Please make sure children are wearing appropriate clothing

[Damnthatdog]

No mini skirts or crop tops, yr 6 leavers party.

So not children, but girls. Please make sure girls aren’t wearing anything which could be deemed provocative. Which is how it reads to me.

AIBU or not?

BlancheM

Paedophiles aren't my main worry, to be honest. Others have pointed out that there are other issues once children hit puberty.

Where are you getting 'provocative' from

No one seems to get that there will be members of the public at this venue. Some of whom may creepily like, or alternatively v much dislike, little girls bending over and flashing their pants. V different from cartwheels in the playground.

Adults seeing children - sounds like a safeguarding nightmare

They have said children are not to wear mini skirts or crop tops.

It's bowling.

Seems sensible to me.

Your post Penggwn is nonsense.

Generally clothes are not a safeguarding issue on mufti days.

However, there is now a serious issue regarding children who go to school in dirty clothes and unwashed. Child hygiene poverty. You ought to take a look:

www.inkinddirect.org/primary-school-children-in-hygiene-poverty/

I think it's a shame that the school has to tell parents this. To me this would indicate they have had problems with "children" turning up in inappropriate clothing before, parents really should have more sense in the first place. I'm not sure what your problem is really. Are you just nit picking? It certainly sounds like it.
Do you think it would be appropriate for "children" to go bowling with their teachers (presumably, they will be the chaperones) with tiny skirts barley covering their backsides?

Pengg, I was just addressing the comment you made about not wanting children dressed in an outfit that puts them at risk. I was pointing out the fallacy about that.

I very much dislike a lot of things that members of the public do. They really should be more considerate.

OMG - do you think the girls might ... show their knees?
Ridiculous wording in that email.

If it had said "this is a sporting event, please dress appropriately " that would be fine. Singling out girls wear is stupid.

They will be wearing tights under the mini skirts.

What should they wear?

That was to @kieratwiceknightley btw. It's ridiculous to suggest that girls should police their bodies because other people "might not like it".

placemats

To be perfectly frank with you, I am not that bothered who thinks this is nonsense. These decisions aren't for parents to make. I don't have to go on school trips. I am perfectly at liberty to bow out and say I am not happy with the safeguarding side of things if students aren't dressed appropriately. At my school, these decisions would be made by the safeguarding lead, not the parents, and staff would be invited on the trip, not conscripted. So, in this case, I suspect it would end up that I just wouldn't go.

I’m a bit of a loss here.

Most children will want to do things that are inapproppriate. Play on tablets/phones all day, eat sweets instead of dinner, play gtav/call of duty because heir friends are. It’s the parents job to do what’s in the best interests of the child, and safeguard their childhood.

I’m not sure why people seem to think that children should ‘be allowed to choose whatever they like’ with regards to clothes, when they certainly wouldn’t be allowed to choose to eat whatever they like, watch whatever they like, play whatever they like.

Or maybe they would, maybe it’s the same parents doing these things

@Chewedupcucumber Getting eye strain, having a poor diet or a violent gaming addiction will harm you. Wearing a mini skirt will not harm you.

Good Lord! I'm usually the pearl clutching judgy pants hoiking person on these threads. All I see here is victim blaming little girls.

I'm finding it hard to see how a mini skirt and crop top would be appropriate for any school event.

Crop top for sport/ exercise/ beach for a 10yo, fine.

Miniskirts for 10yos is something I just can't see as necessary, ever.

I don't think equally for women means that little girls need to be dressed in clothes meant for adults.

Penggwn Have you done safeguarding training?

I would be reporting the safeguarding lead if they made such a statement.

It clearly marks out female pupils.

Define "mini skirt". Flared skater skirt that ... shock horror ... shows the knees - perfectly ok for bowling.

The real issue here is that it is shocking that they feel parents need reminded of this

What is appropriate though SnapCards ?

Can you give what is appropriate for a 10 year old girl to wear?

And then conscript all ten year old girls to wear this.

If her 65 year old grand mother, an adult human female, rocked up in a mini skirt and a crop top would you think this was inappropriate?

placemats

Yes, I have done my annual safeguarding training. I would wish you luck with that. It wouldn't make a difference to me - I would not be taking ten year olds bowling with their underwear on show. Couldn't give a shit if you complained.

Perhaps they have past experience of older men perving over young girls in their care and would like to protect the children from that. Bowling is completely different from a school disco because it generally takes place in a public building and school have no control who else is there.

Not the Utopian dream but reality.

I went to a bowling party recently & dd's friend turned up wearing mini denim skirt so short you could see her knickers. She also had flip flops on and acropped top. Her mother was predictably put out when the party hosts wouldn't let her daughter join in the party. They were frightened of being sued if she dropped the bowling ball on her foot.

Dressing appropriately for the occasion is an essential life skill imo.

I see underpants on boys/teenage boys all the bloody time.