Aibu to hit the roof with my husband

[Antonia87]

My husband has accidently given my toddler son a carpet burn. He rough plays with him which I think is healthy and good for their bond. However, he has taken to playing a game which involves my son being dragged by his leg across the rug. The baby squeals with delight which encourages my husband. I have warned him not to do it as it looks unsafe . Husband didn't listen. This morning he tried it on the carpet and my sons t-shirt rode up and he now has a carpet burn. I am livid! I informed my husband of his stupidity and he has brushed it off as not a big deal but promises not to do it again on the carpet. I have told him that the game is never to happen again. He is fighting me on it. AIBU?

It was totally unintentional and these things happen. I once slipped on a Ninky Nonk and dropped my whole baby! Slap a bit of Sudocreme on and he'll be fine. You can't go around insisting everyone just sits still and has no fun, it's not reasonable. The sleeping bag idea is a good tip. Definitely don't recreate your own bobsleigh run by posting a child down the stairs in a washing basket

There are safer ways to play.

Sleeping bag

Better than playing on an iPad

I do very very occasionally feel sorry for men. They can't win can they? Unclench OP no harm was done.

Bobsleigh sounds terrifying but I will suggest sleeping back. Toddler is only 18 months by the way!

Washing basket!! Brilliant. I will not do that.

DSIS and I spent hours in a sleeping bag going down the stairs (both in at same time- one of us was always in the bottom as the impact absorber for when we hit the front door) or dragging each other round the front room.

Hey OP, i think you need to relax a little, i do this with my daughter and she loves it, only do it once or twice though due to their soft skin, as long as he's a bit more careful it should be fine and sounds like your son has a great time :-)

My husband bit our toddler son as part of a game they used to play - son lying on his back, husband biting the t shirt/jumper and worrying at it like a dog - lots of doggy noises and burying his nose him toddler's tummy. One day he misjudged the thickness of the fabric and bit the skin.

There was no need to hit the roof - husband knew he had hurt the toddler and never hurt him again. The game continued but husband was more careful in future.

This thread is just whack. You’re fine that your husband plays a biting game with your kid? 🤯

And I thought I was a fairly laid-back parent.

Glad its happened to someone else too! I get a bit paranoid about what others might think after G.P questioned bruises on my sons lower legs. They were obviously from bashing himself while learning to walk but everyone is so anxious about safeguarding nowadays.

Every morning his pyjamas had stuck to the weeping burns. It was nasty.

If they were that bad why hadn’t you treated them? Or at least dressed them to make sure his pyjamas didn’t stick to them???

OP I get where you’re coming from, but honestly I’d chalk it up to experience. Kids get bumps/bruises/carpet burns from playing without adults. I’ve learned over the years to relax a little, you can’t wrap them in bubble wrap (much as it’s bloody tempting sometimes!)

With safeguarding they’re looking for unusual bruising, so in places that aren’t “normal” kid bruises.

Shins? Normal. Inner thighs? Not normal. That sort of thing, so they’re looking for out of the ordinary unexplained bruising iyswim?

Our nursery has a wee form where you fill in any injuries your child has before they go in. This summer because they’ve been out the back playing a lot I feel like I’ve filled in legs and arms for every day! Skinned knees, bruises, skinned elbows....the list is endless?

Didn’t mean the ?

Glad you've seen perspective before everyone piles in.

Mine are teens and my dh is still a bit too boisterous with them for my liking!

When one of them was 4, he over exuberantly threw him into a pool and split his chin 🙄 he bears the scar today.

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With safeguarding they’re looking for unusual bruising, so in places that aren’t “normal” kid bruises.

That's an over simplistic statement. A safeguarding assessment will include other factors as well - such as whether the explanation given is consistent with the injury, even when the injury may be in a 'usual' place where children can injure themselves. Also, whether the children are getting those 'usual' injuries as a result of not being supervised adequately.

I used to drag my two around in an old duvet cover, they loved it.

That's an over simplistic statement

It was I agree, sorry. It was to reassure OP that “usual” childhood injuries wouldn’t prompt SS to come banging the door down. I know it’s all taken in context and if further investigation is needed it is done.

We used to slide down my grandparents massive staircase on a big old tin tray! 6 of us at a time was feckin brilliant! But then we weren’t allowed any more because my auntie thought it was dangerous, so had to use duvets instead and I got concussion!

YABU

It was an accident

My 4.7 year old is permanently covered in bumps, bruises, grazes and more serious-looking and often mysterious “baddies”. Sometimes we can’t even tell how they happened. I expect your standards of serious injury will lower with time...

Glad its happened to someone else too! I get a bit paranoid about what others might think after G.P questioned bruises on my sons lower legs. They were obviously from bashing himself while learning to walk but everyone is so anxious about safeguarding nowadays.

Ok this explains the reaction a little more. I get where you are coming from OP. When mine were little I used to worry about this too - my sons legs especially were always covered in bruises too as he was always tearing around. I'm surprised your GP questioned it but of course that would make you anxious.

I used to love the 'getting dragged around in a sleeping bag' game even though I could hardly breathe!

Well done op for coming back and taking things on board.

Don’t worry about bruises it’s unexolained or bruises in unexpected places with no viable story attached that cause concern

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Ah yes, the rabid dog game.

My kids used to lie down, raise a leg up and demand to be dragged around.

When they weren’t hassling my brother to play Rushing Zombies.

I'd be furious but I have psychiatric issues... Invest in a Billibo and shin/elbow pads.