To have had enough with today's self obsessed culture

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I feel like all we see now is people taking pictures of themselves on every opportunity, speaking about how they feel, what they did, why they did it, where they are, what they achieved, where they went etc etc.
What ever happened to doing something because you wanted to or just enjoy it.
Who are we proving ourselves to? At we really ever doing anything for ourselves?
Does anyone ever just look at things and say -why?!?!!?!?!??!

For me- gym pics and hospital tags are the worst, along with selfies for no reason what so ever!!!

I have a lady on my facebook page, same age as me 34. Who takes and puts on facebook about 10-15 selfies per day. I've known her from school and I do like her otherwise, I unfollowed her but I do check every so often because I am interested in what she's doing... but she's still doing the selfie thing so I haven't followed her again.

I have no problem with people putting pictures up on FB but it’s the heavily filtered duck face fishing ones that puss me off. My DSIS is terrible for this and if I don’t write something positive on every picture she’ll phone me up and ask why I haven’t commented.

Delete Facebook
Delete Instagram
Delete Snapchat
Delete any other offending apps

I can’t imagine why anyone downloaded these apps in the first place.

To be so self confident must be wonderful! I hide from the camera. My sons friends (late teens), can post a couple of hundred photos over a weekend, I doubt there are anywhere near so many pictures of me in existence and I'm 55. I do think there's an age when you start to look a bit daft for adding those floral crowns, big sunglasses and such to your photos though...

I can’t imagine why anyone downloaded these apps in the first place

Because I get a lot of enjoyment out of them.
Because I make my living out of them.

Your social media experience is totally in your hands. It is so easy to make the experience positive.

YANBU, I agree completely. I deleted my FB last year for this reason. I can’t stand people checking in at the hospital with no explanation so a ream of people will respond with ‘omg u ok Hun? PM me’ type comments. Who even thinks to check in at the hospital or take a pic of their hospital band/drip . I had one person on FB who took a pic of her having a blood test FFS. Some people have no self awareness.

I am so pleased to see that it’s not just me thinking this way! Glad to see that common sense and a sense of humility still prevail.

Solo Sat 09-Jun-18 01:56:28
I agree, OP. They all seem to be looking for compliments. "gorgeous hun" and "beautiful! You should be a model" hmm Makes me want to puke. The others that wind me up are "my gorgeous hubby or "I'm the luckiest mummy in the world" no you're not, I am bleugh!

yup, every word of that. I unfollow anyone who breaches my rules.

I not really bothered with what other people do and my fb feed isn't full of people in the pouting selfies that you describe. I do take the occasional selfie myself though tbh because if I didn't, there'd be no photos of me at all - my husband never thinks to take any and I'd hate for my children to be looking through the albums in 30 years' time unable to find a picture of my face or of them and me together or wondering why I never joined in the day trips or holidays. Yes that might be self absorbed but I do like the idea of there being some record of my existence when I've gone.

The ones that REALLY annoy me, are the ones where someone posts a selfie (admittedly looking gorgeous) and cue the “beautiful” “gorgeous hun” or the ever trusty “😍 mwah”

THEN comes the reply from the poster of said selfie........ “oh no, not my best day/bad hair day, I look a mess etc”

NO YOU DONT THINK THAT AT ALL! As if you did, you wouldn’t have posted a selfie. Don’t pretend that this wasn’t your 300th shot taken, or that you tried every filter on your phone you have to come up with this pic.

Loud and self-promoting are not the same as happy and confident.

No?

Because everyone on this thread that appears anti social media sounds absolutely miserable.

Almost everybody I know posting pictures of themselves looking cute or nights out with friends or holidays or charity work or nice food are always reasonably happy and fulfilled. And they generally don't devote any of their time complaining about people who don't take selfies or post on social media.

OK sure roses that sounds likely [hmmm]

It's just a vague notion of 'succeeding.'

I think success nowadays means success in everything. When we were growing up "beauty or brains", "work or home", "yourself or others"; these ideas of it being a binary were much bigger. though people clearly still buy into this shit, especially in the older generation, as evidenced by many in this thread They also don't necessarily view success in conventional lines of work as the only form of it.

