To have had enough with today's self obsessed culture

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I feel like all we see now is people taking pictures of themselves on every opportunity, speaking about how they feel, what they did, why they did it, where they are, what they achieved, where they went etc etc.
What ever happened to doing something because you wanted to or just enjoy it.
Who are we proving ourselves to? At we really ever doing anything for ourselves?
Does anyone ever just look at things and say -why?!?!!?!?!??!

For me- gym pics and hospital tags are the worst, along with selfies for no reason what so ever!!!

YANBU!! I find it really annoying as well! I wonder if it’ll pass and we’ll look back on it in ten or twenty years and think, what were we thinking?!

Oh yes, and what’s scary is that a lot of this stuff starts on social media but then also trickles down to real life conversations... people are becoming incredibly boastful and self obsessed.

Read 'Selfie' by Will Storr.

YANBU - I think social media is the fucking downfall of society. And any self respecting adult that selfies all the fucking time gets defriended in real life too. I'm absolutely sick of the "look at me, aren't I fantastic" bullshit that goes with facebook, instagram, snapchat etc.

Life now seems to be all about self promotion, oneupmanship and the shameless need to have their egos stroked by online strangers telling them how fabulous they are. I'm really bloody grateful that I live on a tiny island and can block myself from it somewhat.

The selfies are just the worst, full length with the phone, pouting and simpering. But then the comments - everybody lauding your obvious self obsession. I do not get it.

I just think -vein, narcissistic.

You had to ask...

speaking about how they feel,

I feel like

Oh look at you,talking about how you feel on social media. Ooops.

Unfriend
Unfollow
Block
Scroll past

HTH.

Today's self obsessed culture? Humans have been self obsessed as long as we've existed. People literally used to sit for hours upon end having paintings of themselves done. It's nothing new, it's just more visible.

Whywhywhy. Wasn't that mostly just the rich. I'm sure that other people were busy with children or out working. I feel it's got a lot worse since the phone. I miss the days before the phone camera.

speaking about how they feel
Oh good lord, surely people don't talk about their feelings do they, where's that Victorian stiff upper lip?

YANBU. I'm in my 50s and FB seems full of middle-aged people showing off. There'd be no FB tho without comments pics etc. But I raise abrow when I know people live ordinary lives but are striving to appear to have lives that are full of wonder daily. Everything is documented to the hilt and it's become so boring

I do have a few friends like that. I didn't realise they were that way before FB tho. Nowadays I make a conscious effort not to engage with it all. It makes my brain feel full. MN is enough.

I've got back into reading which is great, for me. _ I do have a social life. There was a time I was on FB far too much, scrolling endlessly. Never again

There's a dance exercise class I really want to try, but they film segments of class and put it on FB. It's as if you can't get peace from a camera anymore.

You are not as pissed off about it as I am. I'm very, very suck of it.

Sick of it. Jesus.

I agree, OP. They all seem to be looking for compliments. "gorgeous hun" and "beautiful! You should be a model" Makes me want to puke. The others that wind me up are "my gorgeous hubby" or "I'm the luckiest mummy in the world" no you're not, I am bleugh!

I agree. I keep things to myself. For e.g I'm on a diet and I'm pleased with how its going but I don't post regular f.b posts about losing weight. If its d.h birthday we celebrate it but i don't feel the need to put anything on f.b same with anniversaries. I never post selfies and those bloody filters uggh.

But I am guessing you see all this on social media?

Then that's your choice of material too then.

My life is not full of people posting selfies.

I must be visiting the wrong sites.

Oh look at you,talking about how you feel on social media

Well yes, exactly. I'm assuming you can't see the irony?

But I am guessing you see all this on social media?

And this, how do you see it if you aren't looking? I seldom look at people's social media, so personally I don't have a problem with it. If you don't like it honestly just stop looking.

Our parents/grandparents went through the war and did/experienced extraordinary things. They shaped history. They are so self-effacing and modest, and yes, stiff upper lip about it all.

This obsessive selfie lot are so vacuous and must lead very empty lives but are (self?) deluding that they don't.

You need new friends! My Facebook page isn't like this!
I know what you are saying though, Some of my DC's friends on instagram post several posed selfies a day. Absolutely obsessed with their looks.

...and their shallow lives.

YANBU

I have never ever taken a selfie in my life! My FB profile pic is one that a friend took of me years ago, and I don't change it. Very occasionally have been roped into a group selfie by my teenage daughters if we have been out somewhere, but I have never taken a photograph of myself and posted it online. To me it seems like a very vain thing to do. My mum used to say that you shouldn't fish for compliments, and to me that's what people seem to be doing when they post a photo of themselves - which is usually followed by a dozen comments along the lines of 'gorgeous hun' and a million likes. To me, it would just feel ridiculous doing this at my age (40) and I have no reason to need my ego stroking several times a week (or day). I also think people are so much more egocentric than they used to be, and think that everything should revolve around them. I have FB mainly for networking (helps me keep in touch with other dance teachers on various groups and pages) to keep in touch with more distant relatives and friends and to promote my business locally, but I rarely post on my own wall as people don't need to see if I have changed since yesterday, or what I am having for lunch.

It has its good and bad sides. I do think it makes people think of what things will look like on social media rather than living in the moment and that's not healthy, and it can give the illusion of social contact, without meaningful social contact.

Some of how we take it is down to attitude towards it. I'm personally pleased for my friends and like sharing their lives, I've never though 'Ugh, these people are pretending to have these perfect lives, what a load of crap', and if fact my friends share plenty of 'I have a house full of sick kids' and 'It's rained the entire week we've been here and the sun's just come on the morning we leave', so I don't find things too contrived. Might be different with younger people, IDK.