To wonder how normal it is for kids to share rooms these days?

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Inspired by a post I saw earlier (different forum) about how kids dont really share rooms these days, it's not the 70's, kids shouldn't have to share unless there's no possible way at all to move...
I have 2 DD's, one isn't yet 1 and is in a cot in my room but will be sharing with the eldest when she moves into a bed (I only have a 2 bed house) Aibu to wonder how normal it is for kids to share these days? Is there a reason some people are so militant about kids having their own rooms?

2 of mine share.

Our house has 7 bedrooms. We have 2 dc and they share. Dc’s are 6 and 2 and both get upset and try to climb in to sleep with dh and I if they are put in a room on their own. They get on brilliantly and love sharing a room (for now).

I’m mid 30’s and shared a room with my dsis until I started secondary school. My parents househad 2 spare bedrooms but we liked sharing.

I grew up in the late 60’s and early 70’s . Piss poor with a single mother but I never shared a room with my sibling. Things were a lot better for my children who never shared either so I think some of the share/don’t share also has to do with each separate family dynamic and is not just a case of people with more money don’t share.

We're fairly well-off but our older two share a room and we have a cot in there ready to put the baby in with them too in a month or so. We have a spare room but we like to keep that available for guests/lodgers.

6 year old and 2 year old DS share a room, baby DD will have her own room. Eventually we want to extend so everyone has their own room.

DD and DS2 may end up sharing at some point as they are closer in age.

We originally had my DC in seperate rooms, but they asked to share, so they do. They get on very well though and aren't very often silly going to bed. I suppose there will be a time when they want their own space, so I'm anticipating moving DC2 back at some point in the future.

I shared with DBro right up until I was about 10, even though we had more than enough space for us to have our own room.

I think it's nice, fosters relationships & camaraderie.

Our dds share and seem fine with it. We are hoping to have an option for them to have desperate rooms by the time they are getting towards their teens.

Also, lots of the dc's friends share too.

I know plenty. Not all of them poor. Friends ds have kids share, so that they have a spare room (home office/ guests/ storage).

My DSs are 5 and 2 and they share. We have the space for them not to but they love it. DS1 always hated being on his own at night and loves the company!

My twins shared until they were 4 (now 7) and then I split them up as they just keep each other up too late...they would love to share still and are constantly asking to be allowed but every time we try it, they mess around and don’t sleep so they’re staying separate for now...we’re lucky to have the space so they can do....

None of our 4 children share but growing up I shared with 2 sisters. OH shared with his 2 brothers until his parents bought a bigger house then he shared with 1

Agree with others it's about location as much as money in the UK.

Some of my family are on low incomes and live in the Midlands but all have decent sized houses with each DC in a room. Here in London we earn considerably more but DCs have to share. It's also quite common in our area for working parents to have au pairs and so keep the DCs sharing through primary and sometimes into high school.

3 kids and 2 bedrooms here.

Baby will be in with us for another 6 months at least, other 2 already share.

Hoping to move at some point but only to a 3 bed place so two kids will remain sharing.

Growing up I had to share. Mum didn’t have money as single parent to move (my dad died when I was very young) but was fortunate enough to have inherited a 2 bed. We had the larger room of the 2

I think with London prices it’s probably common.

Mine share and then we have a spare room. 3 boys in one room and dd in other - she thinks it is so unfair and wants another baby (a girl) so that she can share.

I have 3 boys and we live in a 2.5 bedroom house- the .5 being a room we use as a bedroom, but which cannot actually fit a bed in without adapting it. Most families in our road have at least 3 children so sharing is very common.

We're about to turn the dining room into an extra bedroom, though. That way, ds1 (who has adhd and other issues and cannot share a bedroom due to the impact he has on others) and ds2 get decent sized rooms, ds3 can go into the littlest room as he is only 3 and will be fine with a shorty bed, and dh and I will sleep downstairs. If ds1 didn't have the issues he does, I'd be happy with him sharing with ds2; if there wasn't such a gap between ds3 and the others, it would be fine for him to keep sharing with ds2- but bedtimes and routines and so on are so different that they really disrupt one another.

TLDR: sharing is generally fine but sometimes dc have issues/ age gaps etc that make it very hard.

My DT’s (b/g) have never shared as they were both poor sleepers. Their rooms are on the top floor and they shared a playroom/study room and a Jack and Jill bathroom. They’ve always got on well apart from their sleeping habits.

Were just having thiis dilemma at the moment.

DD and DS have a bedroom each
They are however desperate for bunk beds and to share a room. They are 7 and 4.

I just don't know how they'll go to sleep at night if they are in together. DS goes to bed later than DD so not sure how it would work.
How do you manage it.
Or we buy them both bunk beds and they can pretend to share but seem like a waste of money.

Mine share by choice, we have two spare bedrooms, one they use as a play room, the other is my study, I am guessing the eldest will want his own space when he hits adolescence, it will be hard for the little one!

My dd's share. I am widowed and they will move into my big bedroom and I'll move into their smaller room. That way they'll have a big wardrobe each and can put a room divider down the middle if they want. I suspect they won't bother most of the time

My older two, 13 and 10, have always shared. We're not poor. It's fine. Each child having own bedroom is a globally and chronologically anomalous luxury.
(This makes me a bit of a hypocrite, as dh and I are about to give up our bedroom to move ds2 in there as we think they each need a space of their own and an attic conversion we want to do will have to be delayed for various reasons. However, we are very clear that here, 'need' = ideal and not = necessity).

We have a 3 bed, and plan to have two children sharing. Retain the third room as a guest room/office. The second bedroom is as big as the master - third much smaller. Seems silly to have one in a much smaller space and no room to put up guests when we need to. Whether we have bunks or separate beds, there'll still be lots of room in the second bedroom.

Mine will share when the baby is old enough. We have another room spare but want them to be together until they grow old enough to need their own space.

My 3 have their own rooms but quite often end up in the same one overnight.