To start another grumpy old lady. thread

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I just feel like starting a grumpy thread for other people who sometimes find modern life a bit off kilter

I don't want to go to weddings abroad that cost a bloody fortune, use up loads of annual leave, and are often for a couple that have been living together for ten years and have 3 kids, a mortgage and a dog.

I want to see young and healthy people giving up their seats on public transport for elderly, or even late middle age people. You're young, you've more energy, I did it when I was your age.

Any other grumpy old lady views posters would like to share.

I agree with you about weddings abroad. I find it cringey when a couple have a big wedding a decade after having kids! To me the wedding symbolises the initial union, the joining of lives. If you've been living together raising kids for years, why not just marry privately throw a party? Dressing up in a wedding gown and making declarations of commitment makes a mockery of it.

You're young, you've more energy, I did it when I was your age

I disagree with this. Young people can suffer all sorts of health conditions too. Disabilities can be invisible. I'm mid 30s and only offer my seat to very elderly people, those who look frail or are using a mobility aid. Or pregnant women or those with small children.

PC'ism everywhere. Gay and Lesbian book selection at the library. No heterosexual display.

Every other section is the heterosexual section.

Difference and equality are essential and diversity to be repected but sometimesbit seems that all of the rest of us and our collective needs for choice and dignity have got lost.

How? By not having 98% of the library marked as heterosexual?

im feed up of people being so self obsessed and only contact you when they are after something,i give in meet for coffee and all they talk about is themselves

Even on MN I have noticed a big difference since I first joined almost ten years ago. There used to be loads of funny, tongue in cheek threads on here that really brought out people's creativity and wit.

Now, if anyone dares start one you will have some whingey poster on before the end of page one taking offence, and seeing insults where none were intended.

It gets very wearing.

[I disagree with this. Young people can suffer all sorts of health conditions too. Disabilities can be invisible. I'm mid 30s and only offer my seat to very elderly people, those who look frail or are using a mobility aid. Or pregnant women or those with small children.]

In fairness, you quoted me out of context there. I made it very clear that I was talking about young and healthy people, not those suffering from any kind of illness or disability. I also reiterated this in a later post.

oh thats my bug bare,the always offended about everything

also you write you have £5 to last the week and somebody follows saying they have nothing and been eating mud pies from the garden all week

Plenty of tongue in cheek humour in our house, you however OP are not funny - your moaning. 🙄 Oh good Lord, how times have changed, woe is me, the world has gone to shit. 🤦🏼‍♀️

And you do not know who has disabilities, they are not always visible so just stop judging! A young person could LOOK perfectly healthy but be in crippling pain.

Yes to the neediness and me me me thing.

I think I first felt old years ago when Sainsbury's brought out their clothing range "Tu - it's all about you". To me, that's not a GOOD thing! "It's all about you" is what you might say to a selfish person in an argument! Obviously not an important thing but I just thought "why would they call it that?"

It's like the default position is that everyone has to be made to feel like they're the centre of the universe.

Snap @slashlover

Glad I'm not the only one to think that some of these posts are less "grumpy old lady" and more "grumpy bigot".

Disabilities can be invisible. I'm mid 30s and only offer my seat to very elderly people, those who look frail or are using a mobility aid. Or pregnant women or those with small children. LOL! "Disabilities can be invisible. I only offer my seat to those with a visible disability"

Still, I suppose you can hardly go about offering to everyone on the off chance they may have a disability that you can't see.

Oh good Lord, how times have changed, woe is me, the world has gone to shit

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It's a grumpy old lady's prerogative to have such a moan, and OP was quite tongue in cheek about it.

Seriously Dragon did you just come onto this thread to be unpleasant and confrontational. I made it perfectly clear it was a grumpy thread for people to air their grumpy views on.
I'm perfectly happy for anyone to decide it's not the thread for them and click off.

Just had another GOL moment - went to open a milk carton and nearly broke every fingernail in the process. Bring back milk bottles with those nice foil lids

Urgh foil lids used to give me the heebie geebies

It seems to me that when I became a certain age I became invisible, so when I open the door to allow someone through, they just sail past without so much as a thankyou. Also must remember when next someone treads on my toes not to say sorry.

