To wonder how normal it is for kids to share rooms these days?

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Inspired by a post I saw earlier (different forum) about how kids dont really share rooms these days, it's not the 70's, kids shouldn't have to share unless there's no possible way at all to move...
I have 2 DD's, one isn't yet 1 and is in a cot in my room but will be sharing with the eldest when she moves into a bed (I only have a 2 bed house) Aibu to wonder how normal it is for kids to share these days? Is there a reason some people are so militant about kids having their own rooms?

Out DS 1 and DS 3 are sharing (our choice), their room is quite large and we have a decent sized spare room used as guest room / dressing room which one of them could have as their own room should the need arise. However I expect them to share until a good deal older - I hope it’ll help them have a closer bond and also learning to share etc. Had they been mixed sexes we still would have them share while they’re this young but probably not for as long.

I have noticed when reading glossy home magazines that there is usually a shared children's room, even when they have plenty of other rooms and a £££££ house.

We're well off - our 2 kids share. They don't want to be separated, and frankly it keeps all their junk in one room.

They can share as long as they like, makes no odds to us!

I'd have sold my soul for my own room growing up. My sister and I shared what I can only describe as a cupboard for 14 years until she left home. We cannot tolerate each other's company!

For those whose children share, at what age did you put them in together? I'm pregnant with DC2 and stupidly it hadn't occurred to me that they could share with toddler DD. It would really help to have a spare room! I just presumed a baby and toddler would keep each other up or DD would try and lift the baby out or climb into her cot or something!

We have more bedrooms than people and the kids share and have done since the youngest was two.
They spread kiddie crap into another room which is set up as a kids bedroom but always snooze in the same room

MaggieTheMouse ours went in together when DD started sleeping through the night, at around 15 months.
We put them in separate rooms when DD2 was 2 but a couple of months later they asked to go in together. They’re 4.5 and nearly 3 now.

We have a 4 bed house and 2 children (boy and girl). Given the choice our kids would choose to share our bed every single night, let alone a room! At the moment we try and put them together in bunk beds but invariably they find their way to our bed by dawn. And the cat sleeps on the end.

We've got four bedrooms but DDs (9 and 5) share. DD1 spends every other weekend with XH and sharing a room is really bonding for the girls when they're back together. As others have said, the room that would have been a separate room for them is a playroom / dumping ground / remnants of an explosion in a My Little Pony factory.

I put DD2 in with DD1 when she moved out of my room - she was probably about a year old. She finds it hard to get to sleep when her big sister is away and DD1 is prepared to tolerate sleeping with all of the lights on because she also loves the company.

There's a sofa up in their room and my greatest happiness is going to sit up there with a cup of tea before I go to sleep and watching the two of them sleeping.

My 2 share, but very few of their friends do.

In the past we have had them sharing, and separate rooms. In all honestly bed time is a LOT easier when they had separate rooms. When sharing they chatter a lot and keep each other awake.

We finally cracked it by often having a 30 minute difference in their bedtime. They get ready for bed at the same time, but the older child then goes downstairs and does a quiet activity for 30 minutes, then heads up to bed. This works because DS2 gets more tired and does need more sleep, so he doesn't argue the point.

Sometimes I will let them go to bed at the same time, but I have tend to have to holler a 'quieten down and sleep' up the staircase a couple of times.

I grew up in one country, and have spent my adult life in another. I don't/didn't know many households where children shared a room in either country, regardless of income. Of the households where children did/do share, I've never come across one where siblings of opposite sex shared.

I'd hate to have shared (other than with DH now of course). I like my own space.

I honestly don't know anyone who's kids share a room. None at all, even those with 4+ kids. We had to share as kids. I would have preferred not to, I like my own space.

Well I’m not going to tell my children they can’t share even though they want to, just because we’ve got enough bedrooms to go around. When they no longer want to, they don’t have to.

I grew up pretty comfortable in SW London & parents house has 5 bedrooms. I have 2 siblings & shared until well into my teens. Sometimes shared with both in the bigger rooms & we would often switch rooms but we always liked to share. I’m in the same area with a 3 bed & my 2 DCs share. We are looking at getting the loft done & if so DC will continue to share.

None of my kids' friends share bedrooms, it seems very rare where we live. In fact there are multiple kids with two bedrooms, one for play/ study/ as a den (dependent on age) and one for sleep.

However almost all houses here are 3 bed, and where we live there are more only children than any other family set up.

My kids have a room each but the younger two (nearly 11 and 7) prefer to share and often do. I'm glad to be able to separate them when necessary though. Until she fully hit puberty the eldest used to like sharing with her brother too and in school holidays they'd always all sleep in one room listening to an audiobook. They were a lot like a litter of puppies until DD turned 12

DH and I moved to the attic to give them each a room when we wanted to move dc3 out of our room into his own - our house is also a 3 bed really, and the attic is better set up to be a study, but I wanted the kids to have their own spaces. Nobody gets on all the time and sharing during puberty seems unfair to me unless there genuinely isn't any choice, in which case of course everyone just has to get on with it.

Maggie my dc1 and 2 shared for a while at dc1's request when dc1 was 3.5 and dc2 was 1.5. I didn't put him in with dc1 under 1, although she considered him hers and wanted that, because she was an extremely "helpful" and physically competent toddler and would most definitely have climbed into his cot if he'd cried and tried to change his nappy or something! Was also somewhat worried about her falling into him while climbing in.

We converted his cot to cotbed form before putting them in together so that the climbing wasn't a risk. He was walking etc and being in a toddler bed wasn't a problem.

Having them in together wasn't really a success for us because they just wouldn't go to sleep. After a week we moved his toddler bed back to his own room which made bedtime approximately a million times easier.

When dc2 was 3 and dc1 5, dc1 got bunk beds. Dc2 was allowed to sleep on dc1's bottom bunk but only if they behaved at bed time. Having his own room to return him to if not helped immensely.

Dc3 was a non sleeper and even with his own room disturbed his siblings, so he didn't get to share til he was sleeping through at 3 years old.

Obviously people with more kids than rooms have no choice, but I would never put kids in together full time without a room set up for each child solely to have a guest room.

Up until recently my dd13 ds 10 and ds 7 were sharing but I finally found a bigger place I could afford so dd has her own room. My son's on the other hand have to share unless I go all Harry Potter and stick one under the stairs.

When our two were little they shared. Now they are old enough to be on a different floor to us they have their own rooms. But when they shared they were quite happy! We had the raised up beds do they had dens underneath, clever storage works wonders for space.

Mine have got a playroom downstairs and one upstairs! They just prefer to sleep in the same room. I don’t blame them really, I prefer to sleep with DH than alone.

my kids b/g share as we only have a 2 bed house. we are council but can't swap to a 3 bed and we are very low priority in terms of being given a bigger house- which is fine, I appreciate that we have a roof over our heads and good neighbours.

My kids spend most of their time trying ti kill one another and are desperate for their own room, so our only solution if for me to sleep in the lounge. not ideal but we haven't much choice.

Ours share too, so we can have a spare room. They're only 4 and 2 though.

Urrrm richer people do have their kids sharing! I have 5 spare rooms but my two dds (6 and 4) share a room and have done since the youngest was 18 months old! They don’t want their own rooms yet!

My 13 year old twins share. They have the master bedroom and it's big. DD and I have our own rooms. I'm thinking of giving my room to one of my twins and getting a sofa bed as I'm sick of the fighting. No chance of moving.

Matilda what the point of having 5 spare rooms? Do they just sit empty? Or do you have a house full of guests a lot?