Aibu and not volunteer again

[Metoodear]

So I got myself on a very important volunteer job 6 months ago as I was only working one day a week

So thought I would do some good recently I had to resign as I have a pt job 3 days a week and tbh the volunteer job needs doing well and I wouldn’t have the time as I don’t want to a shit job because I am trying to do to much

Sent a lovey letter about how much I had enjoyed myself and thanked them for the opportunity


I didn’t even get a smiley face emoji back
Ducking rude or is it just me and they wonder why they struggle to get people

Aibu to think I should of got even a email thanking me for my time

[Lizzie48]

I agree with likeacrow I've made some of my best friendships when volunteering. The camaraderie can be really special. And it might sound corny, but knowing you've made a positive contribution into the lives of the people you're helping does make it all seem worth it.

It doesn't mean that you're out of order to expect some appreciation, it costs nothing to say thank you after all.

[likeacrow]

Meant to also say, I don't think you should let it put you off volunteering in future. That'd be a real shame.

[JacquesHammer]

Does it make people feel superior or something?!

Pretty much! Under the guise of “doing someone a favour”

[likeacrow]

Why are people being dicks about the OP's spelling/grammar? Totally irrelevant. Does it make people feel superior or something?!
OP: It's a bit annoying/disappointing that you've not received a reply but not that surprising. I'd forget about it.

[ADarkandStormyKnight]

Did I miss something? Are we talking about volunteering for a literacy charity?

[GameFrame]

YANBU

[Juells]

My own pet hate is the way the pronoun 'I' is used as the object in the following way: 'He gave it to my DH and I'

Cliff Richard has a song that always makes me grit my teeth, he sings about something or other "between you and I"

[JacquesHammer]

@Lizzie38

Plenty of people actually write 'should of' though

Oh absolutely with that. Just not with someone who works in a school correcting what is actually correct speech.

[Lizzie48]

That's very true, JacquesHammer with spoken English. Plenty of people actually write 'should of' though. My own pet hate is the way the pronoun 'I' is used as the object in the following way: 'He gave it to my DH and I' when it should be 'DH and me'.

But I don't think Mumsnet is the place to correct grammar or spelling. We're not at school here.

[SalemBlackCat]

I apologise for derailing the thread.

[SalemBlackCat]

I made (until OP had a go at me) one post. One post. How is that 'going on and on'? Many other posters raised it before me, a couple in fact made a few posts about it.

[JacquesHammer]

I worked in a school and have had 8-9yo children saying 'could of' to me. I correct them every time. English is a beautiful and world-wide language, and it is EASY to learn and use - look at all the foreigners who can speak/write it better than some English born

I would have thought you’d have been aware that saying “could of” could well have been them saying “could’ve” which is a completely acceptable contraction of “could have”.

OP - of course YANBU to expect a thank you as an acknowledgment, however you would be unreasonable to let this put you off volunteering altogether.

[Lizzie48]

I think you'll find that you were the one being goady, in going on and on about grammar and punctuation. You're not a teacher in the classroom, after all. That's definitely derailing the thread, which was an interesting one.

I have seen you nitpicking before but yes, I shouldn't have said that you regularly spoil discussions as that really was an exaggeration and I do apologise for that.

We could all call a truce and get back to the point of the thread?

[SalemBlackCat]

Lizzie48 And I was attacked by the OP, so replied. As I am sure you would do, if you were attacked. And how do I regularly spoil discussions? I've had no complaints before. It seems you pulled that one out of thin air. Consider yourself reported.

[Lizzie48]

SalemBlackCat regularly spoils what is a very good discussion, in this case about volunteering, with her goady posts. You should take your own advice and grow up.

[Mookatron]

Wow. Some of the rudest posts I've ever seen on this thread.

It is never polite to correct someone's grammar unless they ask you to. Also SalemBlackCat your punctuation is all over the place and I don't mind if that is rude.

There are people behind these words on a screen. You would do well to remember that.

[Lizzie48]

I've reported your posts, SalemBlackCat you shouldn't be surprised that you got such a strong response from the OP, because you were downright nasty.

You've made your point about the grammar, as indeed so did I, but this is now just goady.

[Juells]

😁

[ADarkandStormyKnight]

Sometimes I think it's because the structure is quite flat and everyone thinks someone else will have done a proper thank you.

[Metoodear]

SalemBlackCat

Yes, you should have been thanked. It is basic manners.

However others also think learning to write proper sentences with full stops (ie this little thing . ) and not repeating the same mistake after you've been corrected is bad manners. It is lazy and bad manners not to put any effort into communication with others. You clearly want people to read your posts and understand them, and reply to them. So show respect and manners by putting effort into how you communicate. It does not reflect well if you are lazy and show no respect in your written communication. You get the respect and manners that you give.
is my grammer correct now fuck off

[Meadowflowers]

I really get this post OP. I've been volunteering for 6 months now and the lady I work with/for goes out if her way at least 3 times a day to thank me. I don't expect it but it makes me feel good. The work I do is so rewarding that I don't feel like I need gratitude from the organisation, but it is still nice at the end of the day.

[Colbu24]

I think what you wanted was some nice words like lovely working with you or we'll miss you etc.
That would have been really nice but I guess they didn't feel the need.

[Daddystepdaddy]

Sadly it is a common experience for volunteers now that charities have fully embraced corporate culture. I volunteer a significant amount of time for a charitable group and only recently had to remind the new CEO that I was not a member of the paid staff he could just order around.

[dorisdog]

I don't think YBU op. I work with volunteers and I would definitely thank them AT LEAST. And ask if they'd like a reference etc. We would probably arrange a little leaving 'goodbye' cake too. It could be they've overlooked your email out of busyness? Perhaps send a follow up saying 'I hope you received my email...'