Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

[Biscusting]

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

She's unfriended you as a knee-jerk reaction to her wanting you not to have seen the post. ("Erk! I forgot Biscusted was on my friends list!!" - instantly removes you from friends list.)

It's a really bizarre way of using Facebook.

Very bizarre. I'm sure her therapist meant a private diary, not airing all her thoughts to her friends.

Fishface has it, I think. I agree that she must have panicked when you messaged earlier to say you’d seen it. I find it very hard to believe that a therapist would encourage keeping a diary on social media. Also, why on earth would she make a date with you to stay next month if she was having such a bad time?

Okay, sent a reply along the lines of what Struggs has said and asked if could take the post down.

Send Struggs dignified message and then move on.

She can discuss the whole sorry fiasco with her therapist.

To give her a glimmer of the benefit of the doubt, a “score” of how she was feeling could well be a suggested therapeutic tool. But you’d have to be spectacularly ignorant not to realise that FB is not the place for it.

for you.

There is no need to write everything down on a public forum. What an idiot.
Glad you sent suggs' message. Poor you.

Just reply 'ok, all the best then.' And back away.

Don't have anything to do with her again. And don't answer the door in July!

Two other things to remember

• she could have edited her post to keep the overall gist of the weekend but took out the offending stuff
• facebook has the option of posting stuff to 'Only Me' so she is choosing to make this public

@Biscusting so does that mean your hotel has space in July?

@Biscusting so does that mean your hotel has space in July?

@Biscusting so does that mean your hotel has space in July?

I think you're handling with with dignity in a shitty situation. She had no idea you'd see the post hence she's Unfriended you. She is a horrid person. No therapist would condone making someone else feel,shit for doing a good deed as in you hosted her for a weekend.

At the end of the day, as property have said, she is responsible for her actions. She must be very stupid if she believed it would not come back to you.

How strange.

By any chance do you take in paying guests too at times and even though she wasn't a paying guest, she wrote a review as if she was one?

That was a good reply, well done.
I'm so sorry that you have been through this.

The bed's too high, the room's too small, the wifi's too slow, the dh is too dry.. Has she told her therapist she has a Goldilocks complex?

Back away from this friend. She's just too Princessy and weird.

I think you've been very dignified about it all anyway!

Please review her right back!

Please review her right back!

GrannyPants you sound keen

OMG, WTF???! Seriously. I've seen some crazy things on Facebook that really don't belong there, this is one of them.

Good job sending that reply. I think that blocking and ignoring without addressing her bullshit would allow her to tell herself that what she did was okay, and you're the unreasonable one for cutting her off.

grannypants i’m too scared to let anyone cross my threshold at this point!

I haven’t had anyone pay to stay here nor could my home be mistaken for a hotel.

She didn’t realise I was on Facebook and would see it.

Oh I see. It's all right if the world and its mother sees it, as long as you don't? I don't think so.

She’s replied apologising again and says she’s taken the post down and will look at new ways of expressing things.

She hope’s we can put it behind us and it won’t affect our friendship.

She hopes it won't affect her free stay in July more likely.

Well I would just ignore her now, as it clearly has affected your friendship and you won't be hosting her again I hope.