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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

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Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

OP posts:
perroy · 10/06/2018 01:58

This reeks of jealousy. I would never have her around again.

Johnnycomelately1 · 10/06/2018 02:00

Cady I just wondered if she might have seen other people post things along the lines of "Went to John's new house this weekend. It's alright if a bit pokey and they could have made a bit of effort with the food" with a picture of them sitting around a gorgeous spread on John's 1 acre lawn with pool and tennis court. i.e. obviously saying the exact opposite of what they mean.

So basically tried to copy that style but just got it really wrong.

smashyourglasses · 10/06/2018 02:01

Yeah i think you've been a bit of a soft touch in your response..

quizqueen · 10/06/2018 02:08

I'd definitely leave a comment on her facebook page....along the lines of .....
'This is my home, not a bloody hotel, I didn't expect a review but as you like to give them - here's mine'.

'Friend invited herself for a weekend after little contact over the years, didn't bring gift or help with clearing up meal I prepared or offer to pay for anything or show any gratitude to say thanks for a free weekend. She thinks she's going to get similar freebies in the future. Well, I've news for her, she isn't as she's only a one star guest and very rude to boot to comment like this on a public forum!'..........or words to that effect. No one needs friends like this.

Johnnycomelately1 · 10/06/2018 02:10

Well the other thing is that the OP is paraphrasing and the impact of a joke is all in the delivery, so........

CadyHeron · 10/06/2018 02:13

Johnnycomelately that would make sense, that could be funny as it's clearly not what really happened and they had a great time.
That'd be a joke to laugh at, OP's guest if real just sounds like a massive knob though and really shouldn't go into comedy lol

Puffycat · 10/06/2018 02:16

I reckon you need to think about the definition of ‘friend’

Assburgers · 10/06/2018 02:22

I think Johnny might be onto something.

What’s her sense of humour like generally, OP? Is it a bit... off the mark?

LapsedHumanist · 10/06/2018 02:24

Message her

“Dear CF

I regret to inform you that we must cancel your provisional booking in July. Unfortunately we have ceased trading as a result of a poor review, leading to a downturn in trade. This exacerbated an existing problem with non-paying customers.

May I wish you well in your future endeavours, especially with regard to securing future accommodation elsewhere.

Kind regards etc”

MrsDilber · 10/06/2018 03:43

Did op message back?

Really hoping she critiqued her house guest in return, don't yellow belly op.

Cousinit · 10/06/2018 04:14

Well this is one of the weirder things I've read on here. It's a very odd thing to do. I actually can't believe anyone could be so deliberately rude. I'm betting she was trying to be funny but missed the mark big time. Just explain to her how her post has made you feel and see what her reaction to that is. If she's any kind of a friend she will be mortified. Let us know what she says!

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 10/06/2018 04:22

You have to respond to this OP somehow. She’s making you look a right mug and hurting your feelings to boot.

No excuse.

TryingToForgeAnewLife · 10/06/2018 05:09

Have you messaged her OP?

KeiTeNgeNge · 10/06/2018 05:18

I hope you used a response like OKKI’s rather than Wow though

senua · 10/06/2018 05:41

"Well, this isn't the usual bread-and-butter letter I get from guests when they come to stay.Hmm
To those of you who have 'liked' this comment: I can't wait to see the reviews that you get when CF comes to stay with you ... assuming that anyone ever invites again her for a visit after reading this."

GinPink · 10/06/2018 06:09

What a cheeky bitch! I literally have NO time for people like this. I'm angry for you and would be replying with a simple 'well, you can fuck right off and pay for a hotel next time.'

Pengggwn · 10/06/2018 06:12

I wouldn't reply with any sort of sarcasm. Clearly she thinks this is funny when it's just incredibly rude.
I would PM her asking her to take down the post and telling her utterly hurtful I found it. Then I would never have her round to my house again.

echt · 10/06/2018 06:29

I agree with other posters that the CF possibly has an irony deficiency, so any witty ripostes on FB could be construed as getting the "joke". Far better to front her with how hurtful and out of order her comments were. And how they rule out future accommodations by the OP.

Ninabean17 · 10/06/2018 06:33

How rude!! I hope you spoke to her op, don't let her get away with this!

ParellelReality · 10/06/2018 06:38

Oh come on now.

Beaverhausen · 10/06/2018 06:40

@Biscusting have you confronted her? I would even if it is a joke , it is disgusting doing something like that when you went out of your way to make her feel welcome. And i would definitely rescind her invitation for the next event.

Mummyoflittledragon · 10/06/2018 06:42

How hurtful. I’m sure you’re never going to have her to stay again. Much as I would want to post something witty in return, I wouldn’t.

summerinrome · 10/06/2018 06:44

I would definitely leave a comment
'sorry your stay was underwhelming and we failed to deliver an entertaining weekend. I have heard the local hotel has better reviews. I suggest you book to go there in July. Regards Biscuiting.'

whymewhyme · 10/06/2018 06:47

Jesus she sound like a wannabe travel blogger with a massive personality disorder lol

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 10/06/2018 06:52

I would respond to her post on her wall so all her friends see it. I’m quite blunt so would say something like ‘I hope you all realise this is my home that X is slagging off, having invited herself to stay. Interestingly as bad as she seems to have found it, she’s still happy to take advantage of the free accommodation again when she wants to go to xxx’
Maybe not your style but I couldn’t let this one go