To have pointed out how long it is since I have had an orgasm

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With DH
We were cuddling this morning and I mentioned later on tonight it might be nice if we have sex and he pleasures me. Worded this as in I want him to do all sorts of nice things to me. When he said maybe if you get lucky I said “do you know the last time I came with you was when we were away 7 months ago.
He is now pissed I have been “counting” and he cant believe it’s been that long. I said we have had sex but you have finished and then always said you were too tired to carry on with me (never been able to climax during intercourse)
It’s true though when we have sex he is then too tired after and practically falls asleep. When we are having foreplay he just wants to get to the intercourse part as soon as possible.
I haven’t been counting I just remember the last time was when we were away and that was not great to be honest. I did climax but only just.
Think his ego is a bit bruised now but I am not going to hide the fact from him it has been that long. He has always been a bit selfish in bed to be honest and when he is doing things to me he will ruin it quite often by making a silly voice or stupid joke.

I just want to feel desired

I was with you on your op but your later posts sound like you have been nagging him for/about sex for months and months.... It just sounds like you have mismatched sex drives. Talking from my own experience as someone with a low sex drive, nothing is more of a turn off than a partner trying to force or pressure me into sex to fulfill their 'needs'.
I'd stop pestering your partner for sex as it will never work and maybe talk to him about having an open relationship and getting a fuck buddy to give you a good seeing to on a regular basis. Or if it's purely orgasms you want then just buy yourself a vibrator and dildo.

Surrey Dad, having fun pulling our chain

Either that or he is really, really useless. I've had quite a few sexual relationships and even in my teens they knew where my clitoris was! It doesn't change position in different women and having seen hundreds of vulvas in my line of work (am a nurse) then I can say that with some certainty.

Yes I let her guide me, but I still feel I'm "in the area", but not "on the button"

Ok, you're teasing us.

Surrey - you need to be able to speak about this as a couple and find out what feels good. If you don't have the openness to do that there is something really wrong. You don't need an anatomy book in the bedroom FFS. No-one wants someone putting on their glasses and going to check page 374.

Steff he's doesn't even know how to tease his wife let alone us!

LiteraryDevil1

I am giving him the benefit of the doubt that no one is that clueless.

Yes I let her guide me, but I still feel I'm "in the area", but not "on the button”

Ask her to tell you when you’re ‘on the button’?
It really isn’t as difficult as you’re making it.

I’ve yet to orgasm. After dh orgasm he’s out of it for a while so that’s it done but before he performs foreplay then we move on to Intercourse which works for us but like I said I don’t orgasm so maybe that’s why I don’t mind

in practice I struggle to find it but I'm keen to learn

How difficult is "front and centre"?

I’d tell him his winky will not be entering anywhere until you have come. Bollocks to that one sidedness. Lazy bugger!

I’d wait for him to make you come then fall asleep and see how he likes it. Cheeky fucker.

Surrey my previous ohs never struggled to find it as such. I know it varies in size between women. But the way I leapt like a terrier when a chap was being a bit gung ho should have given a clue. The being 'in the area' is right for me rather than being on the button anyway, it's not an on/off switch but a big complex structure. Wet your fingers and have a feel around. If soldiers used to be able to clean and load a Lee Enfield blindfolded, going by feel and watching your partner's face and breathing shouldn't be THAT hard. I acknowledge it's difficult if she won't talk about it - I would guess that you need to try one type of contact consistently for a period of time /several sessions so you both know what you are referring to. Also the level of contact that is comfortable /pleasurable changes as the clitoris gets more erect.

Indeed, amusedbush.

www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/458030224572285857/

Queen, suspect there are folk looking in gagging for us to put up pictures for them (rolls eyes)

Click the link, welshmist. It's not an anatomical diagram, I promise

Although I should probably have kept looking until I found the GIF.

Yes I let her guide me, but I still feel I'm "in the area", but not "on the button"

Women's bodies don't have buttons. They're much more complex than that. It's not like with men where you generally just have to rub for long enough and eventually get a result. I can get myself off easy enough, but it's very rare that DH can do it and he has a lot of patience.

FGS don't just dive on the button. I've had partners who thought pummelling it was the answer, no no no. Most women's nerve endings are concentrated on one side. I'd be amazed if your DW didn't know exactly where here were. Start off gently.

God what fodder for pervs this is