Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

[Biscusting]

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

Post a 'high' reply on YOUR page and TAG her in it.

Before you press 'post', customize your post and select all the people you don't want to be able to see it. All your work mates can be listed there and none will have a clue you've posted.

I’d comment on the status, posting a link to the nearest Travelodge or Premier Inn with a comment saying “Looks like there’s availability here for the XXrd July. Enjoy the exhibition.”

That's good.

On the spectum! Fuck right off! None of the people I know who have an AS diagnosis would do this.
She is just an almighty twat.

Blacks response had me 😂😂😂😂

I wouldn't go for a clever reply. It could look like you're trying to be funny like she is or like you're the in on the joke. I'd just post 'WTF? How rude, is this supposed to be funny?'.

Some people inhabit a world this is a different universe to the rest of us. I can't believe this has happened to you! Unbelievable.

Do not take any of what she says to heart, she's clearly a disturbed human being who needs some professional help.

So you say she’s socially awkward and usually shy and quiet?

This doesn’t mesh with everyone baying that she’s a stuck up bitch slag attention whoring cunt, does it

Far more likely that she’s trying to engage in silly humour and has badly misjudged how that’s going to play out

CF is all I can say.

I'd go for 50shades' response with the addition of 'you'll need to find somewhere else to stay in July as you are no longer welcome.'

Wow. Don’t try to match her humour. Go with the link to Travelodge suggestion above.

Bury it and rise above. Bet your house is fab.

@CanlBuffalo I am on the spectrum and so are my kids.
I can totally imagine my middle son doing this. He went through a phase of reviewing my meals etc. I had to explain why it was inappropriate. He still doesnt get why, but he stopped.
I definitely think this is a social skills issue. She cant possibly have any clue how inappropriate this is, or she wouldnt have done it, surely

Wow!
What a horrible thing to do. Dignified reply required, for all her pals to see, and then ditch.

Well she has humiated op, and threw her hospitality back in her face. Many a truth is said in jest. Point her to the nearest Travelodge and delete her from your life. I wod go for a clever reply before I went.

If she is socially awkward then this is probably an attempt at ironic humour, but she has got the boundaries wrong. She's trying too hard to join in the banter. If you're going to use that form of humour, taking the mickey out of people etc. you have to be completely sure they won't be offended.

Sounds to me like an attempt at humour thinking you'll 'get' it and everyone will obviously know it's a joke? Sometimes people do get these things awfully wrong... I have once or twice made a pisstakey joke at my husband, who I've been with for 15 years, thinking he'll laugh , and he's been upset by it. As she knows you'll see it, I think a humour misfire rather than an attempt to have a go.

This is an adult. My adult DC wouldn't do this and neither would the other adults I know with diagnosed AS.
And some of them are twats, quite apart frim their AS. As you will know, it's really really not helpful to bandy about suppositions about twatish behaviour being because of AS.

Please stop making excuses for rude behaviour, this was put on Facebook for all to see. . Surely you know the person will see it, and be hurt. Nasty behaviour.

Buzzlightyearsbumchin

Love your comment. I would definitely post it on her FB page.
As for returning, the hotel is closed for renovations

Holy shit balls, just when you think they can't get any cheekier along comes this one . No way is this a "dry" sense of humour, she is just a cunt! Reply with what Okki or Sidge said, and dump her ungrateful ass BUT be prepared for her to turn this around on you and say you can't take a joke (not true)

My DH and DS1 are also on the spectrum. Whilst I am tired of the 'socially awkward = autism' posts, I could totally see my family doing this.

I would absolutely bust their arses over it and it would be deleted immediately but it would still probably happen

I agree with BlackAmericanonosugar you must post back. Even if she was trying to be funny it's just not right. Does your friend have a history of posting these types of reviews on FB?

Sounds like a bad joke. You probably aren't going to want to stay friends with her. So if I was you I'd want to confront her with a wtf!? You've got nothing to lose.

Just watch what you say on here about your friend because this is a textbook example of a post that the lazy cunts at the daily mail will steal!

I think you should privately message her and ask wtf she thinks she's doing, I wouldn't reply to the post as like you said before it's a bit like airing your dirty laundry in public.

@CanIBuffalo, I only said it because i got a strong feeling that it was something an aspie with poor social skills would do. It just doesnt strike me as twattish behaviour but definitely inappropriate and hurtful