Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

[Biscusting]

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

struggs reply is good.

StruggsToFunc reply is good, i would use that.

She’s a liar. That is some story she has concocted.

She’s awful. Even if she has been told to write a diary of her day why post something so horrible in a public place?! Either she is spectacularly ignorant or just obnoxious. I think you’re well did to be honest!

Ignore.

The woman.

*rid

I personally would not want to see her again. You could write, you are sorry to hear about her depression, but surely you shoukd have known that social media is very public and our mutual friends woukd see, did you not think for one moment how it woukd impact on me, before you posted that hurtful review of my hosting.

Therefore I am unable to host you again, I cannot get past this and suggest you find alternative accommodation for July.

Biscuit.

Struggs that’s a good response. Although I feel like just blocking her entirely right now.

Wow
I journal privately for mental health but when times are shit, I tell my friends I'm hiding away and I don't write criticism of people's homes in my journal

that is not an excuse to post criticism like that on a public forum with everyone named etc

I'd send the message suggested by Strugg. I'd also ask her to take the post down.

I find it very hard to believe that a therapist treating someone with depression would advocate them writing a diary on Facebook, given how detrimental social media can be on people's mental health. But if the friend is being genuine, her binning you off FB is still crap, OP - it means she's kept the post up and deleted you from seeing it, rather than deleted the post. I wouldn't bother to engage any further.

Biscuit delete and block her if you want, I would.

Cross post
Or block and delete, that sounds fine too!

What a load of twaddle.

Actually, send Struggs' excellent response and then disengage.

Bollocks. I struggle to believe anyone can be stupid enough to use fb as therapy journal, that’s ridiculous. Her moral compass is seriously off if she didn’t hesitate to write THAT.
She is playing the ‘woe is me’ card now that she’s been found out.

Blocking or ignoring will make her feel worse. She is beneath contempt. You do not have to engage with people like that.

Anyway, if there is silence from your end, she won’t know how to deal with it.

If know a lady with MH issues, that uses FB as a blog, but it's more what she is feeling that day, directed at her toxic mum. Nothing like op, she just woukdent do that.

Therapists don't suggest that their clients write shitty remarks about their friends on Facebook for all to see. She chose to write that stuff.

More like one of her pals saw this thread and told her....so she is using an existing condition to try to dig herself out of the big hole she is in.
She sounds very unpleasant whatever is going on with her... stay clear.

It's taken her most of the day to come up with that "explanation."

I would send Shrugg's excellent response, but add that you'd like her to take down the FB post, and then block.

I know a therapist advised someone to come off Fb never to post your shit to all and sundry .

Sleep in it op. You don’t have to do anything or on any time line

I would wish her well on her journey to better mental health but I'd also remind her that she has to own her actions, she was knowingly rude about you and when called out her immediate reaction was to cut you out. Not to try to apologise.
Then just cease all communication. She will twist and manipulate this, how long did it take her to cook that story up?

You should have sent her a link to hotels. You missed the boat there.
Without further ado I think the friendship never was. Whatever it was is over.
You have been mugged. Well and truly.

Haven't read all of thread but had to comment at the CF and neckiness and rudeness of you uni friend OP

Haven't read all of thread but had to comment at the CF and neckiness and rudeness of you uni friend OP