To wonder how normal it is for kids to share rooms these days?

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Inspired by a post I saw earlier (different forum) about how kids dont really share rooms these days, it's not the 70's, kids shouldn't have to share unless there's no possible way at all to move...
I have 2 DD's, one isn't yet 1 and is in a cot in my room but will be sharing with the eldest when she moves into a bed (I only have a 2 bed house) Aibu to wonder how normal it is for kids to share these days? Is there a reason some people are so militant about kids having their own rooms?

I don't think a lot of new build houses have rooms large to share without bunkbeds. We have a 3 bed townhouse and are about to have a baby; neither of the bedrooms that aren't the master would have room for 2 single beds without scrapping every other bit of furniture. The friends I had growing up who shared had big Victorian houses with room for a wardrobe, 2 beds, 2 chests of drawers and bedside storage.

My children share by choice. They did have their own rooms but DD always crept into DS's bed. The 3rd bedroom is used as a playroom at the moment.

Ds is getting to the end of primary school so at some point he'll want his own room again, DD will be gutted!

I have three children. My dds share despite the fact that we have four bedrooms.

Mine have shared for the last three years until we had enough space to separate them. It was awful. They hated it and never stopped scrapping. The relief of them each having their own space is great.

On the flip side, my very wealthy brother has three kids, two of whom prefer to share even though they have space not to have to.

It works for some, not so well for others.

I shared. It was awful. My sister trashed my things, I had no privacy at all and I literally lived in utter chaos . Mine won’t be sharing if I can help it. They will also be taught to respect each other’s things.

Three bedrooms. Six people. Yes the kids share. Ds8 and Dd5 have bunk beds.

I think people think that mixed sex bedrooms are illegal because the council will priorities moving families to bigger houses if there is mixed sex bedrooming going on but in private accommodation you can do what you like.

That said, we hope to move somewhere bigger before the younger two hit teens.

We have a 3 bed so my 2 daughters could have their own room but we have put them in together - they love playing together and are happy sharing - and we still have a spare/office/laundry drying room. Might change as they get older but perfectly happy with this set up till high school (or a major change in personality)

Ds has his own room, dd1 and dd2 share. I can see it being a problem in a few years time as there’s 6 years between DD’s. They have a bunk bed and separate wardrobes/desks (massive room 13ftX14ft). Might put a room divider down the middle so they have their own privacy in the future.

My boys share. They are aged 18, 16 and 13. Not ideal, but not any practical alternative right now. Before this, two of them shared with their sister until she was 10. Not weird, one of her friends shared with her brother until she was 14 and he was 12. Needs must.

Mine shared when they were younger but choose not to now.

DD1 is 17 and shares a room when at boarding school - next year she'll be sharing with two room mates. She could have had her own room if she'd been willing to take on unpaid residential assistant work, but she preferred to share.

Always shared rooms here. We've got a couple of spare rooms, so it's been an active choice. It's cosy and encourages sharing and sibling closeness (mostly!), which is important to us. DCs need to be able to share away from home growing up and in the future, like on residential school trips, camping, hostels and so on, and it's been really good for that. One DC, (early teens), is now wanting their own room and I think we're going to go with that quite soon. I will be a little sad, but they have said they want their own space for their things and to retreat to sometimes, and to help with preparing for GCSEs, and that seems perfectly reasonable. Having their own room now will probably help them in the future if/when they go off to Uni .

My house has enough rooms for kids to have one each but my 2 teen boys choose to share, the younger of the 2 Has a bunk bed so 6 nights out of 7 my almost 10 year old ds bunks in with them aswell

If we'd had two boys then they'd have shared until teen years, however we have one of each - they will probably share until youngest is 2 ish and then have their own rooms.

I only shared with my brothers at Christmas / holiday.

My DH shared with his elder brother until eldest moved out at 18.

mine don't share a room, we are lucky enough to have 2 reception rooms, so i sleep in one of those so the three kids have a room each. but the girls share at their dads house, and at one time all 3 shared a room. it's not an issue sharing.

My eldest is desperate for bunk beds but dc2 is only a few months old! Our friends' kids share and love it

I think sometimes it's money but it's also horses for courses if you have the space. As an only I've never had this but I struggled to share as a boarder and refused at uni, whereas one friend happily shared the entire 3 years- she'd always had her own room and been the only dc at home since age 8 and never boarded. Another friend at day school used to share with her sister despite her little sister having her own room. The older had bunk beds and a bigger room for their shared playspace. The littlun liked to "sleep over" and had her favourite toys and special things in her own room and would retreat for quiet time, studying when a bit older and do some nights in there if she wanted to. The family had the space and money for it and it worked really well for them until the girls stopped when they got older.

Only one set of school friends ever shared- they weren't badly off or lacking space and it stopped when they were 12& 13 as they wanted their own space (really different girls). My aunt always made sure my twin cousins had their own rooms from 4 upwards!

I have 2 children and a 4 bed house. They had separate bedrooms and now share by choice, so we have 2 spare bedrooms. They love it.

I never shared as my parents were of the generation to get large houses but my two boys will definitely be sharing, probably until the teen years! We are lucky to have been able to buy even a two bed.

One family we know are very well off, house is worth millions and they have their 3 DS's sharing in a 6 bedroomed house! Reason being is Dad shared with his brothers growing up and absolutely loved it and wanted to pass it down through his sons.

We also know of another where again three brothers share and again my own two sons share. DD would also want to go in with them if I would let her and she does on occasion have a sleepover. She hates being alone in her room!

3DDs 9/7/2 share. Only have 2 bedrooms. Moving to a 3 bed in a few weeks. They want to carry on sharing. Imagine 9 year old will want her own space within a year or so, however if middle DD wants her own room I am stuffed as a 4 bed is way out of my price range (rented) and won’t be in a position to buy for years as I’m at Uni.

My three DC all share a room, it works fine for the moment but we are currently building an extension so they won’t need to for much longer.

My 3 and 5 year old girls share a double bed. They were fervent co-sleepers so it was a natural progression. I think it's good for bonding and creating a sense of closeness as a family.

We came close to relocating somewhere exceptionally remote, and the only house available was tiny with one bedroom. It would have meant a sofa bed in the reception room/kitchen and all the DCs sharing the bedroom longterm. The reason we didn't go for it had nothing to do with sharing. We felt plenty of families have to or choose to, and it's all part of family life. We stay in a place like it on holiday and it works fine, the only real problem so far being putting the sofa bed up and down every day and storing the bedding. Whether it will stay that way with the teen years hitting and an increase in spats remains to be seen.

Ours just fannied around at bedtime when they shared so they got put in their own room.

Mine shared until eldest was 8.5, we had space for them to have their own rooms but they were happy in together!

We moved house and DS1 asked for his own room, he does have a spare bed in there though so they do on occasion have a sleep over together