Paying for childcare

[Coulditbeme]

Ex has taken me to court and got 50/50 shared care of our 3 year old.
Child currently in full time childcare which I currently pay for and claim back costs via UC.
He pays me maintenance but this will now stop due to the new 50/50 arrangement.
I work part time and he works full time so on the weeks I have the child I will only need part time childcare whereas on the weeks he has the child he will still need full time childcare.
What happens now?
UC won’t let me claim full time childcare costs if I only work part time so aibu to think he should be paying for the childcare on his weeks?

He is playing with. He's messing with your head. He sounds narcissistic. If he is, then he's using you to fuel his needs. I've read about narsicists attracting empathetic 'codependent' personalities. Might be worth checking some youtube talks on this? It sounds like this is all about control and you won't be able to find compromise with someone like that. His attitude to you is contemptuous. It's hard, but you need to take back some control.
Tell him you are applying for the hours and that you won't engage in further discussion. Only email. If he tries to engage, repeat " as i said, I'm not discussing further'. And repeat. You need advise from the authoritise, but engaging with him is just going to distress you, while he enjoys his game.

I hope you're ok OP. My ex was equally nasty and difficult but we didn't have this court ordered terrible arrangement! It didn't stop him taking DD for days at a time without telling me etc, but it was so horrid. This won't be a comfort but as soon as he realises how much he needs to compromise/ pay for childcare I feel
Things will change quite quickly. I'm meantimr please get lots of legal advice though, just in case x

He is getting off on you trying to work collaboratively with you. Book mornings, claim your 15 hours (increase to 30 when you can) his afternoons - "not your circus, not your monkeys" or whatever the saying is!!!

Don't talk to him, ffs. He's enjoying tormenting you!

Contact CAB. Confirm the benefits are yours. And sign up for the childcare mornings you need and nothing more. Let him sort more if he needs them. Don't give him your benefits. Don't give up your time to watch your DC while he is supposed to be supporting childcare.