To have had enough with today's self obsessed culture

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I feel like all we see now is people taking pictures of themselves on every opportunity, speaking about how they feel, what they did, why they did it, where they are, what they achieved, where they went etc etc.
What ever happened to doing something because you wanted to or just enjoy it.
Who are we proving ourselves to? At we really ever doing anything for ourselves?
Does anyone ever just look at things and say -why?!?!!?!?!??!

For me- gym pics and hospital tags are the worst, along with selfies for no reason what so ever!!!

I am lucky in that only a few of the people on my FB friends list do any stupid selfies, that are there for no particular reason.

Don't think I've ever seen a selfie of anybody looking like shit and feeling like shit,proclaiming reality.

You need to be friends with one of my friends then! She does do selfies, and usually there is a point to them.

The past 12 months have been hell for her. She has one of the BRCA genes, so she had a mastectomy followed by implants. She took many selfies of her journey. She rarely looked anywhere near human. The latest ones she looks back to her old self though, wearing a T-Shirit saying 'Yes, they are fake. My real ones were trying to kill me.'

The people I am friends with on SM who post those stupid photos with those bunny ears, aren't my friends as such. Mostly parents of my kids friends, that I befriend on there for another way to keep in touch.

Haha yes, I don't like her at all She's very generous and fair but so irritating!

There is definitely a virtue signalling element to the majority of these people though. You just have to look on this thread to see that.

And honestly, you all pretend that people didn't say they were happy when they weren't before social media!

It's really helped form local community

But has it? I am on FB and a member of many groups, and 'met' people I wouldn't have met any other way. However, I wouldn't drink with them, ask them for any meaningful help or advice. In fact, I can't think of anyone I would ask for any of that.

But I live in a small community, and even after 8 years living here, I still feel like an outsider. I am not the only one, as others who have moved here say they feel the same.

I agree op. I hate it. Just seems like absolutely everyone everywhere is a bloody poser! It's so vain and embarrassing and is it just me or are women in particular starting to all look the same, really fake looking, lips, eyebrows etc, is no one proud to be natural anymore? Sure I wear makeup even day to day, but I have my own identity!

Yep I’m with you OP. And certain acquaintances posting constant uplifting and positive quotes every day like they are now some sort of life coach. Stupid things like “she dreamt she could so she did”. Oh piss off you self righteous air heads. Drives me insane. You can live with a positive attitude without ranking it down everyone else necks.

I even have an old uni friend who has actually now become a life coach, and has a life coach boyfriend and they post sickening videos of themselves rambling on about how he brings out her divine feminine and she encourages him to embrace his masculinity. Makes me want to puke. I also feel like you should have a certain amount of life experience before doing something like this. If you’ve had the most perfect upper middle class upbringing in a nuclear family where you all love each other and get on, I’m not sure how qualified you can be to advise on dealing with life problems.

Anyway, rant over.

Ramming not ranking

is it just me or are women in particular starting to all look the same, really fake looking, lips, eyebrows etc, is no one proud to be natural anymore? Sure I wear makeup even day to day, but I have my own identity!

My case in point.

blah blah blah other women look the same, blah blah blah not me though

Even if it's never as extreme as my ex-friend, it always comes out.

She sounds bloody annoying roses but not all non selfie types are like that !

Tit the words "life coach" cue to block.

All my friends are normal so not exposed to this bar one MLM neighbour who posts lots of "follow your dreams" you can do it etc seems her dream is flogging make up to long suffering friends and family

Gone, well obviously I can't speak for you

My experience has been great, especially as I was sick of the Sod's law rule that the only people you like at work live the other side of London

I'm in a London suburb and the local group who will do pub or whatever - and help each other - ranges from people in 20s to 80s. We have local people here for drinks quite often. I volunteer and did that long before social media but it connected me to a small group of people who I could only get to know if I actually asked them to meet up without knowing much about them. Great thing about social media is we can all see each other and chat a bit there first before suggesting drinks.

I've lived in different London boroughs and always knew my immediate neighbours but when you work long hours and commute, it doesn't get much beyond a quick chat when you happen to bump into each other.

I'm not friends with anyone posting endless selfies though, and I do Twitter rather than Facebook, which seems massively different.

She sounds bloody annoying roses but not all non selfie types are like that !

Well honestly - yes they are, for the most part

Hardly anyone (if anyone) on this thread has said "they're just not my thing." In real life you never hear anyone say that either because it's a bloody pathetic thing to brag about It's always about how sad it is, how vain everyone is, how they pity other women, really, because clearly they have low self esteem or have bought into the patriarchy because they post photos!

Lots of nasty comments about cleavage/pouting too. Or how people don't just "enjoy the moment" Everybody enjoyed moments before and, if they could, took photographs of said enjoyable moments to help them remember them! Only thing is, there was nothing as readily available as a mobile to record things like concerts.

