To have had enough with today's self obsessed culture

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I feel like all we see now is people taking pictures of themselves on every opportunity, speaking about how they feel, what they did, why they did it, where they are, what they achieved, where they went etc etc.
What ever happened to doing something because you wanted to or just enjoy it.
Who are we proving ourselves to? At we really ever doing anything for ourselves?
Does anyone ever just look at things and say -why?!?!!?!?!??!

For me- gym pics and hospital tags are the worst, along with selfies for no reason what so ever!!!

*viewed, apologies

I don't Snapchat or insta, but I do love me FB. It keeps me in contact with friends and family that I don't get to see much of because I don't have time and keeps a connection. Yes, I have a few that selfie a lot and the constant Snapchat filters are ridiculous if you're an adult, but I don't see it as my place to just judge. I'm middle aged and I sometimes selfie with the kids or the dog and they often become my FB profile. Fishing posts are annoying where a random hospital pic is posted or a vague status and then all you get is pm me. If you don't want to tell the world, then don't post to social media just started for sympathy!!

You are right, some people seem to put the minute details of their existence on some form of social media …. strange, sad and I feel pity for them. Shame they cannot live the moment without a selfie stick and social media

I went out a week ago for a hen party. In fairness I haven’t been out like that for while I’ve got two kids one of which is just a baby. So off I go there was about 20 of us including the bride I know maybe 5 people. I’m 35 so quite a few were younger. All they did was take pictures of themselves and look at the phone all night. In fact most were posted on FB within an hour of them taking them.

What I find funny about these posts is the eagerness to show you're somehow "better" . Be it by having to mention how sad and pathetic it is,how you pity them, how they're all the same but you are an individual, how they must be lacking this and that,how they must be missing out on life and whatever other nonsense.

All this faux concern and highlighting you superiority (be it of morals,mental strength,privacy etc ) makes you just as needy and "look at me " as the over posters.

I usually find that the more selfies someone puts up the more their life is falling apart the seams irl. My DSIS feed is full of selfies of her and her wonderful love of her life. This wonderful man ripped her passport on yesterday to stop her going on holiday because he got jealous. It’s just a sad attempt to pretend everything’s ok and life is wonderful.
All of these selfies tend to be filtered do much that people look like aliens even the youngsters who look great in pictures anyway and filtering all their features away.
People are more selfish and self obsessed the whole ‘self care’ business is often just a mask for pleasing yourself and not giving a shit about who else it negatively impacts too, because you’ve just got to live life your way hun.

YANBU. I was thinking exactly the same thing today after looking at Facebook. I can’t believe how people put on photos of everything they do and it’s just a constant massive show off fest!! The great time they are having on holiday, how great their kids are, how drunk they got last night and how bloody fantastic their lives are!!!! Aaargh it’s so shallow. It makes me so sad to see how people seem much more interested in themselves than in what else is going on in the world. 100 years since the suffragette movement but the turn out at elections is pitiful. (Too busy taking selfies & showing off than to keep democracy alive) ooh I sound so cynical !!

I have had several Xmas letters from acquaintances- a Pastor, a Uni Professor and a Solicitor in which they summarise their year in particular their and their children’s achievements. My friends and I have always considered these people to insufferable bores. I have been personally a bit irritated because the achievements are nothing compared to my own family's. (I feel free to say this as this is anonymised) I wouldn’t post how well my family is doing in case someone else is having a really difficult time and I wonder why people do this. Who are they trying to impress? Or are they looking for some affirmation to compensate for their inadequacy. I think the Facebook thing is the same. Why do people crave those ‘likes’. Bit of reflection and self examination might be revealing.

Humans are self obsessed. We are trying to find our place in the world and understand ourselves. It’s natural and normal. Social media just makes it more obvious to others.

i totally agree
especially the camera clicking away in everyone's face every two minutes
i as parents at baby and toddler classes blocking everyone else's view because they have to photo every second of thier child's life
..,
poor kids i think
thinking the moms face looks like the back of a phone

How miserable are some of you!
I LOVE that people post selfies, and talk about how amazing they are, that women compliment each other and tell each other how amazing they are. I love seeing pictures of people having fun with their friends, OH and children. It's wonderful that people share so much joy. I love seeing people sharing how they feel, about themselves, politics - anything really, because I like hearing other people's views

Yes you get the odd person who over shares, but I've found tbe unfriend button very helpful for that! It's THEIR profile to post whatever the hell they want, if you don't like it then you just unfriend them - don't whinge about it!

that women compliment each other and tell each other how amazing they are.

