Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To start another grumpy old lady. thread

131 replies

user1485342611 · 18/06/2018 10:48

I just feel like starting a grumpy thread for other people who sometimes find modern life a bit off kilter

I don't want to go to weddings abroad that cost a bloody fortune, use up loads of annual leave, and are often for a couple that have been living together for ten years and have 3 kids, a mortgage and a dog.

I want to see young and healthy people giving up their seats on public transport for elderly, or even late middle age people. You're young, you've more energy, I did it when I was your age.

Any other grumpy old lady views posters would like to share.

OP posts:
halfwitpicker · 18/06/2018 12:56

I genuinely think I was born too late for this world

^

Me too.

Was listening to 'It's only Love' by Bryan Adams and Tina Turner this morning and all I could think was God bless the 80's.

Original poster
user1485342611 · 18/06/2018 12:58

I hate this attitude nowadays that staff should be contactable 24/7. When I go home from work I am finished for the day. I do not check emails or carry my work phone around.

When I go on holidays my work phone and lap top are put away in a drawer and not even charged up.

No one is indispensable. In the unlikely event of the world collapsing without me, I have friends at work who have my private number. It would not be rocket science to contact me. In the meanwhile I do not want to be semi wired in to the world of work when I'm trying to relax and switch off.

OP posts:
MrsJayy · 18/06/2018 13:00

I don't want to do everything online I want to speak to a person I also want to be able to phone and not have a million options to press and then talk to a voice recognition system I am scottish my accent confuses it Angry oh and I would prefer a till that isn't self scan.

54321go · 18/06/2018 13:02

I thought it was old men that are supposed to be grumpy, do you want equality for everything?

Trills · 18/06/2018 13:12

Every other section is the heterosexual section OhTheRoses.

citychick · 18/06/2018 13:21

Can i join...i'm 47 and feeling very grumpy today.

People who cut you off mid sentence to answer their phones. Then leave you to twiddle with your latte for the next 20 mins. Incredibly rude.

Kids who talk over adults. My DS tried this the other day and was shot down immediately. Some children have clearly never been taught how to wait their turn in conversation. ESPECIALLY when a grown up is talking. GRRRRRRR Never happened in MY day.

Agree with the lack of please and thank you's about.

Folk who complain about the food AFTER they've eaten ALL of it.

And people who, when they ask you to book a table for lunch/ dinner arrive at the restaurant, take one look at the menu and say, no, let's go somewhere else. Or try to order off menu.

People today are just so needy.

MrsJayy · 18/06/2018 13:26

I agree people do seem needier and it is exhausting life seems all about "likes" and validation.I don't even think I am explaining it properly sorry if I don't make sense Blush

The80sweregreat · 18/06/2018 13:28

Mrsjayy - I understand where your coming from!

citychick · 18/06/2018 13:32

mrsjayy
You're making perfect sense.
It's all ME ME ME.
instant gratification, "likes", validation, How dare you disagree with me, etc, etc.
It's almost impossible to have a conversation with people.
It's just so dull.

The80sweregreat · 18/06/2018 13:37

City - it is hard talking to folk as they are immediately on the defensive and everything is a huge problem. Or they will say something to burst your bubble or just to wind you up. My son does this- takes everything ‘the wrong way’ ! Grr

MrsJayy · 18/06/2018 13:42

My Dds are very sensitive sometimes i don't understand where we went wrong it is like they have no resiliance or something.

The80sweregreat · 18/06/2018 13:45

Mrsjayy - ds2 has gotten worse since coming back from uni! He jumps down my throat at every opportunity and I can’t say anything without him twisting it/ taking it the wrong way.
Not sure why.

5foot5 · 18/06/2018 13:46

I want to see young and healthy people giving up their seats on public transport for elderly, or even late middle age people.

Just come back from holiday in a European country. One day while we were there we had to catch a service bus. DD and I sat in seats that indicated (by a picture) that they should be given up to anyone who is elderly or disabled. BTW DD is not a child she is 22.

Bus set off and after a while more people got on and then an older lady approached us from behind and tapped DD on shoulder. DD surmised she needed the seat so immediately got up to offer it. Lady sat down then got in to conversation with her companion.

I found myself wondering if I should also give up my seat before I suddenly remembered I am 55 (nearly 56) and by the look of these two I was probably at least the same age.

