Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

[Biscusting]

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

Yes Octo ironic humour doesn't involve telling a host what you actually think Saying something like "the room was too small" isn't a funny piss take, it's just saying the room was too small.

In a way it's worse if this is due to her speaking her mind due to Autism because this is then what she honestly thinks of OP, her house and her DH

But this person does not have a diagnosis. Therefore she does not get to be a dick and have excuses made on a 'just in case' basis.
Can you not see why calling her out on her behaviour is the more appropriate response here?

I'd definitely message her and ask what the fuck is she at posting that shit? Then tell her to sling her hook and find somewhere else for July.

Ohhhh please comment!!

Aero that’s the thing, I can’t tell if i’m being over sensitive, but I feel really humiliated by what’s she’s said. Perhaps I should just say that and be direct.
Don’t know how I could face her in July. Did she not think it would be awkward??

Not sure about any diagnoses, but if she did have a different view on life, I’d feel shit calling her out on FB on top of having my house and hospitality judged.

Op has not mentioned sn, some people are just twats like this person.

No you are not being sensitive, she publucally humiated you, there is noway I would have her back or be her friend. What are you going to do?

I'm genuinely confused. She knows you're friends on Facebook so she knows you'd see it. Was it meant to be a (really bad) joke? Why would anyone like that (maybe they didn't even bother to read it).

ASD or not it's not appropriate and best that she is told this.

Anyway it's a moot point. Just be truthful and direct. It's ok to point out that she has said some unkind things about your family and your hospitality. You feel rather hurt and won't be hosting her in July.

I would definitely say something! We Lao live in a tourist area and host free stays to familly and friends. I wouldnt expect glowing reviews but she's just plain rude.

You need to screen shot her message and then message her directly.

Just a 'thanks for the review, but we aren't a hotel and you are no longer welcome'

You arent overreacting! Tell her she wont mind not coming back as she didnt seem to enjoy it.

Just text her and say

"I cannot believe you rated me trip advisor style on FB! You invited yourself to my home where you were made to feel welcome. I am hurt more than you will ever know. Enjoy the exhibition in July, needless to say there will be no welcome in my home to you again"

If you review somebody for everybody to see you give them a glowing review, even if their WiFi was shite. Wtf. Please tell her to do one!

No you're not being over sensitive.

A different view on life isn't really an excuse is it? I mean she could have taken magic mushrooms and mistakenly thought she was a Four in a Bed contestant last night but that doesn't mean you can't be hurt.

She's taken your kindness and hospitality and thrown it in your face publicly for a cheap laugh.

I'd message her with a very dry message: "I find this insulting. Please delete."

Eh? Just...... eh? Really? Really really?
As if you would critique a friend's house on FB.
Either barking or thought you were a B and B or something.
Just.....eh?!

Blimey, she’s an absolute arsehole and now we’re diagnosing her?

OP you need to say something. Whether it’s commenting on her review or it’s privately done, it’s not on. It’s humiliating if it’s a ‘joke’ she needs to know that it’s not funny, it’s downright cuntish.

This is the kind of thing id do in a jokey way but the different would be I’d be complimentary and rating it 5 star, fab food and company etc.

I agree with previous posters, I’d be sending her a bill.

hi Biscusting, because she has posted her comments on social media you need to do some kind of reply on FB. There is no excuse for this behaviour. you provided a lovely hospitable and comfortable stay. She was just taking the proverbial.

"Wow" should do it.

One our mutual friends has liked it!!! Am I on glue? He can’t have actually read it properly!!! Argh!

thanks for the review, but we aren't a hotel and you are no longer welcome

I like this.

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Agreed

I can't believe armchair diagnosis on here, some people are just arseholrs, there is one right there.