How the hell is it possible to look like this woman??

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OK I qas having that Sunday sadness feeling and now I'm feeling casually pissed off and jealous because I went on FB and an ad popped up featuring this woman (Tammy Hemsomething apparently).

How is it possible to look like this?! What I mean is is this the result of just working out or what? But how can she get her body fat down so low for the waist, but not on her bum or tits?!

*woman

Oh and btw I'm fat - I wish i wasn't but lack willpower. I admire her for the work she puts in and that she manages to make money from it too. Good for her. Do I think it's a bit over the top? Yes. But hey I'm not her and I accept that it's ok to be different.

and it is just a fact that people who are snidey about other women's appearance when they are fit it is more often than not anchored in jealousy.

Towel where is your evidence for that?

Also, in this case the dislike isn't about being fit, it's about the arseshape.

Do you really not see the difference between critising someone’s words and critisising someone’s body?

When that woman's body is the 'product' she enthusiastically displays and markets to the public, then no, I don't see the difference.

Well done, don'tforgetyourtowel. 5 posts to tell us that if we don't share your admiration for a woman who displays her bubble bum to the world, then we're all just jelly h8ers.

If that's what you believe, nothing I can say will change your mind so I won't even try.

I don’t think it’s possible for a white woman to have that physique naturally, no matter how much exercise they do.

Oh come on, it's a bit of a universal fact that jealous women tend to bitch about other women's appearance. You go on denying that, suit yourself.

Excuse the language but if you really want scientific evidence for something you would agree with if the nastiness was targeted at you or a friend : jezebel.com/5862170/science-confirms-bitches-are-jealous

You just don’t get it.
You might like it, I don’t.

Frankly, your assumptions say more about you and your insecurities around people you perceive as attractive.

Ffs you don't have to admire someone not to be nasty.......

FFS, there is no way I’m even going to consider an article where women are called bitches.

It's about not trying to take women down a peg or two when they look differently to you. But yeah there is no point arguing with people who seem to be ok with saying horrible things about people who are different. Wars are based on this shit. Take a good look at yourself and live and let live.

Actually people who are insecure are more likely to critique others
Here is the link to the original article, no bad language and no excuse to ignore expert because it doesn't suit your narrative m.box.com/shared_item/https%3A%2F%2Fwww.box.com%2Fs%2Frdthllpbpfuk0g2lqtdt

You just don't get it. You don't need to like it. It's totally ok not to. However, you do need to not be horrible about her just because you don't like it. Imagine you saying to someone that you are proud about something you achieved and that other person would tell you they think it's ridiculous and they wouldn't want to do what you did so therefore you're a dumb bitch. You'd start a thread on mumsnet pronto about the nasty person. I don't know if you are one of the people who have been saying dreadful things about this girl for not being like you but if you are, guess what, you're the nasty one.

I have work to do now. No doubt when/if I come back there will be lots of comments justifying trying to tear down a woman who did nothing to you, just because she is different... Knock yourselves out, no doubt it makes you feel better about yourself, but don't come crying on here when someone dies the same to you.

And that’s exactly what you are doing, Towel.

You keep criticising posters who don’t think someone you like is attractive and you keep calling then jealous, and you are happy to provide an article where women are called bitches.

You don’t see the irony?

So again, I don’t like that type of body shape and because I don’t like it I’m iin no way envious of it. I feel I can express my opinion because the woman in the photo is happy to post it for everybody’s consideration.

You like it, that’s fine.

How difficult is that to wrap your head around?

Resorting to personal insults when you don’t like someone else’s opinion is not exactly a sign of confidence in yours.

. Lay off trying to belittle another women because she doesn't look like you.
But it's perfectly fine for someone to self promote an unrealistic body image purely it seems to show off. Wonder how that makes young girls full of insecurities about their bodies feel.

She promotes herself on social media, she obviously is going to get attention. Sorry but pictures like the ones she's promoting epitomises narcissism at it's very worst. Why the fuck should we be encouraging it.

Actually people who are insecure are more likely to critique others smile

Kind of like what you're doing?

A few questions for the 'tearing down other women' brigade (though I don't expect answers).

• If this were a man angling his arse into a lens, would it be OK to 'tear him down'?
• Would it be OK for a man to criticise this woman?
• Are there any circumstances where it's OK for a woman to criticise another woman? Other, of course, than when a woman doesn't fawn over Youtube 'fitness' bloggers as much as you do?

I'm not into shaming women's bodies at all but that is not the type of body I would aspire to have. To me she doesn't look in proportion. I follow Kayla Itsines and prefer her look... Although I know she's not everybody's cup of tea either. I guess its each to their own.

It's been truly eye opening to see the influence that instabloggers have. The vitriol on this thread is really really sad actually.

I couldn't give a toss what she looks like as it has no bearing on me or my life.

But, taking a step back, from the body shape argument, this whole thing is just weird. What in the actual fuck are people doing these days?
Can you imagine in the days of snappy snaps, bringing your little pocket of 24/36 exposure prints into your place of work or your friends house and saying "oo, here you go, here's some pics of me standing in my pants, what do you reckon?"

People would think you had gone insane.

Even if it was just a fitness thing to share with others with the same interests /goals, would she have taken a pack of photos into the gym where she works out and passed them round for feedback?

And this is thinking about people you would actually know. Why is it now a thing to gain validation and approval from people who you will never meet?? Just - why?
People's self esteem/businesses/work ethics coped perfectly well 15 years ago without having some random thousands of miles away telling you your thighs look banging.

What. The. Fuck. Is. Going. On.

Honestly, my head hurts. Its just so so strange to me

I think people who do this aren't very well.
It has become an accepted 'thing' now. But this isn't normal behaviour.

You're so right INeedAnAero (great username). People would have been mortified if you started showing them pictures like that!

People's self esteem/businesses/work ethics coped perfectly well 15 years ago without having some random thousands of miles away telling you your thighs look banging.

LOL!

Sometimes when I'm on holiday and I post pictures of some exotic meal I'm having on FB, I wonder if I'm being a self-absorbed prat! Like, who the hell wants to see this delicious pizza I'm having in Italy?

But.... standing in the bathroom in my knickers, twisting my limbs so my arse looked suitably massive? That I cannot even contemplate even if I had a body worth looking at.

I think the one thing this thread has shown me is that I'm actually bloody glad I'm not on instagram and don't "follow" anyone. The only thing I have is FB and I use it maybe twice a year to share holiday snaps with family (we're scattered across the world) and I'd delete that if it wasn't for the photo thing, and using the messenger app to keep up with friends from other countries. I'm rapidly coming to the conclusion that I am probably someone who just dislikes social media.