So I stayed put Grin

Dandeliontea123 · 18/06/2018 13:53

I posted on another thread earlier about people wandering all over the pavement, then stopping dead right in front of me, or even starting to walk backwards into me. I sometimes feel as if I am only in the street to give way thanklessly to people who have more of a sense of their own self importance than I have.

I have worked in the same job for ten years. The people I work with become needier every year and expect me to be available 24/7. Or they assume I can bend the rules for trivial things that I have no control over. I don’t get a thank you or even any acknowledgement from them either half the time.

citychick · 18/06/2018 14:02

Yes , agree with stopping at the top or bottom of an escalator to chat or pull out a map.
Also those who try to get into a lift before anyone has started to get out.
Happens A LOT where I live, which isn't in the UK.

MrsJayy · 18/06/2018 14:03

It is draining Dd1 is a grown up woman with a mortgage and a responsable job yet she still whinges I guess it is that generation snowflake Hmm

Right back to the grumpiness folk crossing the road next to the crossing the run like they are on ninja warrior are they to cool for the green man

ToadOfSadness · 18/06/2018 14:09

Re: the wandering about on the street, also the ploughing through people regardless and the expecting people to move out of the way for them.

I got so tired of this some time ago that I squared my shoulders, head up, faced straight ahead and just kept on going. People actually moved over. I still do it now but am thwarted by having married a wuss that shuffles out of the way and then reminds me that there is someone there, wanting me to move into the gutter for them to pass and take up the entire pavement. No thank you, there is room for both of us if you just shift over too.

heatherblue · 18/06/2018 14:11

Waiting staff who are over-familiar and hang around your table chatting like they want to be your new best friend.

Being called "guys", my friends and I were consistently called guys last time we were out lunching, we were three women.

ToadOfSadness · 18/06/2018 14:11

When you get to the top of the escalator GET OFF otherwise I will shove you out of the way or tread on your heels because I have nowhere else to go. If it is one of those moving things where you take a trolley too, then I will shove it up your backside for the same reason, so don't glare at me for your own stupidity.

DragonMummy1418 · 18/06/2018 14:13

I want to see young and healthy people giving up their seats on public transport for elderly, or even late middle age people. You're young, you've more energy, I did it when I was your age.

Everyone has the same value. If someone is infirm then anyone of any age that is not infirm should offer their seat.

Disabilities are not always visible - how dare you judge someone on their age! Vile!

The80sweregreat · 18/06/2018 14:21

The ‘guy ‘thing is annoying -

I don’t mind a bit of bantz with the waiter or waitress etc but not all the time. I don’t want to be asked if everything is ok when I’m mid chewing ( always happens!) I know it’s their job but it can be tiring sometimes. I’m polite but I can see why people are not.

MrsJayy · 18/06/2018 14:21

Madame would you like me to email you your receipt . no thankyou what I want to say is if it doesn't fit/doesn't work I would need to print the receipt out and my printer hates me Grin

Happyhippy45 · 18/06/2018 14:21

Mine are all gripes about going out on my new scooter. I'm a really tolerant and patient person but it gets irritating.

Having to wait for ages for people to move out the way when I'm on my mobility scooter. They look right at me waiting to get past but still don't move. I'm talking about people standing having a chat in the middle of the pavement oblivious to what's going on around them. I could beep the horn or shout excuse me but I don't always want to be perceived as one of "those" people who think they own the pavement.

Cars parked on pavements meaning I can't get past and have to take the long way round or turn round and go home.

Teenagers smashing glass bottles for entertainment. Leaving a mess that is a hazard for dogs, kids and my scooter tyres!

Elderly people in particular who stare at me when I'm on my scooter. I'm 47 so a bit "young" for one I suppose......it's still rude though.

The80sweregreat · 18/06/2018 14:30

How young people think I know how to ‘do ‘technology - I struggle with downloading things , screenshotting etc etc. I know it’s something I should know but I don’t want to learn it / leave me alone. Go back to the old days!

LakieLady · 18/06/2018 14:41

Being called "guys", my friends and I were consistently called guys last time we were out lunching, we were three women.

My manager used to do this. In team meetings, she'd constantly refer to us as "You guys". We were a team of 10 women and just 1 man. She was in her 50s, too, so not Generation Snowflake.

Swipe left for the next trending thread