Aibu and not volunteer again

[Metoodear]

So I got myself on a very important volunteer job 6 months ago as I was only working one day a week

So thought I would do some good recently I had to resign as I have a pt job 3 days a week and tbh the volunteer job needs doing well and I wouldn’t have the time as I don’t want to a shit job because I am trying to do to much

Sent a lovey letter about how much I had enjoyed myself and thanked them for the opportunity

I didn’t even get a smiley face emoji back
Ducking rude or is it just me and they wonder why they struggle to get people

Aibu to think I should of got even a email thanking me for my time

I have volunteered with two very high profile organisations, one I was with for 7 y ears the other 3. The 3 years didn't even acknowledge when offering resignation. The 7 year one did though with phone calls, very nice message in a card and a £10 voucher for M & S. The longer one was exceptional on management and support for volunteers. The shorter one, not worth mentioning.

Wow, how very unpleasant and condascending some posters have been on this thread. Some shameful nasty responses that are wholly undeserved.

OP, of course YANBU to expect a farewell "thank you". You are perfectly entitled to leave to move on to paid work to financially support your family, but still have a reasonable expectation to be thanked for your free labour by the people you volunteered for.

I thank people all the time who have provided me with a service I PAID for... the lovely check-out lady in Tesco, the nice waitress who served me in a cafe yesterday, my sons swimming teacher. Because it's basic bloody manners. BASIC.

But people who volunteer for zero financial gain, giving up their precious time, should most certainly be thanked, regardless of length of volunteering service or why they can no longer continue.

Good on you. And all the best in your new job OP

Tajethemdown - "When Christmas came and the staff exchanged gifts they hadn't even got him so much as a card. He didn't want a gift at all but a card would have been nice or even something made from the kids."

What a truly horrible thing to do to a young man giving up his free time to help out a charity. That's made me feel quite hurt on your DSs behalf. Poor thing. I really don't blame him for not going back. I understand its not the card or the gift, it's the blatant exclusion and ungrateful nasty attitude.

I agree completely, Polish ... you'll probably think me silly but Takethemdown's post brought a real lump to my throat. Just what kind of people wouldn't even get a card for a 14 year old lad - a volunteer at that - and leave him with nothing while they laughed and chatted over gifts?

ITakethemdown
Thats bloody disgusting. How sad thst these people work with kids yet are so awful to a young lad who helped them so much and actually worked instead of farting about.
I wouldnt have gone back either.
He sounds a lovely lad i am sure you are proud of him.

The biggest reason for people leaving paid employment is because they don't feel valued, but at least they are compensated with pay. I am appalled by those that are saying that volunteers don't deserve a thank you. Everyone deserves a thank you for a good job, it costs absolutely nothing and failure to do this just highlights a very poor culture and management style.

As for everyone who is mocking the OP for her SPaG, she has acknowledged that this is a weakness, critiscing and correcting every subsequent post is both pedantic and intimidating.

And I'm aware that my autocorrect just misspelled 'criticising' in my post.

user1484424013 charming

Flippyfloppyflower why charming exactly?!

It's important to expect ingratitude in life. Recently left a job after 2 years and nobody gave a shit, it's the norm really.

Wills …….. emmmmmmmm Sarcasm?! Tis an expression used where I hail from in response to such vile language such as user1484424013
used.

In fact I am actually appalled that MNHQ has not deleted that post particular post yet

I have the attitude ‘expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed’.
Of course they should have thanked you. But it may have have been an oversight too.

I don't think YBU op. I work with volunteers and I would definitely thank them AT LEAST. And ask if they'd like a reference etc. We would probably arrange a little leaving 'goodbye' cake too. It could be they've overlooked your email out of busyness? Perhaps send a follow up saying 'I hope you received my email...'

Sadly it is a common experience for volunteers now that charities have fully embraced corporate culture. I volunteer a significant amount of time for a charitable group and only recently had to remind the new CEO that I was not a member of the paid staff he could just order around.

I think what you wanted was some nice words like lovely working with you or we'll miss you etc.
That would have been really nice but I guess they didn't feel the need.

I really get this post OP. I've been volunteering for 6 months now and the lady I work with/for goes out if her way at least 3 times a day to thank me. I don't expect it but it makes me feel good. The work I do is so rewarding that I don't feel like I need gratitude from the organisation, but it is still nice at the end of the day.

SalemBlackCat

Yes, you should have been thanked. It is basic manners.

However others also think learning to write proper sentences with full stops (ie this little thing . ) and not repeating the same mistake after you've been corrected is bad manners. It is lazy and bad manners not to put any effort into communication with others. You clearly want people to read your posts and understand them, and reply to them. So show respect and manners by putting effort into how you communicate. It does not reflect well if you are lazy and show no respect in your written communication. You get the respect and manners that you give.
is my grammer correct now fuck off

Sometimes I think it's because the structure is quite flat and everyone thinks someone else will have done a proper thank you.

😁

I've reported your posts, SalemBlackCat you shouldn't be surprised that you got such a strong response from the OP, because you were downright nasty.

You've made your point about the grammar, as indeed so did I, but this is now just goady.

Wow. Some of the rudest posts I've ever seen on this thread.

It is never polite to correct someone's grammar unless they ask you to. Also SalemBlackCat your punctuation is all over the place and I don't mind if that is rude.

There are people behind these words on a screen. You would do well to remember that.

SalemBlackCat regularly spoils what is a very good discussion, in this case about volunteering, with her goady posts. You should take your own advice and grow up.