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To wonder how normal it is for kids to share rooms these days?

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ChickenOrEgg6 · 19/06/2018 12:34

Inspired by a post I saw earlier (different forum) about how kids dont really share rooms these days, it's not the 70's, kids shouldn't have to share unless there's no possible way at all to move...
I have 2 DD's, one isn't yet 1 and is in a cot in my room but will be sharing with the eldest when she moves into a bed (I only have a 2 bed house) Aibu to wonder how normal it is for kids to share these days? Is there a reason some people are so militant about kids having their own rooms?

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NameyMcNameChange00 · 21/06/2018 09:45

We have 4 spare bedrooms catina and our boys share. We have 2 bedrooms set up as actual bedrooms, one is a play room and the other is a study. Most people I know who have similar sized houses have dc share when they are young. It’s just easier.

astoundedgoat · 21/06/2018 09:49

We live in central-ish London in a 2 bedroom flat and my two (9 and 7) share. They would NOT be impressed if we separated them, although presumably by their teens they will want some space from each other. We had a 3 bedroom house before we came here and they shared there too.

catinasplashofsunshine · 21/06/2018 10:09

Namey yep I see the logic - but you don't have 5 spare bedrooms, you have 2 "spare" bedrooms not used as bedrooms but set up as a playroom and a study.

5 spare bedrooms though - just why? Why buy such a ridiculously large house for such a comparatively small family? Obviously people can buy whatever house they want, but I'm curious. Are these rooms like Monica's shiny guest room, all set up with nothing to do? Or are they in fact "spare" in inverted commas because the parents have a study each, one is a "den" with a TV and games consoles, one is a hobby room, one a guest room... But if you have 7 bedrooms the downstairs must also be very large for just 4 people, two of whom are very small to rattle about it, with space for those things downstairs, so it seems unlikely...

Even if I had untold billions, I wouldn't buy a house with 5 rooms which would be left empty to rattle about in. I want to know why anyone would want that :o

When I was a child we had friends who lived in an old manor house. They must have had at least 20 "spare" rooms, but you had to wear your wellies to go into them and some were cordoned off with builders tape - only the kitchen and living room downstairs and a couple of bedrooms were habitable and none of the house had central heating. The bathroom was fascinating because there was a row of wooden toilet seats all joined along one long bank, meaning lots of people could go to the toilet at once in one room... Shock It was great fun to play hide and seek in (though looking back it's probably a miracle none of us were ever injured falling through a floor/ ceiling or on rusty nails etc) but I often wonder since what on earth their parents were thinking!

Presumably Matilda 's house is in a good state of repair though, I'm just wondering why she'd want multiple empty rooms.

TheOriginalSource · 21/06/2018 10:41

I have 3 kids. 2 of them share, the third has the box room. I know more families where the kids share than dont. Some used to share and now don't.

SoyDora · 21/06/2018 10:51

DH grew up in a house with 8 bedrooms (2 adults, 2 children). I never really questioned it, that was just their family home! They had one of the spare rooms set up as a ‘den’ and the others were guest rooms. His parents did entertain quite a lot so the rooms were used regularly.

MentalUnload · 30/06/2018 04:25

We have children sharing and lots of spare bedrooms too. Like Dora’s dh we have regular visitors, the nanny has one room, we share a study and one is a playroom. We knew the house was too big when we moved hete, but it was the only place we could find in this area where we love living. The kids will probably be glad of their own rooms when they’re older.

ThriftyMcThrifty · 30/06/2018 04:52

My kids share, they sleep much better because they have each other. I was an only child, and always felt lonely. I’m in no hurry to split them up.

FranticallyPeaceful · 30/06/2018 05:16

We have 5 bedrooms and three boys (one is a newborn so doesn’t count right now) and my two eldest boys choose to share. I actually tried to convince them otherwise but nope, they’re happier sharing and having the other rooms for other things. I don’t see the problem

Metoodear · 30/06/2018 07:58

Not sharing is a middle class preserve

No real working class person would seriously think children sharing shock horror even different sex children is a issue

Also the must have play room situation

ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 30/06/2018 08:07

Leafy home counties market town, I don't know anyone with two or three kids who shares, and also only one family of four (of the three we know) who do 2+2. But our town is actually a really even mix of apartments & houses and four bedrooms is not the highest proportion so there must be lots of families who share, just based on the numbers. It also explains why 4 bed places cost £750k in the roads next to schools, sigh.

Carnegiecrumbs · 30/06/2018 08:10

We're fortunate enough to have 5 beds and two kids. They always want to be in together (8 Yr girl and 6 Yr old boy) so although they have a bedroom each they have 2 single beds in one room and bunks in the other, and choose the room they are sleeping in each night. 99% of the time they choose the same room. The 8ye old is happy to go to bed at the same time as 6yr old so no issues yet. She usually falls asleep first!

Bluelonerose · 30/06/2018 08:27

My ds1 and dd had their own rooms until they were toddlers and I had to be housed by the council and then they had to share. (Their dad owned a 3 bed)
Because they had been used to their own space it was a nightmare and they didn't get on.

I struggled on until ds1 was 7 and I had ds2 then we moved to a 3 bed so dd has her own room and the ds share.

At first dd hated having her own room (even though she was the one better on her own) but loves it now.

Ds1 is 15 and hates sharing with ds2 (8) but I think that's more down to the age gap as they get on great. I no once he's done with education he plans to move in with his dad just so he can have his own space Sad I AM upset by this but I understand.

Ds2 LOVES sharing and is always gutted when ds1 is out for the night. He tends not to go to sleep until ds1 is home.

Bluelonerose · 30/06/2018 08:30

Forgot to add I thought bedtime were easier with a big age gap sharing.

Ide but ds2 to bed ds1 would come downstairs/play in my room for an hour then hed go back in his room and play so ds2 got used to noise. It worked great until ds2 decided for 6 months he required no more than 90 mins sleep a day!

AJPTaylor · 30/06/2018 08:33

i think lots share whilst primary age. if parents can manage it own room later on.

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