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AIBU?

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To think she should have waited her turn?

216 replies

Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 18:20

We were at the supermarket and DS (3) was playing in one of those car rides that are often found there. He loves pretending to drive the car, but is terrified of it moving and making noises, so I never put money in them (tried it once and he got scared).

DS had been sitting in the driving seat for a minute or so when an older girl (about 5) came up with a pound in her hand and pushed in front of him to turn the car on. When the car started moving, he leapt out of it and started crying. I told him to just wait a couple of minutes until the girl was done. But I thought she should have waited her turn. Even though she was going to pay for the ride, she could have waited a bit and I would have told DS to give the girl her turn. She shouldn’t have pushed her way in front of DS. There was only one seat in the car so they couldn’t have both used it anyway. Her parents were nowhere to be seen. AIBU?

OP posts:
Carly46 · 10/06/2018 21:34

This is the strangest thing I’ve ever read🤣

Yogafanatic · 10/06/2018 21:49

First world problems!!!

LOliver123 · 10/06/2018 22:35

As another poster has said - the ride is for paying customers. The poor little girl seen it not moving - and probably thought my turn now. I don’t think you be using pay for rides , if you don’t intend to pay.

JUstme123456778 · 10/06/2018 22:39

@mrsm43s
Omg....are you for real???? Is that how you bring up your children???? Those poor children won’t know how to be kind, understanding and respectful. I feel for them but then again I think our society is changing and is mainly made up of spoiled brats that don’t have respect for anything or anyone. Thank you for contributing to this society.

JUstme123456778 · 10/06/2018 22:46

To be honest I don’t think YABU at all. She should have waited out of respect or at least ask for permission to use it. She shouldn’t have pushed your son out of the way. She’s 5 not 2.... she should have manners.
Unfortunately I know many children nowadays are spoiled brats and it’s nothing you can do about that.

Sarahrellyboo1987 · 10/06/2018 23:04

Maybe she thought she was being generous and was sharing the ride with your son.
Surly you would have had time to react when she was putting the money in...you usually have to press start etc

helsinkihelen · 11/06/2018 01:25

Omg I've seen everything now. An AIBU about a 5 year old. Ridiculous.

Birdsgottafly · 11/06/2018 02:01

For those mentioning manners, shouldn't we bring our children up to use the equipment provided, as it was meant to be, you can do what you want when no-one is about, but you move when there are others who want to use it properly.

Another example is a child sitting on top of the slide, not moving. Or running up and down it.

If a child was just sat on a swing, would we expect to have to queue?

huha · 11/06/2018 02:04

5 year olds have zero impulse control so YABU. As for the parents, perhaps they were at the checkout and coming?

Angharad07 · 11/06/2018 02:18

I don’t understand what this post is trying to achieve. Yes, she should have perhaps waited. But then again, you’re talking about a 5 year old. Are 5 year olds fully competent and rational, no. I thought that was common knowledge?

heytherehello · 11/06/2018 02:33

I'd be far more concerned about where her parents were! I'd imagine they could see her from a distance rather than let her go off completely on her own

But yeah, agree that young children haven't mastered the world of etiquette and aren't purposely bad mannered

likelyLilac · 11/06/2018 03:11

I think you've phrased it oddly, had you asked if her parents were unreasonable I think people wouldn't be so mean in their responses. She's little and doesn't have the full range of action consequence thinking and jumping in when your little boy was in there is rude. she should have asked and you should have given her the turn as she would be paying. It's unreasonable that the parents of a small child weren't around in a busy (I assume with a supermarket) public place.

healzam · 11/06/2018 04:37

She's 5!

Clubcuts · 11/06/2018 06:31

AIBU

YES

NO I AM NOT

Making OP even more unreasonable!

Hmm
JUstme123456778 · 11/06/2018 06:33

Yes using the equipment provided should be used but that’s not the point...the point is that one child pushed another child( younger than her) out of the way without even asking permission to use that equipment first. It’s rude inconsiderate and selfish.
Should we raise our children to be selfish or caring ?
Communication is important at all ages

TragicBoozyFlaccidClown · 11/06/2018 07:16

I wouldve expected the five year olds parents to be present and get her to wait for a minute while your son got down, it’s not unreasonable to expect that. 5 year olds don’t have much of their own self control

DuchyDuke · 11/06/2018 07:19

The ride is for PAYING customers.

MissP103 · 11/06/2018 07:26

This thread is pathetic and the op more so! Shes a 5yo child. Did you really just run here to write a thread on such a pretty issue to bitch about a 5yo child.

Marianne61 · 11/06/2018 07:34

I totally get that you didn't want to put any money in as your son would be scared But when the little girl came up you needed to explain to her. As the adult there you needed to speak up!

BitOutOfPractice · 11/06/2018 07:41

I don't understand OP. You say she "pushed him out of the way" to put the money in yet in the next sentence you say that he "he leapt out of it" when it started so he was still on it?

Perhaps she thought she was going to share with him?

And I think that if you're this het up about this incident, you're going to have a long and exhausting nursery / school life with your DS

morningconstitutional2017 · 11/06/2018 08:34

As your lad was in the seat she should have waited for him to get out before she put her money in, etc. Her behaviour sounds rather bullying - if she is like this in the playground it won't do her any favours, will it?

I wonder if her parents gave her the money and said to her, 'Go and play on your favourite car while we ...' she didn't expect it to be occupied and didn't process this properly.

Clubcuts · 11/06/2018 08:48

As your lad was in the seat she should have waited for him to get out before she put her money in, etc. Her behaviour sounds rather bullying - if she is like this in the playground it won't do her any favours, will it?

I wonder if her parents gave her the money and said to her, 'Go and play on your favourite car while we ...' she didn't expect it to be occupied and didn't process this properly.

She's a five year old who didn't see the car moving so in her mind it was sent being played on! So she puts her money in and says to kid on job moving vehicle, I've "paid" to play on this.

Dear god ..... bullying!!!

Clubcuts · 11/06/2018 08:49

Was sent = wasn't

And I think OP is massively over protective of PFB!

Thehogfather · 11/06/2018 09:34

Yabu. It doesn't even appear to be an innocent case of a 5yr old forgetting their manners and pushing in. It was a 5yr old following the normal rule that someone's turn is over when the ride stops. She can't be expected to automatically know your ds takes his turn differently.

Can't say the parents are automatically at fault either. Bet they were at a checkout and could see her. They too won't be aware pfb takes his turn with it still. So all they saw was somebody who had already had their turn, or who didn't intend to have a turn at all, and probably wondered why you didn't move him soon as you saw she had money.

Juells · 11/06/2018 09:41

your ds takes his turn differently.

He wasn't taking a turn.