I'm a grumpy old lady, opened this thread hopefully but totally disagree with the public transport point. Healthy young people should not be expected to give their seats up to healthy middle aged people - that's ageist bollocks.

Healthy young and middle aged people should give up seats to frail or disabled people and anyone less able to stand. I'd give my seat to a child too small to reach straps to hold on or to a parent carrying a baby or toddler every day of the week.

I don't want to go to any weddings though, stupid expensive bits of social theatre - just do the paperwork at the registry office with your parents there if you want them, then have a meal or a party if you must, but the whole circus show and speeches and etiquette and protocols and people telling white lies and making small talk for hours and hours leaves me cold (see GOW).

I'm retraining atm though and my cohort are mostly early to mid 20s, though there are several up to mid 50s. I told a young woman off today for openly boasting about cheating and another two young women and one young man, all mid 20s for talking and laughing over the teacher and making it impossible to hear. Those 3 apologised. I'm their classmate though not their teacher, but I'm fed up with the inconsiderate behaviour. If you haven't studied accept your bad grade - our exams are graded in relation to one another, with the grade boundaries moved if too many people do well/ badly - cheating impacts the rest of the class just as talking over the teacher does.

Sorry but I disagree Cat. It really annoys me to see a load of students happily occupying several seats while a woman in her sixties stands. When I was that age we would have automatically stood up - unless obviously someone had a disability or illness.

it would be nice to live in world where people don't throw bottles of pee out of cars as they drive by, especially glass bottles that are intended to splash those on the pavement. And so many on the grass verges these days too. And litter from fast 'food'.

Those that deliberately run over creatures on the road and mount pavements to kill them too. There are some disgusting apologies for human beings about these days.

Why user? Age is just a number. There is no reason for what you want. Everyone able to stand should give up seats for everyone less able to. Your rule is nonsense - does a 59 year old give up their seat for a 60 year old? What about 55 and 65? What about the youthful, energetic looking 65 year old whose pent their day lunching with friends and doing a spot of light window shopping, on her way home to dinner cooked by her healthy retired husband and a house the cleaner has left spotless and a technically equally healthy prematurely grey careworn 45 year old on the way home from her 6th 12 hour shift on her feet in a row to cook dinner for her 5 small children, wash their uniforms, listen to their woes and clean the house before falling asleep on the sofa?

The age rule is stupid, ability to stand not age.

I’m a menopausal grumpy invisible woman and a bit angry. I’m not always nice to be around. I hate hot weather and wished it was autumn already. I have to try to be nice !

I want to see young and healthy people giving up their seats on public transport for elderly, or even late middle age people. You're young, you've more energy, I did it when I was your age.

My epileptic and exhausted DD had this screamed at her the second time she went on public transport after she could actually leave the house.

You cannot tell that someone is healthy by looking at them.

IME elderly people will get seats on the bus anyway. They're always the rude ones, too. I've never heard a young person shouting at a receptionist or retail worker.

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I will also add that I don't like being run over by people on mobility scooters that think they own the pavement although I do understand why they need the scooters, but some of them do need to pass a test to see if they should be let loose on them

I would happily pass a test although having driven a car for 50+ years without causing a single accident may stand me in good stead for travelling at 4mph. I would suggest its the pedestrians who need to pass a test. Some of them need to learn not to walk with head down, clicking on their mobile while I say with increasing loudness 'excuse me' but they rarely hear or stop until an inch from my now stationary scooter and then walk by without acknowledging me.

I'm positively thrilled that I am unlikely to be alive when today's free spirits, children who have never been disciplined or heard the word NO, become adults. I'm particularly happy that I won't have to deal with them in a work environment.

So many more but that's it for now

Noise
Bad manners
Poor grammar
Other people
Children
Having to go to work
No rain when the garden needs watering
Rain when I want to go out in the sun
Being too hot
Being too cold
Being fat

I bet I win the prize for being the most grumpy.

I don't like having to put my phone in my bag and find my umbrella whenever a man walks past me at the bus stop. For clarification, this is ALONE at a bus stop at approximately 7:30 in the morning.

Really? I have heard lots of younger yelling at retail staff bus drivers etc