Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

[Biscusting]

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

I wouldn't comment, let her think she can stay in July then tell her no so she's fucked for going to her event or has to spend a fortune. Screen shot the 'review' to use then.

Maybe they hit 'like' so if a shit storm occurred they'd get a front row seat?

i agree with category12. just 'wow'

I’d take a screenshot and send it to her with a ??? and nothing else. See how she tries to explain it. Replying to the post is so tempting and it’s fun to draft fantasy responses here, but even when you’re in the ‘right’ people will generally see it as airing of dirty laundry in public and I personally wouldn’t want that.

This is a horrid thing to have done to you OP, please don't let it slide

Maybe post a comment along the lines of “Wow! That’s pretty harsh. We aren’t a hotel after all.”

Either that or text her and ask her to delete the post as you found it quite upsetting.

She’s an arse. There’s no way this is acceptable.

Don’t worry about why she’s done this OP. The fact is she has and it’s not acceptable. It’s beyond rude.

I like Okki‘s text, it’s honest and to the point.

I'd answer like hotels do on TA:

Dear XXX

We at Hotel have read your review and we are sorry our accommodations did not meet your exacting standards. We do strive to please but we realize that our facilities may not suit all. We have passed your comments on to our staff for their review. We hope you find another establishment that more suits your needs for the next time you are in the area.

Sincerely
Biscusting, Gen Mgr

You could reply with a link to this thread and say
"I have reviewed you too and 100% of readers think you are a cunt"

Just who does this? It's so odd and so wrong. Don't see how it's meant to be a "joke" either as it's not funny, just rude.

Write a review from you and DH about the rude and inconsiderate company

Your friends will NOT see it! Especially if her privacy is not set to public. Please say what Buzz said!

Oh and I have a friend whose home actually isa B&B you can review online and I would never, ever post something like this!

Well she knew you were going to see it so she wasn't out to offend. Sounds like a wack sense of humour.

Ok so get your DH to comment on her post.

You came and staying with us as guest of my wife at no charge to yourself and then you review us...
Wow, just to clarify you are not welcome back for your planned revisit in July.

how can she possibly deem this appropriate behaviour and still presume it's 'super' to use the same hospitality in July, whilst slating it right now on FB

I don’t understand why you haven’t you sent her a message? It’s dragging it out unnecessarily. Or are you waiting for something?

Apparently I'm on glue too, OP. My DH is saying it's a funny joke, like when you go to a fancy hotel and say it's just about better than travelodge or calling a tall person tiny?

UghAch It’s less than two hours since the first post. Perhaps Biscusting wants to think about the contents of her response and doesn’t shoot first and think later.

very rude

I would have to reply to her saying how rude and insulting it was, especially as she stayed in your home for free

'Sorry to have disappointed on all fronts.Please accept this refund' Oops hang on ................

Good friend at uni..kept in touch loosely over the years but (our lives) have pushed us in different directions
..We live in an area popular with tourists

I'm sorry but you have sporadic contact with an old uni friend and she invites herself out of the blue to stay? Was that anything to do with the fact that she'd planned to swan off to a big tourist attraction on her own on one of the days?

I wouldn't continue with this friendship. You gave her cooked pastries, a choice of cereal, a fruit platter and yoghurt for breakfast for Fuck's Sake!

I like AcrossthePond55 suggestion of replying as though a hotel on TripAdviser but mention the budget price she (didn't pay) for free accommodation!

Cheeky cow.

The following words woul feature in our next conversation. Not necessarily in this order. Fuck, go, yourself.