If it's not that, it's about how they don't talk to each other; like anti-social people were invented by Instagram!

It's usually a cloak for misogyny, insecurity, or both IME. This thread hasn't changed my mind one bit.

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I love this poem about the differences between the past and present in terms of social media and photos etc. It's very true and I don't envy today's teens growing up surrounded by it.

@bobstersmum I don't wear makeup at all. I have more personal identity than you!

I overheard a pregnant woman a while ago talking about how she had booked a photographer for the birth.......

My memory has been affected by several things so without SM I would not even remember half the fun things I have actually done. If anything it helps pick me up during those times when I think I've achieved nothing.

I don't get why people are complaining that others only post the exciting stuff whilst at the same time moaning when they post about dull stuff like diets or lunch

YANBU ... I laughed like a drain when Zuckerburg explained that the reason he wears the same t shirt jeans and trainers everyday is because he doesn't like to have to think about what to wear and can concentrate on the "important" things.

Why do they always take the selfies in the toilets - I mean as in at the wash basin mirror!! The preening has gone on for ever. I remember when I was a chalet girl back in the mid-90s - way long before phones were the norm. Anyway the Ski-bums were doing a big video of all the saisonnaires and the guy with the camera....his apartment overlooked the male toilets of the local nightclub....cue one male rep who kept preening himself in front of the mirror...then pretended to wash his hands every time someone walked in. This went on for 5 mins! To the Soundtrack of ‘I’m too sexy for my shirt’. Great hilarity!

I think we are going to have screwed up kids as a result of the ‘selfie generation’.

I laughed like a drain when Zuckerburg explained that the reason he wears the same t shirt jeans and trainers everyday is because he doesn't like to have to think about what to wear and can concentrate on the "important" things.

Because someone who works in modern technology can't have an important job And it's not like Mark Zuckerberg has to consider filtering, privacy settings, company policies or the jobs of the 30,000 odd employees he manages!

Selfies taken in the toilet are hilarious, especially if the toilet seat is up and can be seen in the pic . It just looks silly !

I think we are going to have screwed up kids as a result of the ‘selfie generation’.

People often say this.

I'm perplexed as to why they would be more disadvantaged than we were. If anything they'd be better off.

'I'm a lovely mummy with two aDORable children and an aMAZing husband' translates to 'I'm stuck at home, with two bratty kids and he's playing away.'
It used to be considered very bad manners to brag and to compliment yourself and say how wonderful a life you had achieved. Who's interested? 'Do what thou wilt and be silent', should be the whole of the law, to quote the old ways.

rosesandflowers alright but facebook isn't really important and in the end doesn't really matter

I agree, I am sick and tired of all the 'me' culture. I think the media makes it so much worse, but the idea of doing something quietly for others has gone out of the window. Everyone is obsessed with image and seems to need attention for everything they do. Sometimes I wish I could just live like a hermit in a cave somewhere remote. Everything has gone crazy.

I know what you mean OP. I go in a well known coffee shop regularly,and there is a huge mirror on one of the walls. Countless times while I'm in there,I see customers stopping in front of it and admiring themselves,some of them I swear are practically drooling over their own reflection. I said to my DD not long ago,when did all this self-love start? There's nothing wrong with being self confident,up to a degree,but nowadays it seems to be taken to another level,with countless selfies. When I was in my late teens and at college (early 1980s),you were considered to be vain and self-interested if you looked in the mirror more than a couple of times a day. Now everywhere I go,there are people loving themselves in the mirror. I wonder why some of them bother having a relationship with someone else,they are obviously so in love with themselves.

Spot on OP.

As well as that , it’s also the entitlement.

It’s all about me dahling.........

It used to be considered very bad manners to brag and to compliment yourself and say how wonderful a life you had achieved.

Haha - I recently wrote a paper on this. How we view modesty - aka, self deprecation - as good manners, and many people from older generations still do. I actually discussed social media for a lot of it and how many people dislike the aspect where people actually recognise that they look nice, or they bought a cute outfit, or have done well, or had a nice holiday.

I think it's absolutely gobsmacking. Poor manners to know that you are worth something. How sad.

I'd rather be stuck in a room with a group of happy, confident people telling me about all of the wonderful things they've done than a group of mumblers unable to admit that they're wearing nice shoes. Had a friend like this. If she ever said she'd done something well, she'd slip it in to the conversation in a "sly" but embarrassingly transparent way.

facebook isn't really important and in the end doesn't really matter

Are you keeping up with the news?

A place where over a billion people are sharing, liking, commenting on etc. on posts is pretty important even if you don't factor in what the posts are. Global issues, social issues, campaigns, pornography, graphic content, extremist content etc. etc.