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School leavers hoodie is wrong

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Namechangedforthispost18 · 21/06/2018 12:00

We ordered a school leavers hoodie for our dd, at a cost of nearly £20.
The PTA were in charge all proceeds going to the school, we recently changed DD surname however old surnames is now a middle name.

So we asked for previous surname and new one to be on it so the kids in class would know who it was and it would have the new surname we legally have to use on too.

The front has the initials on and is correct, both surnames.

The back is completely wrong.

They've left out punctuation within her name, and it only includes her old surname.

The school are claiming it is the PTA's fault, PTA are claiming it is a data protection issue (although it was handed from 1 person to the next to another) and that they couldn't clarify names however we confirmed it via facebook and have screenshots, we are not the only one to have a child with an incorrect name on the hoodie.

The pta and school are refusing to recall the hoodies or communicate with us or update us. Yet they've updated another parent and told them the wrong name will be scraped off and the right one stuck on top (it will look shit).

AIBU to expect all hoodies to be recalled and corrected? Her friends will have the wrong name on.

Also we the leavers are wearing theirs but the children without correct named hoodies have had them taken and are left out. This is causing other kids to laugh at these pupils.
The pta member who royally f up, her child is blaming the parents for giving her mother the wrong spellings etc and is intimidating the kids.

The school arent touching the issue with a barge pole.

Do I have rights as a consumer?

OP posts:
Halfblindbunny · 21/06/2018 15:01

All you had to do was kindly suggest that they might consider first names only for the back of the leavers hoodie next year. Then get over it.

x2boys · 21/06/2018 15:09

£20 for a year 6 hoodieShock my son leaves primary school in a few weeks thankfully his dont do this , what with an adventure day, leavers meal ,school play and transition to high school days ,a hoodie would be the last thing on his mind

diddl · 21/06/2018 15:17

I do think that the school is wrong in keeping hold of a hoodie that has been paid for & if Op filled in the name correctly, then I think that she should get a full or partial refund.

PoohBearsHole · 21/06/2018 15:25

Just a small point, are you sure that your DD and her mates aren’t repeating to the child of the volunteer parent what YOU are all saying about her? Your op has suggested that you aren’t very happy, you’ve discussed this widely, people are now “avoiding you” in case of trouble....

Is it even a teeny possibility that this has been passed on, then the child of volunteer is probably sticking up for their parent.

Or not, in which case you should take it to the head as a bullying issue. I’d be pretty prepared for that to backfire though.

ForgivenessIsDivine · 21/06/2018 15:31

Spend the refund on ice cream and wine.

It would annoy me... and clearly your daughter is upset and having the correct name on her hoodie is IMPORTANT.

The behaviour of the children is weird and unkind, I do hope someone at school had a word.....

Data Protection when the names will be printed on sweatshirts to be worn in public, when you have given your permission to use the information on the slip for that purpose??? Someone hasn't thought that excuse through!!

Sleepyslops · 21/06/2018 15:44

Ex wouldn't agree to ditch his name, middle name is better than nothing and who uses middles names

Clearly you use them...

raisedbyguineapigs · 21/06/2018 15:50

The whole PTA, including me resigned one year over the year 6 hoodie! It was an absolute nightmare. We didn't want to do it because of the hassle of names, as well as the parents wanting PTA money to go towards it. I have never seen such a bunch of hysterical people in my life as those year 6 parents. We were blanked in the playground, slagged off, everything imaginable. Guess what? The school stopped doing them for every other year.

Takethemdown · 21/06/2018 15:51

Did you ex agree for it to be used as a middle name instead?

If not then you still can't legally change her surname unless a court agree.

FlyingElbows · 21/06/2018 15:55

So the real issue here is the reason why you've changed her surname and how important that is to you? In the nicest way, op, nobody else cares how your child's name appears. It's obviously very important to you (I suspect there's a huge back story) but really nobody else's child is distraught. They all know her by her previous name anyway as the change is recent. Nobody's sitting at home making sure all the names are correct. You're not happy so take your refund and be done with it but you cannot demand an entire recall of everyone else's hooded, that's just bonkers.

00100001 · 21/06/2018 15:57

The thing is as well, that the names will have been submitted weeks and weeks ago, deadlines would have passed. School Hoodie companies will be RAMMED at this time of the year. So they can't "just change a name" or get another one printed or whatever.

Branleuse · 21/06/2018 16:00

did you change her surname to surname of new partner?

00100001 · 21/06/2018 16:06

Can I clarify the 'name' situation. with a an imaginary made up name,

Your Daughter WAS called "Harriet-May Rosie Smith" known 'everyday' as: Harriet-May Smith

She is now called "Harriet-May Rosie Smith Jones" (old surname now a middle name and new surname) so - known 'everyday' as Harriet-May Jones

The Hoodie has "HMJ" on the front, and "Harriet May Smith" on the back?? (no hypen)

Is that right?

Lethaldrizzle · 21/06/2018 16:07

My brain hurts

Lovemusic33 · 21/06/2018 16:10

Does it really matter? My dd’s Only wore their hoodies twicethen chucked them in the wardrobe. I think they are a total waste of money in the first place.

OP, have you not get anything better in your life to worry about? If not than lucky you Grin

dupainduvin · 21/06/2018 16:13

this is the worst non-issue thread I've seen since the person complaining that their raffle prize was not quite as described - is that you op?

You should have let it go and not created a hooha over something so bloody trivial.

BrendasUmbrella · 21/06/2018 16:14

I'm sorry that your DD has been upset. Having to keep the name of your abuser is hideous, and I totally get why she wouldn't want a reminder of that.

it is concerning though that other dc's are intimidating and mocking the ones who don't have hoodies yet. I've never heard of kids even being bothered about them before, or wearing them before the end of term. I would venture to suggest that perhaps feelings are running high over the mistake and perhaps things are being blown out of proportion? Otherwise the school may have a bullying problem.

ScreamingValenta · 21/06/2018 16:19

Why not use the refund money to get a similar hoodie printed yourself? Lots of online sites offer this service.

Original poster
Namechangedforthispost18 · 21/06/2018 16:24

Ex gave his permission he signed the documentation he knows exactly what he signed and has copies. He also has copies of the court order that tells him he isn't allowed contact.

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Namechangedforthispost18 · 21/06/2018 16:28

The school has bullying issues, huge cliches between parents and also between kids.

The parent who oversaw this hoodie design etc, her child has bullied mine off and on for years, although I believe that this was NOT done in spite.

Dd has said other kids have mocked them again today and now she doesn't want a hoodie with their names on.

OP posts:
Iamtryingtobenicehere · 21/06/2018 16:32

There must be a paper trail. Can you ask to see what was put on the order form and what you had wrote out?

Miserysquared · 21/06/2018 16:37

Good luck with secondary school....

pasturesgreen · 21/06/2018 16:37

No one cares. Seriously, not the other kids, not the other parents. Give it a couple of weeks and you'll have forgotten all about it and won't care either.

HTH.

UndomesticHousewife · 21/06/2018 16:39

Have you been into the school about the bullying? Forget about the hoodie and concentrate on that.

IrmaFayLear · 21/06/2018 16:46

I really can’t believe there has been bullying over a school hoodie. There must be some other reason/some background to this tale.

happypoobum · 21/06/2018 16:50

Honestly this sounds like a huge fuss over nothing. She would NEVER have worn it anyway, it's a total waste of money.

If they are so horrid just be glad you won't have to deal with them any more.