To not want to work?

[hamandcheeserolls]

OK, this might seem a goady title but genuinely what can you do.

One of my children is disabled, get regular phone calls from school to pick him up, he's overwhelmed.

One is 2.

I have no partner and no family at all.

I genuinely struggle to see how I can work in this setup?

I never said it would be easy. It's just suggestions. The government are erroding the benefits available, if there's any way at all of making your own money it could be a lifeline later. I think it's disgraceful that single parents with young dc are made to feel crap for not working btw. It's only a few short years. Most of them will work ft for years when their dc grow up.

YANBU I'm a Special Needs Teacher. Most of my pupils have a parent at home. All of my pupils have multiple hospital/therapy appointments, frequent in-school meetings and are off ill more frequently than mainstream children. It's almost a full-time job for parents. Those that do work only do part-time, and have good family/carer support in case their child is ill. Don't give yourself a hard time about not working. Chances are you're already having to work so much harder than people realise. Most of my pupils have frequent sleep issues/medical issues through the night. It's exhausting for parents. I'm in awe of them, mostly, that they do so much. It's relentless.

Working is so much more than just being financially better off.

It's about self respect, providing for oneself and the children we choose to have, better outcomes for the children, showing them a work ethic etc.

Yes it can be a juggling act working around children but millions manage it including parents of SEND children.

I was asking about WORKING

And I and others addressed that by saying that of course it's difficult right now and you need to look at thee obstacles.

Find a way that your eldest dc can be comfortable at school. Find a way to boost your qualifications in the area you are interested in. Find childcare solution for youngest dc. What kind of advice were you hoping for?

And sometimes it's about finding the balance of what you can actually do. I have no one who can have my child, I have no day care that will take him. I worked through high school and Uni and up until I went into labour with him. And now I can't. It won't always be this way, but for now it is.
I have self respect because I know I'm doing what's best for us.

I can't financially provide for him atm but I will in a few years and right now practical trumps financial.

Having two full time working parents isn't a guarantee of a childs.
There's more than one way to teach a child work ethic.

If OP can't emotionally and physically manage to work atm with one child barely in nursery and one who has additional needs, we're lucky to live in a country where we can support her.
If OP said I have two kids in school, no additional needs but I intend to sit home and claim benefits because I just can't be arsed to work swbu

There are many comments in here that are nothing to do with working more she claims benefits.
If a sham said she couldn’t work because of dc’s special needs no one would be telling her to get self respect .

Is that all you wanted, strangers telling you it's fine that you don't want to work? Okay, it's fine that you don't want to work.

If you can't work because your circumstances are too difficult, that's fine. But with no partner or family and no qualifications you are probably aware you could find yourself in the shit in a few years, which is why suggestions were made. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you well.

If your son is disabled you may be able to get DLA. if he receives the care component you can claim Carer's allowance and you can either claim
Income Support or (if you are in a Universal Credit full service area) Universal Credit and there would be no work related requirements placed on you ie you would not be required to work or complete work related activities. You won't have much money mind!

Of course YANBU OP, it sounds so hard and I really feel for you.

Cristaltipps "What kind of advice were you hoping for?" Maybe none. Maybe just sympathetic ears.

Personally I don't see how you could work ...unless you could earn mega bucks and could throw money at the situation.

Sorry op... to be clear, do you or don't you want to work?