But those comments are worthless as they are forced and insincere.
Also, those same women will be just as quick to run another woman down if she looks like shit.

Also, those same women will be just as quick to run another woman down if she looks like shit.

You don't think women are capable of sincerely complimenting other women?

Sounds like you're projecting.

We are not much without the holiday, the activities, the clothes and accessories we use to make ourselves more exciting.

I love to see big events, birth, first day at school, graduating and marriage, the milestones in life.

If I tell a woman she's beautiful or amazing or inspiring I absolutely do mean it!

I'm sorry if you've experienced differently and even sorrier if your compliments aren't sincere

@SimonBridges I don't have the patience or the will for insincere compliments. I'm a grumpy anti social sod so of I pay someone a compliment, on line or in real life, I mean it.

Oh what a load of crap. If you don’t like it then unfollow or delete said people. My daughter has a rare medical condition. I share details of her hospital appointments on Facebook, mainly to raise awareness and also for family who live thousands of miles away. I never take a pouty selfie but I do take selfies of me with my children. I also take photos of them on holidays and days out. It doesn’t mean I’m shallow, or that my life is shit. They’re memories. I don’t share photos of my food, or my latest hair cut or whatever but if people want to do that then let them be. People are too quick to pull others apart now rather than build them up. If a friend of mine posts a photo and I tell them they look beautiful then I mean it.
I don’t have many photos of myself on family holidays or even just at home as a child. And I can’t remember some of the holidays. You can still enjoy time as a family and take photos. I have hundreds, possibly thousands, of my children but just because I take photos of them doesn’t mean I’m not spending quality time with them. It takes seconds to take a photo that I will cherish forever.
If you don’t like it don’t look 🤷🏻‍♀️

There's nothing modern about it, only that the modern technology makes it possible.
That said, we went for a nice cliff walk yesterday and I got a hiking rage, seeing a group of tourists, each with a selfie stick, taking a video of them walking instead of admiring the nice surroundings. I felt like ripping that stick off their paws and beating them with it. The sun is shining, it's beautiful, the views were astounding and feel like there's nothing better to save on camera than your stupid mug, you moron?!

I do find this trend for posting selfies from a hospital bed with tubes coming out, drips going in etc, both ghoulish and inexplicable. If I was sick in hospital the last thing I'd want is a photo on FB!!

You don't think women are capable of sincerely complimenting other women?

Of course I do.
But some people post selfies so everyone will tell them how great they look.
I guess I’m thinking of the - ‘look at me having just got out of bed’ when the truth is that she’s spent an hour on her make up - posts which are clearly just fishing for compliments.

I'm sorry if you've experienced differently and even sorrier if your compliments aren't sincere
I’ve not experienced anything as I’ve never posted a selfie.

I think there are two different kind of selfies.
There is the with your family or friends at an event type post and the posed and duckface posts.
No problem with the former, no time for the latter.

I love photos, memories etc but it's the' oh I feel like taking a pic of myself, il put 20 filters on and post it for no reason' pics. They really grate on me!
It's not a memory or an occasion you want to remember, it's a fishing moment for a self obsessed person.

Someone on my Facebook actually put a pic up of herself on her anniversary with a caption of 'Happy anniversary to me, here's me on my special day' 😩😩😩

It's the random tags, not the actual visits that I dislike. I appreciate social media is actually a brilliant tool for awareness and have used it myself. I'm referring to actually check ins to hospital followed by 20 comments asking if they're ok.
Again, majorly attention seeking- look at me.

I'd rather be stuck in a room with a group of happy, confident people

Loud and self-promoting are not the same as happy and confident. People going on endless about how great they are isn't good manners by any stretch. It's boring. 'Look at ME!' Look at ME!' Lots of the comments here have said how tedious this attitude is. Someone who is the best doesn't need to say so.

I feel like (ha! see what I did there) people are being forced into a culture of self promotion. I don't find it annoying, I just think there's tremendous pressure on people (especially teenagers) to have promote themselves to 'get ahead.' whatever 'get ahead' even means! Even my DDs head teacher, who is fab, says the words 'success' and 'achieve' over and over, without it being attached to any concept in particular. It's just a vague notion of 'succeeding.' Everyone is terrified of being a 'failure' whilst not even being sure what they are 'failing' at. I think these words should be banned from the face of the earth!!