To hate own clothes day at school?

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It just gets so competitive and clearly differentiates the haves from the have nots... can't I just donate double and DD can wear uniform?

Tbh I think that the children who find fault at xxx would find fault at anything.
Because the issue is about them finding a reason to have a go at someone rather than because there is something wrong with said outfit.

The answer needs to be similar to what you would do when you are getting teased - not reacting and looking at them with a wtf look seems to be what is working best for my own teens.

Our school doesn’t “do” own clothes day. They do things like Comic Relief where kids can wear crazy accessories instead.

When my boys were year 1&2 I had 2 letters Home about history off the page day. Great Fire of London. As I had 2 letters I sent both in dressed up only to realise my Year 1 son was the only one in his class dressed up. I had 2 letters as my elder son somehow bought 2 home. The next year when it was younger sons turn I forgot so he was then the only one not in fancy dress! (Parenting at it's finest). Luckily he came out saying 'never mind mummy I still had an amazing day' he didn't mind at all. I felt awful!

It's exhausting trying to keep up

I agree and its also the reason why I’ve always explained to my dcs that people choose the spend money on different things. That some stuff is important for some people and not others (in my house, cars are a good example of that). That there are plenty of reasons to choose xxx rather than yyy.
Eg choosing quality over a fashion item, choosing a branded product or not depending on what you want to do with it, how much you really enjoy it etc...
in effect everything but NOT because it looks cool or Fred down the road only has ‘Super Dry clothes’ so I have to have some too.
And how not having xxx actually has no relationhsip with how much money people have.

Mine are only young so I’m not fussed with non uniform days. Girls enjoy it and I let them pick what they wear so it’s often quite amusing not he younger years.

I can imagine older kids though it gets problematic.

There haven’t been any issues with my DS yet but he’s only year 3. I remember hating non-uniform days at school, especially secondary. My mum would only ever buy me clothes from the market so they were cheap and tacky and the other girls had lovely designer gear on.

Tambien

Same as us.

We spend a lot more than most on holidays.

Don’t really wear designer stuff and our car is only a Kia.

The girls totally get that he’s we could have xyz like some people. (Mainly it’s why we don’t have a Nintendo Switch at the moment) but they know then it would mean we wouldn’t go to Disney for as long.

They’re happy with the trade offs but I’m sure days will come.

I always forgot and wore my uniform. Every year. It was horrible. I didn’t have ‘outfits’ just hand me downs and knew I’d be bullied relentlessly. There were 4 of us who ‘forgot’ every year in my year. They still picked on me but it was less awful because at least they hadn’t seen my awful clothes.

I don’t like it. They children act a bit sillier all day. A large percentage of my children are from poor homes or are neglected. They come in wearing dirty clothes or clothes that don’t fit. Often they aren’t weather appropriate either. Bless their hearts, they look a right poor little bunch those days.

I don't mind non uniform, bus DS's school doesn't go in for it. Everything is a fucking colour or pattern instead. So far this year it's been stripes, green and orange and now house colours for sports day next week. On top of world book day. Everything involves me buying or making something bloody new.

Our school has done away with them. When I started it was the last day of every term. (And sports day) then summer and Christmas and sports day. Then the new trust has stopped them completely. Even have to wear pe kit on sd. Its fine.

DS (10) isn't fazed by this nearly as much as his mum is - lol
Last week we took him shopping, which he hated!! Bless him, I admire his confidence to be himself but have the wit to put down others if they tease.
He's just not vain and pretty much feels sympathy for his friends that arrive dressed like shop floor dummy's

I hate NUD as an adult and a child. I was picked on relentlessly for not having the ‘right’ or even clean clothes on NUD’s and school trips. A teacher once said in front of the whole class “Spiders why’ve you not got socks on and your jackets smells, put it outside” Perks of having alcoholic parents eh!

Now when my dc are having NUD or school trips I’m very conscious of what they wear but my dd1 who’s 11 is being told atm by a group of drama queens in her class that she’s not cool enough apparently she needs to wear crop tops and shorts (that barely cover her bum - no way will I allow that) and if you shop at new look your poor

DS is in secondary school and loves NSU, I don’t blame him, more comfortable, I do think collar, tie and blazer are very old fashioned for SU these days and hot in the summer.

I was invigilating exams on a non-uniform day and, as some of the younger teachers also turned up in jeans, couldn't distinguish between teachers and pupils some of the time.

When I was a Reception teacher I let children who had forgotten wear dressing up clothes. Some children wore very inappropriate clothing and one parent had a strop when his 5 year old was told by the HT to remove her make up.

As a teacher l don't think it highlights people on low income as around here its those on low income who buy into all the label nonsense . Those who are well off are usually in the worst pair of leggings and sort of dragged together. A lot is to do with confidence.
My dd would always pull out every outfit she had..throw them on the floor as she tried them all on. It is a nightmare.

It's quite tragic really that we are judged by what we wear,drive,live etc. The school run always highlights the conceited parents (usually dressed like sheep) must spend hours preening!!

Neighbours are bit like this, marque cars, labels etc - could swear blind that the 2 large men that appeared last month knocking on said door (no answer but cars on drive) were bailiffs.
We on the other hand are invincible 1 old car and no labels in sight except for George or Primark. But with the mortgage now gone along and no other debts, I'll take a wild guess who sleeps easier at night.

To give kids the pressure to "appear" one up is not one that would make me swell

You get the competition because it's just a one day thing and it's a novelty. Kids want to show off their best stuff, which is obviously hard for those who don't have the latest brands.

My DS both go to a sixth form college where there's no uniform. Everyone lives in jeans/ shirts/ leggings and tshirts. There's no competition as it's just the norm to them.

Personally I hate school uniform.

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I don't think they really highlight rich and poor, let's be honest all the children already know the poor children in the class, uniform doesn't really hide it e.g. a child in tatty dirty home clothes will also be in tatty dirty uniform. Children will get bullied for their non-uniform because they were being bullied anyway, its just another thing.

And in the days of Primark etc. Then the cheapest clothes are still fashionable. Most teenagers wear plenty of primark surely? At least they did 5 years ago when i was a teenager, the better outfits were mostly from primark. What it does highlight is the 'cooler' children who have learnt how to dress before others I suppose.

I find it very hard to believe there's so many children on here that hate non-uniform days and refuse to do it!

I used to hate this personally All the shitty comments aimed at me as we couldn't afford branded clothes.

I agree dishranawaywiththespoon - DD goes to a private school and whenever there's a need for something other than uniform (fancy dress, events, etc), the parents are all chatting over whatsapp to share where people can get things cheaply. There's no competition. She's not in secondary yet, so I appreciate it may change!

@TheDishRanAwayWithTheSpoon

Why on earth would all 'poor' children have dirty clothes?

I think you've just won the award for the most ignorant and disgusting comment on the thread. Well done.

Don't get the issue. Send them in Jeans and a t-shirt whether they are boy or girl. If they are primary age a t-shirt with a tv/movie/videogame character on that they like is fine. Other kids will think it's cool even if it's from Primark or a supermarket.

Teachersvoice I didn't say all poor children have dirty clothes! There is no all there, I gave an example, as pp had said something about their home clothes being tatty and dirty. I'm sorry if that's how it came across, I most definitely do not think poor children all have tatty dirty clothes and that is not what I meant. I just meant the things that might highlight a dc as different will be there in their uniform as well as home clothes.