a silly idea. Thanks for the perspective . No, not name changed.

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GameFrame · 22/06/2018 13:40

It's not really up to you whether he does it ever again - you are not the chief parent! He's said he won't do it again on the carpet, that's enough. You are being way over thd top and you owe your husband an apology.

NCbecauseIdontwanttooutasaman · 22/06/2018 13:41

You sound fun. Your son got a mild abrasion, not lost a leg. It's part of growing up, you either need to accept that he will get bumps and bruises and act calmly or he will learn to hide things from you (as will your husband)

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 22/06/2018 13:41

Total over reaction. I remember playing with my DF as a kid like this and I got carpet burn as well, never bothered me. I loved having fun with him.

Maybe get him to do it on a blanket next time but don't stop their fun over a carpet burn. Kids get scrapes.

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Antonia87 · 22/06/2018 13:42

Oh, and I am definately controlling . Really trying to work on it and DH is very patient with me .

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livefornaps · 22/06/2018 13:42

All these molly coddled kids wrapped up in cotton wool, Jesus.

TwoBlueShoes · 22/06/2018 13:44

I disagree with the others. I knew a guy who managed to dislocate his kids leg playing like this. There are safer ways to play.

cjt110 · 22/06/2018 13:44

Much worse will come of your child than a carpet burn. His leg isn't hanging off to chalk it up to experience and get a handle on yourself.

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