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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

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Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

OP posts:
diodati · 10/06/2018 06:57

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar Brilliant! Grin

Mc180768 · 10/06/2018 07:08

Oh dear.

I'd have to respond,

'Dear friend,

Thank you for your comments on my home . I am sorry you are disappointed with my hospitality. For the benefit of your friends, I'd add, you invited yourself.

I'm so very sorry our WIFI was 'poor at best' I also note your comments regarding the decor. We happen to like our home and as we are not a hotel charging guests for a stay, I take exception to your tactless comments.

You were a guest in my home as a friend. As you have displayed with your comments above, it appears that friendships are now subject to star ratings. As friends go, you're a zero star.

Given you experienced a two-star stay at my home, please note:

Consider yourself from hereonin, NFI. (Not fucking invited)

Sincerely

Former friend

Urbanbeetler · 10/06/2018 07:08

Have you asked your mutual friend why he liked such a rude post? That would hurt too.

wineandcheeseplease · 10/06/2018 07:18

Placemarking

ThatsWotSheSaid · 10/06/2018 07:19

I think you have to assume it was a joke gone wrong and any response on her wall will be met with claims that she was ‘only joking’. If it was me I would private message her saying something like - ‘not sure if your ‘review’ is tongue in check or meant to be a joke, I’m feeling a bit offended and confused to be honest. I’d appreciate it if you changed your post and took out the elements about my husband and I, and our home.’
Then deal with the recurring visit by being ‘busy’ if she has the cheek to ask.

fcekinghell · 10/06/2018 07:28

This is got to be a joke right? As in the review never happened? Surely no one is that rude....?

Clubcuts · 10/06/2018 07:30

@Buzzlightyearsbumchin that's genius!

@Biscusting use it!

Figgygal · 10/06/2018 07:33

Unbelievable
Really really gobsmacked
The world is suddenly full of utter whackadoodles
Dump her op and fuck her return stay in July

justanotheruser18 · 10/06/2018 07:34

Wtf. Omg she is a knob. She is your friend because...?

CyclesPerfecta · 10/06/2018 07:39

How rude of her and humiliating for you! I would not reply on FB. What is in the public domain stays there forever. Your reputation could be damaged if this turns into a full blown FB row. Why can’t you call her and ask why she posted that?

bridgetosomewhere · 10/06/2018 07:41

I would link to nearest travel lodge and say try there for July they have a 4* rating

Then you are also being ‘jokey’ but letting her know you have seen it and she’s not welcome back!

Supermagicsmile · 10/06/2018 07:42

I trip advisor style review response would be good.

Mouthfulofquiz · 10/06/2018 07:42

I would just comment ‘im really hurt by this’ and then just leave it hanging. What a rude twat.

MrsMaisel · 10/06/2018 07:43

I think it's great when people expose themselves like this. It means you won't experience any self-doubt when you cut them off completely.

Chocolatelavender · 10/06/2018 07:45

I would reply in her comments: If this is meant to be a joke I give it 0 stars. It's not funny, it's not amusing and it has no punchline. If this is how you really view us and our home you have some cheek inviting yourself back here. So, I give you 0 stars as a comedian, 0 stars as a guest and 0 stars as a friend.

GeekyWombat · 10/06/2018 07:50

Definitely reply on the thread. This is awful!

cherrytrees123 · 10/06/2018 07:50

I cannot believe this. I would write her a very strongly worded email or text, whatever, explaining you find her behaviour gobsmackingly rude, and you never want to hear from her again. End of.

PotOfMemories · 10/06/2018 07:51

Shameless place mark.

BigPinkBall · 10/06/2018 07:52

I agree with @Mouthfulofquiz, I’m really hurt by this is perfect, it really makes the point and I can’t see how she could turn it around to say it was only a joke etc.

StealthPolarBear · 10/06/2018 07:53

Have you replied yet op?

FriendlyOcelot · 10/06/2018 07:54

Come on op you can’t let her get away with this! Sod the dignified private message! I would just comment on the post (your friends won’t see it if it’s on her wall - unless it’s public - check for the globe symbol next to the post) something along the lines of,

“I’m surprised that you didn’t enjoy your stay with us, cf friend. I thought that the array of breakfast choices we provided, the large freshly made up bed in the newly decorated room, and choices of entertainment that we laid on at the last minute would have been enough for you. As our establishment so clearly falls short of your expectations we will be unable to accommodate you in the future.”

And leave it at that. I guarantee anyone reading that would be on your side op, and it will expose her for being the tit that she is.

Aeroflotgirl · 10/06/2018 07:56

I would have to say more than 'wow'. I would have to say under her post, Wow, is that the way you treat me, when I made you welcome in my home"! She humiliated you in front of your mutual friends, I expect if they knew the truth, they would be mortified, nobody would want to host her, just in case they get a scathing attack on social media.

She sounds thoroughly unpleasant to do such a thing, did she think she was staying at a hotel or Air bnb then!

TweetleBeetlesBattle · 10/06/2018 07:56

I'd be tempted to say nothing, let her come in July, leave a sign on the door "Two Star Hotel. No Vacancies". Letting her know in advance she's not welcome just opens you up to whining about how you can't take a joke. Let her be put out by her actions.

Aeroflotgirl · 10/06/2018 07:58

I would not care for the private message, others need to know, I personally would not care, she made herself look bad when she gave that unessesary review of staying at a friends house.

Racecardriver · 10/06/2018 08:00

I would just comment with an 'are you alright hun? X' and see what she does. What a fucking weirdo.

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