I think that's an excellent thing, personally.

that sounds likely

What has you so flabbergasted?

My point that people who are happy to share achievements/nice things/ pretty pictures are more likely to be confident and happy and talk about their success in real life?

Or that people who post on social media generally don't care whatsoever if you don't?

I'm not sure which one is more telling!

What has you so flabbergasted?

Who is flabbergasted? Not me.

I think you come across very bad tempered and very unlike a happy, confident person. And that you cannot possibly know that everyone who boasts on social media (let's call it what it is, social ineptitude) who is "genuinely" happy.

I think your post made sweeping assertions and that what you profess to "know" is nonsense.

That clearer?

I think your post made sweeping assertions and that what you profess to "know" is nonsense.

Much clearer, yes! What I'm not clear on is what you think is "nonsense."

Do you disagree that anyone who spends a lot of time moaning about people posting online often online, ironically is probably unhappy or bored or insecure or unfulfilled?

Do you disagree that people who think it is genuinely a bad thing to say/know that they look good, or are doing good things, or are having a good time will generally be more confident and happy within themselves?

Do you disagree that people who post selfies don't scroll through their friends lists to see who hasn't posted them, and then mock them or care in any way?

Do you disagree that someone who gets upset of attractive pictures of other people, or posts that suggest they have had a nice experience, is probably very insecure to be affected?

Do you disagree that anybody who slut shames girls on social media is embodying ideals that are misogynistic?

Do you disagree that the "I'm not like other girls" mindset is telling of internalised misogyny?

Do you disagree that you control what comes up on your feed?

If not, what exactly is it that you disagree with?

I think you come across very bad tempered and very unlike a happy, confident person.

I am very happy and confident, thank you.

But it's possible that I'm coming across as "bad tempered", because I genuinely cannot stand people who whine about this. I can't stand people with internalised misogyny. I strongly dislike anyone who projects their own insecurity into everyone else's life. Uneducated/ignorant people make me want to bang my head against a wall. People who go on tangents about social media generally are a delightful mix of all three! I'd much rather mix with loads of people complimenting each other's clothes and accepting the compliments wholeheartedly and giving good restaurant and health/food tips and talking about wonderful holidays and experiences than anybody like that.

Totally agree roses, couldn't have said it better!

Thank you

Good to know I'm not alone in this train of thought. People who genuinely think the way some people do on this thread are exhausting.

Sweet cheeks - I have loads of selfies, mostly because I like messing with makeup and I work as a model. So yeah I take photos, I use my Facebook as a business one too so have other models and photographers on it
I also have a rescue cat I adore that is the other half of me. Cats protection rehomed this scruffy black sneezing cat with me. He's no longer sneezing and I love the bones of him

Do you disagree that anyone who spends a lot of time moaning about people posting online often online, ironically is probably unhappy or bored or insecure or unfulfilled?

I’ve spent about 2 minutes of my life posting on this thread.
People who post pictures fishing for compliments do it several times a day every day.

I always remember this bbc documentary a few years ago where they interviewed a ww2 veteran. His story was quite unbelievable- he had parachuted into Germany and been captured and tied to the front of a tank at one point.

But he "didn't like to talk about if"- definitely meaning he didn't want to talk about himself, rather than that he was traumatised by the events.

It makes me nauseous to think that by comparison, today's generation thinks that everyone needs to know about what they're eating or how their hair looks. It's depressing. Bunch of vacuous self obsessed people. Sigh

I do selfies all the time with my children. If I didn't there wouldn't be any pictures of me with my children or very few. However I don't ever put these pics on social media. I'm not against selfies but I don't feel the need to share them.

Most of the people I know with the most interesting lives aren't on Facebook or if they are, they rarely post anything. Because, well they are living their lives rather than needing affirmation from other people. I have a few holidays a year and am out at least a few nights a week but no-one outside my actual group of friends would know as there is no record of this on social media.

Roses - thats a long post for someone who says long posts are for people who are unhappy

indeed lethal. Seems an odd topic to get so het about. Only one fb friend posts constant selfies I think she is quite unhappy and insecure. No other 40 plus women I know seems to do more than one or two a year. That said my dh has got into them and makes us do family selfies much to my 12 year olds mortification