To think DH shouldn’t have his previous wedding albums on our shelf

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Amongst other albums he has on his ex wife and ex girlfriends he lived with. Yes he’s allowed to have had a life before me, but our guests sometimes rummage through the albums and I feel embarrassed he still has them so visible. He gets aggressive when I ask him to remove them. He took a book and slapped me on the face :(

If he's slapping you,I think you have bigger problems than some photo albums.

He hit you? This is far more significant than old photos.

He hit you with a book? Next time it could be a hammer. Get out now.

A photo album is the least of your troubles. You need to get away from him, he's abusing you.

Wtf

Honey the photos are nothing compared the the slapping and the aggression. That is a real worry - you shouldn't be with someone who hits you.

Fuck the wedding albums, your husband is an abusive cunt.
LTB

Erm, I think you have bigger problems than just the photos, although having photos of his ex’s around is definitely not acceptable!

He sounds awful! Has he been violent before? How long have you been together?

Listen to the others, he is physically abusing you.

I hear you OP, my husband refuses to put his dishes in the dishwasher and when I ask him he stabs me.

Before I got to the slapping part I was already wondering what sort of man keeps the wedding album - keeps it on display in his new home and also has multiple albums . I could only think it was a domineering person who wanted to flaunt their previous conquests.

Seems I was right. You have problems bigger than any old wedding album.

How often have you been putting up with this abuse for?

As others have said his abusive reaction is the major issue, whether or not you had a justified complain is really irrelevant.

If he hadn't hit you I would think it was a minor irritation. The fact that he has hit you , I would say he's a control freak and having the albums on show is probably one of many things he does to undermine your confidence.

You need to get away from him . Contact women's aid if you need help doing so .

Agree with others. What he did is not right and you deserve way better than this man, who sounds like an absolute bastard. Hope you find courage to leave and move on without him.

Why are you with someone who slaps you?

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That’s for women’s aid lovely
If you are local to me I can come and help you but you can’t stay
Do you have DC?

You need to add your own album to the ex shelf and leave him. Slapping is never ok.

Yes I suspect his exs are ex for very good reason!

He says he loves me, he’s kind to me most of the time when I don’t put demands on him. It’s true he thinks I’m nagging him and nowadays whatever I say he either ignores me or responds aggressively. We have two DCs, once I said the older he’s become the more impatient. He started slam the door in front of our DCs (1 and 3,5). They were scared and cried. I took the children into another room and locked ourselves in there. He kicked the door and shouted. An hour later he said I made him aggressive and I should be the one apologising to our DC for daddy’s behaviour.

I need to leave don’t I?

He’s still away, the photo album happened some weeks ago. I was just wondering if it’s normal. The albums are still lingering.

Simple answer - yes. Leave,

You need to call the police and then he can leave.

Do events have to happen on the very same hour that you post? Or you can’t have after thoughts about events. Stop troll hunting